Taking new baby to church...wwyd?

kylayton · November 2011

My little brother is leaving for an LDS mission to West Africa and gives a farewell talk at our church on Dec. 11th. I am due Dec. 8th. My doctor seems to think our baby will arrive before then. This is not something I am wanting to miss and is very important to me. I am nervous about taking a possibly few days old newborn out in public.

I am thinking if I keep the baby in the Moby Wrap and snuggled close to me and get out of there right after before everyone has a chance to try to peek at him, I would be okay. Am I totally crazy for risking it? Obviously I'm just a nervous FTM. I have a few friends close by that I would trust leaving LO with but I wonder if that would be even harder for me. My OB suggested keeping the baby inside and out of the public for 2 weeks.

What would you do? Do I just need to chill out? This has been stressing me out for weeks.

whirlygirl00 · November 2011

I would go, as long as he's in his wrap hopefully no one will stick their hands in there and try and touch him. Or just politly ask people to look only as he's so young and it's flu season, but I doubt anyone would if he's wrapped to you:)

NYGirl02 · November 2011

I'd go! I think if you have the moby wrap, you will be okay. GL!

SiannaBees · November 2011

We go to church and are planning on just keeping LO in a moby wrap so others aren't poking at him. I would go

Temp401037375003448 · November 2011

I would say as long as you kept baby in the moby or covered you will prob be ok, that being said I read awhile ago that church is one of the germiest places around. Apparently lots of people go to church despite being sick.

kylayton · November 2011

wcoates:
I would say as long as you kept baby in the moby or covered you will prob be ok, that being said I read awhile ago that church is one of the germiest places around. Apparently lots of people go to church despite being sick.

That is my fear! I've heard of Pedi's telling moms not to take their babies to church for 4-6 months. I think that's a little excessive, but you're right. People go to church sick, especially kids.

Thanks everyone. I think if I keep him in the Moby and try not to socialize he should be okay. Some people just have no boundaries and don't get it.

MrsT2008 · November 2011

I'd go, keep him wrapped to you, and leave when you can. I definitely wouldn't want to miss such a big thing for your brother!

I'm having a similar debate with my husband's family Christmas Eve extravaganza. We can't not go, but I'm worried about all the people who will be around - I think I will bring my wrap and just wear her as much as I can.

buggywhips · November 2011

Do you have a moms room? At my church there is a room in the back that is for moms with newborns. There is a window so you can see the sermon and you can hear the sermon through speakers, but the room itself is sound proof.

getnmarried910 · November 2011

We have always taken our kids to church the first Sunday after they were born. Even my oldest, who was a month early, we took. We have never been told to stay in or away from people. Two of them were born on Wednesday and in church Sunday. The Moby Wrap should work great. We generally take the baby into church in the carseat and don't take baby out till the service has started, and baby goes back in before the service is over. We do not pass our babies around at church (we feel it's a distraction), and we are not shy about telling people to keep their hands off. I would rather take the baby with me than leave him/her with someone else that young.

robynlynn83 · November 2011

I'd go. I plan to take this baby to Mass very early on mostly because we have kids in school and they will be bringing home school germs anyway and with kids in school, we have a lot of things at the church to attend (they go to catholic school/preschool). I plan to keep him in the k'tan and not let people touch and peek at him.

kylayton · November 2011

getnmarried910:
We have always taken our kids to church the first Sunday after they were born. Even my oldest, who was a month early, we took. We have never been told to stay in or away from people. Two of them were born on Wednesday and in church Sunday. The Moby Wrap should work great. We generally take the baby into church in the carseat and don't take baby out till the service has started, and baby goes back in before the service is over. We do not pass our babies around at church (we feel it's a distraction), and we are not shy about telling people to keep their hands off. I would rather take the baby with me than leave him/her with someone else that young.

Oh this makes me a feel a lot better! Thank you!

We do have a mother's room where you can hear the speakers, but you can't see anything. I want to be able to see him.

I'm glad no one thinks I'm crazy for taking him so new!

getnmarried910 · November 2011

kylayton:

getnmarried910:
We have always taken our kids to church the first Sunday after they were born. Even my oldest, who was a month early, we took. We have never been told to stay in or away from people. Two of them were born on Wednesday and in church Sunday. The Moby Wrap should work great. We generally take the baby into church in the carseat and don't take baby out till the service has started, and baby goes back in before the service is over. We do not pass our babies around at church (we feel it's a distraction), and we are not shy about telling people to keep their hands off. I would rather take the baby with me than leave him/her with someone else that young.

