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Court today

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After more than two weeks of constant phone calls to the police/lawyers/and the courthouse a judge ruled that my husband needed way more help than I was even trying to get him (I wanted a 72 hour hold and order of protection).  They gave him a mandatory 30 day mental evaluation in a locked hospital.  The soonest he can go back in front of the judge is in 30 days.  Now I have to make some big decisions.  I can't afford our life without his paycheck so I need to make some changes.  My therapist keeps telling me that he may get better eventually but to plan for the worse.  Not sure what my plans are but with a ton of therapy and some sound decisions it will all work out.  I feel the largest burden lifted off my shoulders now knowing he can't hurt anyone, including us.  It might have all been baby steps today in the grand scheme of things but it feels like I just ran a marathon.

::Now to enjoy my adult beverage:: 

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    Sounds like a relief in the short time.  You now have 30 days to get stuff in line.  Don't let your guard down and assume you have more time.  XH went to jail for a probation violation and was supposed to be incarcerated for 6 months to 1 year.  I thought I had time to get everything figured out and felt a huge sense of relief.  He served 7 days and was out.  The legal system is finicky like that.  My sense of relief quickly vanished.

    Sorry, this ended up sounding very debbie downer-ish.  Not how I intended for it to sound, I swear!

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    Sounds like a relief in the short time.  You now have 30 days to get stuff in line.  Don't let your guard down and assume you have more time.  XH went to jail for a probation violation and was supposed to be incarcerated for 6 months to 1 year.  I thought I had time to get everything figured out and felt a huge sense of relief.  He served 7 days and was out.  The legal system is finicky like that.  My sense of relief quickly vanished.

    Sorry, this ended up sounding very debbie downer-ish.  Not how I intended for it to sound, I swear!

    Thank you for the heads up.  After reading this I asked about the chances of him getting out earlier then ordered.  (He doesn't actually have a release date; just a court day if he isn't released by a dr)  However he can potentially get out untreated.  And now that I know this i'm pretty sure his father will help him get out.  His father has some deep mental issues too.  At least now I can be thinking of what to do if this happens.  All I seem to do in therapy now is to come up with a game plan for every situation.  

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