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December 2011 Moms
stephers_7
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I need to vent
stephers_7
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I have a sister in law who had her son when she was unmarried and still in college. I believe she was 25 when she had him.
For the first 4 years of his life she lived with her parents. They pretty much raised them while allowing her to still go to college.
Well, she's married now, still going to college (this may be her 9th year of trying to get her bachelors....)but her husband is deployed in afghanistan right now. Ever since she has had her son she has looked for pity because she's a "single mother" even though most single mothers I know don't get the luxury of having a babysitter every weekend (my in laws, even though they live 2 hours away) and the luxury of getting to finish her degree.
So, here I am....super pregnant, super tired most of the time. My weekends are gold to me since I work full time and weekends are when I can get things done in preparation for this baby.
We get a call this morning and she's sick and doesn't have the energy to watch her 5 year old. So MH just drove the 30 minutes to her house to get him and we'll have him all weekend long... I don't usually mind watching this kid but he doesn't behave the best and with how I'm feeling I don't think I have the energy to constantly be on him for a whole weekend.
I'm not happy.
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Re: I need to vent
Can you say no to her?
Had I answered the phone I probably would have yelled No nice and loud for all to hear but unfortunately my husband answered.....and he's a sucker for his nephew...which is fine, I love the kid too but not for a whole weekend...
Does this make me mean?
No,i think your SIL is manipulative:-( one thing I learned from my pregnancy is set your boundaries.
I think that this stems down to the post that I just read that leads to parents not wanting to parent. My mom would have never asked anyone else to watch us when she was sick. It would become a movie day so that she could rest, but she wouldn't call on anyone else to take care of us. And there were 4 of us!
I'm sorry that your SIL did this to you, just keep up your household rules in your house and he will learn how to act when he is at your house. It will take time and energy but you will notice a difference and when he comes over and your LO is there, there wont be confusion as to why does he get to but I don't!
Kinda sounds like my sister in law! One time she wanted us to baby sit so she could go to a 4 20 show, but she wanted to drop our niece off at 9pm and we worked the next day. We said no because we go to bed at like 9:30, haha.
Same situation, except mine is pregnant again, and still relying on my in laws to watch my niece every weekend. She gets free daycare through the government and even when she's not in school she leaves her kid there.