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Update
D&C went well. I checked in at 9am and was in surgery by 12. I didn't have a choice to have it at a quick office type surgery since I have S e t o n Insurance so it was a whole day ordeal at the hospital. I was about to leave by 3:30. They knew ahead of time from the last one that I would need more anesthesia to knock me out than the average person and more pain killers than the average person - since last time I was doubled over in pain before even leaving the surgery room. Apparently I have a high tolerance to medications which make sense since Benedryl doesn't make me drowsy, I usually need more anesthetics at the dentist and caffeine hardly effects me either.
I spoke this time with the chaplain who is going to get me in touch with the head of chaplain services so hopefully I can avoid receiving that awful postcard I think I posted about a while back. When you have a D&C there they make you sign paperwork asking if you want to take care of the burial or if they should. They don't have an option "C" that you'd like it disposed of the way a non-religious hospital does. So last time I chose that I wanted them to. They gave me all the info I needed if I wanted to take place in the burial or had any questions. It was frustrating for me since I'm not a religious person & while I personally feel I lost a pregnancy and mourned that loss I didn't feel I was scientifically losing a baby at that point since it was still just a ball of cells and that was easier for us to cope with. My last D&C was on Jan 25 this year and fast forward to June when I receive a postcard in the mail that says "Your baby was buried on May 16". I felt I had to grieve all over again and it really really upset my husband. If I did believe it was the loss of a baby you're telling me that you didn't bury it for 5 months? And since I chose not to take part in this burial why are you sending me this post card when you gave me all the info I needed to contact you if I wanted the information?
So I spoke with a chaplain who took down my name & number. I had written a letter both from the perspective of a patient there and from the perspective of a mental health professional that if one of my patients who is already fragile had received this post card it very likely would have caused a mental health or drug relapse. I'm lucky that I am mentally stable and could handle the post card as a normal healthy person could. I never sent the letter because I was waiting for my boss to find out who's hands it should land in. I was then able to get pregnant again and here I sit facing the possibility of receiving another one of these stupid post cards in the mail and will dread opening the mail every day for the next 6 months. I wrote in my letter that a simple check box asking if I wanted to be notified when it takes place - yes or no could help avoid the gut wrenching sting of having to open my mail and read that. I'm going to revise the letter now discussing my current situation and send it along with the original post card that I've been saving for this. I just hope it can help my patients when they go through something this difficult to not receive that if they don't want to.
All in all I'm ok. Had to take pain medicine today which I was really hoping not to and tried to avoid as long as I could. Going to spend the weekend packing and getting ready for our trip Monday. I'm going to do all I can to avoid the drama of her fiance's crazy girls. All 24 of us (9 are kids) are staying in a big mansion. That sounds glamorous and all until you learn how drama-full these grown women are and I'll be lucky if we all end up alive when the week is over. Think Road Rules meets Survivor. Anyway, thank you for all the T&P and support. I follow up with this MD for the last time in 2 weeks. She's going to refer DH & I for genetic testing just to get that off the table and I start with the new MD Dr. N a s h on Jan 16. Thanks again.
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I'm with Bluestreet--badass! I'm honestly inspired and awed by the way you've handled this whole awful situation. And again, I'm very sorry that you've had to go through it!
Best of luck for a drama free trip!
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Seeing how one of them wore a mini skirt without underwear to my master's graduation party that was catered and everything - bending over in front of the large glass windows where everyone was sitting outside eating dinner - I'm certain I'll have plenty of stories for you upon our return.
Glad it went as well as possible and that it's done. I missed the pp about the postcard situation. That's ridiculous! One of our docs was complaining to me about the burial situation, I had thought it was a legal issue not a religious one. I had no idea about the card! How traumatizing and terrible! Big props to you for speaking up! I hope they listen and change the way they operate.
Hope you enjoy the trip next week and can relax a little. Hugs!
In the state of Texas if the fetus is under 20 weeks it doesn't have to be buried. It can be disposed of with medical waste which sounds cruse - but anywhere else it's a personal choice of the parents to bury otherwise it's not even offered if under 20 wks.
Aha. I just wish that with all their religious ferver, they would realize that they can be offensive to those who aren't religious.
I'm looking forward to the stories from next week now too!
This completely.
Your strength amazes me. I hope you continue to heal quickly. *hugs*
Enjoy your trip next week, and just try to sit back and enjoy the crazy instead of partaking in the crazy if you can
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This, exactly. Hope you have a good trip, and just enough drama to keep your mind off the situation and give you some chuckles (but not enough to stress you out!). (((HUGS))) to you!
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