How long did you wait to have sex after birth?

sailfish20 · November 2011

My hubby and I just did it over the weekend it has been a really long time since we last did it. We're talking like late July and the LO was born Aug 24. I really wasnt in the mood but I figured our dry spell had to end and soon.

How was your first time? For me it was ok. No real pain or anything like that. I just wasnt in the mood.

Kated1023 · November 2011

We only waited 3 1/2 weeks (which I'm kind of embarrassed to say because that sounds gross). I was lucky enough to have healed very quickly. I was taking little one for walks a couple days after he was born. It wasn't crazy sex by any means, but it was good.

Matt Dvorak · November 2011

6 weeks - waited until after the post partum dr's apt. It hurt a little bit (I had an episiotomy) but it wasn't terrible, and no pain after the second time or so.

catahoulatte · November 2011

We did after my 6 week PP checkup. DH texted me on the way home from my appointment and I told him I got the all clear. He met me at home with champagne and chocolate Wink

MeghanS6 · November 2011

We waited about the same amount of time that you did. We wanted to earlier but my husband works two jobs and with a newborn at home it was a bit difficult. I'm so glad we finally ended our dry spell though! It was definitely a little painful and different but just as good as before, but definitely different!

Duffgurl · November 2011

Well I was very eagered to have sex again but we waited for 6week appt. when I got the clear from Dr. When we made love it was wondeful but it did hurt a little...DH did make sure to take it easy but now its fantastic!

BabyQuizzle · November 2011

We waited about a month I think . . . I didn't have any tearing so I was pretty much back to normal a day or two after having DD. But it was just a matter of being scared it would hurt. But it was fine, like a PP said, nothing crazy but pretty good. Things are finally getting really good again though since DD is STTN consistently and we are rested.

JenJune3 · November 2011

We waited a month. I felt good and the stitches had already dissolved. No pain whatsoever.

etoyama · November 2011

We waited until 11 weeks pp because I was too nervous! It hurt, but not too badly. Lots of lube is key for sure.

missjilly1025 · November 2011

I still haven't. I have been so overwhelmed by baby that I just haven't been in the mood my poor hubby.

meganjane86 · November 2011

I'll let you know when we finally do it Sad

I had a really bad tear, then the pain came back, and now we're just terrified of getting pregnant again... it sucks.

brittas · November 2011

8 weeks. It hurt. I'm never in the mood! Maybe he will get lucky over the holiday weekend!

EllenK11 · November 2011

I waited the 6 week period my dr wanted me to and the day it was 6 weeks we had sex. I have to admit it was really good. DH went really slow and honestly our sex life is better than ever Big Smile

Leah678 · November 2011

It was about 8 weeks PP and it hurt. A lot. We try to do it once a week now, but it still hurts.

AKBrideinMD · November 2011

Leah678:
It was about 8 weeks PP and it hurt. A lot. We try to do it once a week now, but it still hurts.

This, exactly.

latinachica29 · November 2011

Around 3 1/2 weeks. It was pretty good Angel

snoopy3319 · November 2011

EllenK11:
I waited the 6 week period my dr wanted me to and the day it was 6 weeks we had sex. I have to admit it was really good. DH went really slow and honestly our sex life is better than ever

Pretty much this. I had an appointment closer to 5 weeks, though, when the doc gave me the all clear that my uterus was back up to par.

Misty001 · November 2011

Leah678:
It was about 8 weeks PP and it hurt. A lot. We try to do it once a week now, but it still hurts.

Yep, this for me. Waited for the all clear and then was scared..lol

Sounds silly being afraid of sex right Wink It gets better every week though...Guess the dr really liked dh and did add those few extra stiches!

WashingtonQueen · November 2011

We waited until 11 weeks after birth. It was uncomforable the first 2 or 3 times but, it go better.

chillyupnorth · November 2011

We waited 5 weeks. The first few times it was uncomfortable, but it is getting better. I had to have an episiotomy, so the scar gets sore with too much friction (Sorry TMI Embarrassed

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MissLMS · November 2011

We still haven't, although I swore to myself that we will soon. DH and I are both exhausted all the time, running around after a toddler and dealing with DS, who still wakes up 2-3 times a night. Plus we are both working full time, and with me BF'ing I just have no drive whatsoever and he doesn't really either.

I think part of me is scared though too. After our first DC was born it hurt really bad when we did it for the first several times. It honestly took about 6 months after for me to feel normal again down there. I guess I'm just afraid that's going to happen again, although I didn't tear this time at all.