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I need to vent am I being petty?

jcole32444jcole32444
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SIL sent out a message on facebook to everyone that will be going to MIL's for christmas, except MIL. Which I found weird because it is going to be at her house. I think she should be in on us picking a date for christmas gtg.

Email says something along the lines of "Reply back with dates you have availbe to get together"

SIL A suggests christmas day for her mothers side and the morning after for her father. I thought that was great becuase they all want to be at home christmas morning. SIL A has to drive 1 hour to MIL's.

SIL B sent out the email. Has yet to suggest a date. And has shot down, christmas eve, day the day after and new years eve and day. She said she does not want to drive three hours on christmas day.

I think she should just suck it up and drive the three hours. She has not come home for one holiday this year. Everytime she says we are doing things with her H's family instead. It irritates me that SIL A and H are the only ones that come home for the holidays. H lives in town so it's not really comeing home but she shows up to everything.

I would drive 5 hours to see my family on christmas. But I enjoy spending time with my family.

I guess my vent is that it irritates me that sil has not suggest any dates, and is whining about driving 3 hours. She wants H and SIL A to take a day off in the middle of the week so we can do it then. Well that isn't going to happen sorry.

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Re: I need to vent am I being petty?

  • MarSamWhitneyMarSamWhitney member

    If you can find a date that mostly works for everyone, forget about SIL.  No one in there right mind would take off a work day, when Christmas is on the weekend anyways this year. If she doesnt want to drive 3 hours, then she shouldnt bother. I would reply back what dates you are free and try not to let it bother you. She sounds like a real winner.

    Oh, and no..you arnt being petty. I agree with you.



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  • RouensDreamRouensDream member
    imageMarSamWhitney:

    If you can find a date that mostly works for everyone, forget about SIL.  No one in there right mind would take off a work day, when Christmas is on the weekend anyways this year. If she doesnt want to drive 3 hours, then she shouldnt bother. I would reply back what dates you are free and try not to let it bother you. She sounds like a real winner.

    Oh, and no..you arnt being petty. I agree with you.

    I agree with MarSam. Find a date and time that works for most everyone. If she can't make it, oh well. If she really wanted to see you guys she would make it happen. She is clearly making the choice to see her H's family instead. So don't worry about it. Her loss.

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  • freeatlast2014freeatlast2014 member
    Seems to me like she's not picking any dates cause she doesn't want to be there. Her loss. I would be annoyed too but don't let that ruin your holidays. Celebrate without her. One day she will regret not being there. Just cause she doesn't care if she spends time with her family doesn't mean you shouldn't get to see them on or close to the holiday.
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  • jcole32444jcole32444
    SIL A called and said they were coming Chrismtas Day. Everyone but SIL will already be there. MIL said it is not christmas unless all her children are there. :( I think this year is going to fail!
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  • ffejsGirlffejsGirl

    I say go ahead and do it with out her. Her loss.

    My BIL is the same way. He's single and has a flexible job. While us and SIL have 2 kids and have to work holidays every other year. He is a pain to work with and last year refused to come home when we would both be there. Then he tried to guilt trip everyone about opening gifts without him.

    Of course my MIL is like yours and says it's not the same without everyone together, but you can only do so much when someone is refusing to compromise or be flexible.

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  • bethylabethyla member
    You are not being petty.  We have people like this in our family too.  Situations like this make me want to hibernate through the holidays.
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