Oh this makes me a feel a lot better! Thank you!

We do have a mother's room where you can hear the speakers, but you can't see anything. I want to be able to see him.

I'm glad no one thinks I'm crazy for taking him so new!

We also have a sign that hangs on the carseat from mytinyhands.com. People see a red stop sign, and for the most part tend to follow the no touching. I've had better luck with church people than I do at Walmart. I have had people at Walmart touch my last baby when she was in the Moby. Never anywhere else, just Walmart.

kylayton · November 2011

getnmarried910:
kylayton:

getnmarried910:
We have always taken our kids to church the first Sunday after they were born. Even my oldest, who was a month early, we took. We have never been told to stay in or away from people. Two of them were born on Wednesday and in church Sunday. The Moby Wrap should work great. We generally take the baby into church in the carseat and don't take baby out till the service has started, and baby goes back in before the service is over. We do not pass our babies around at church (we feel it's a distraction), and we are not shy about telling people to keep their hands off. I would rather take the baby with me than leave him/her with someone else that young.

Oh this makes me a feel a lot better! Thank you!

We do have a mother's room where you can hear the speakers, but you can't see anything. I want to be able to see him.

I'm glad no one thinks I'm crazy for taking him so new!

We also have a sign that hangs on the carseat from mytinyhands.com. People see a red stop sign, and for the most part tend to follow the no touching. I've had better luck with church people than I do at Walmart. I have had people at Walmart touch my last baby when she was in the Moby. Never anywhere else, just Walmart.

Are people really that dumb?! I swear. I would NEVER touch a baby without sanitizing or washing my hands even if it was family or a best friend just out of respect for a new mom.

indomesticbliss · November 2011

We brought our kiddo at 6 days old. He was in his carseat or my arms the whole time.

I see no issues with bringing LO to church, especially if you pop him in the moby. Honestly, I have never had issues with people trying to touch my kiddo when he was little, or with stranger belly rubs for that matter, but I think I may just give off a "dude, dont even think about it" vibe.

kylayton · November 2011

indomesticbliss:
We brought our kiddo at 6 days old. He was in his carseat or my arms the whole time.

I see no issues with bringing LO to church, especially if you pop him in the moby. Honestly, I have never had issues with people trying to touch my kiddo when he was little, or with stranger belly rubs for that matter, but I think I may just give off a "dude, dont even think about it" vibe.

haha! I need to work on that vibe. It's seemed to work pretty well so far. No one has done the belly touch without asking.

KYmama9286 · November 2011

We took our DS to church when he was about 10 days old and he was born 1 month early and only weighed 3lbs 6oz (perfectly healthy though!) We just went to the least attended service and purposely got there like 1-2 mins late so nobody would try and touch the baby-- we kept him in his carseat covered up the whole time and we left immediately after. Normally we stay around and chat and hang out with friends/family but for us we figured it was easier to just get in and out and we didnt want to miss out on the message and this was a good solution for us. GL in whatever you decide!

sept9107bride · November 2011

I'd go and just wear the baby. Or put the baby in the car seat and not let everyone poke in there. Should be fine

babyzep · November 2011

We will be in church the Sunday after I deliver if I feel up to it.

precbaby3 · November 2011

Well worst case could your SO/DH stay home with him just while you ran to church that morning if you are really concerned. However, i think you should be fine as long as you don't sit next to someone who is coughin and hackin the whole time:)

06hoky · November 2011

I would sit in the back or at least on an aisle so you can make a quick exit. I'm really hoping that DD will be here so I can take her to church on Christmas Eve.

MesmrEwe · November 2011

Chill out and go!!!!

Think of it this way - there are a lot of things as a parent that you would do with a first child vs. what would be out the window by the time you arrived at a 5th, why wait for the fifth!!

The first outing after baby we made was to church. People for the most part would do the "awww" looks, and no one even approached DD as if to touch her or anything of the sorts. There was one gal we let hold her but she was sort of the gal that we always sat next to in church so there was that sort of level of rapport... Sadly, she passed away within a week or two of DD being born.. The other thing is you'll have a lot of family there, so my thought is as long as they aren't overstimulating the heck out of your LO and just holding him/her then there's nothing to worry about on that end either, just take advantage of the time to sit down, rest, and meditate in church!!!

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