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GreenEyedGal
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Confession: Sometimes I feel like a failure as a mother :(
GreenEyedGal
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My son, bless his heart, is a handful. He is extremely active and full of energy. Unfortunetly, I feel like I spend all day disciplining him. He bites, pinches, pulls the cat's tail, throws tantrums, doesn't know the meaning of 'no' and sucks the life out of me.
Oh and I officially suck at disciplining him. Time-outs don't work, he just sits there and smirks up at me. Looking at him in the eye is useless seeing as how he "melts" to the ground and smiles. No matter how loud I raise my voice, he smiles.
I'm impatiently waiting for his speech evaluation next month because I'm certain alot of it has to do with his inability to talk but I'm not sure if there's another underlying issue. All I keep doing is blaming myself and my $hitty parenting skills. Surely he cant talk or behave because of the way im raising him. Moms of multiples can handle their kids better than me. $hit, the freaking Duggars have 20 well behaved children!
I seriously want to break down and cry. I feel like such a failure, that I don't deserve him, that he deserves a mom who knows how to raise him right. And im ttc another kid while in the middle of this! How in the world do I expect myself to raise two kids when I can't even handle one?! Ugh, this mommy stuff is hard. I need a drink and a break 
TTC#1=Feb 2009: 50 mg Clomid+Ovidrel shot+Metformin+Dexamethasone+TI=BFP!
TTC#2=July 2011: Surprise BFP: Chemical Pregnancy
TTC#2=July 2011: Surprise BFP: Chemical Pregnancy
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Re: Confession: Sometimes I feel like a failure as a mother :(
You are in good company, and you are not a bad mother.
My six year old boys are still a handful, and I wonder when all the hard work that I'm put in trying to rear them properly is going to start showing up. I'm certain I must be doing something wrong.
We are currently TTC #2 and I sometimes I find myself wondering what in the hell we are thinking, because I feel we can't handle Matt. Matt is *very* high energy. The kid rarely ever sits. Some kids, especially boys, are just like that.
I wrote a post a couple of weeks ago, where I was thinking I was the worst mom in the world, because Matt was a holy terror at the mall. I literally left the mall in tears. SO many people posted, and said that they have been there done that. I think a lot of what we are seeing is typical two year old behavior.
I also completely get ya on the speech evaluation. I think so many of Matt's meltdowns are because of his inability to speak. We have a speech eval scheduled for 11/28. I think we'll make a lot of progress once he can communicate more.
Hang in there. You are a great mommy, and your son is lucky to have you.
I often felt this way when Riley was 18months to 2.5 yrs, even now at times I feel this way. A lot of that is and was his speech delay and temperment. Getting him evaluated was one of the best things ever! Speech has helped us so much and while things are far from perfect knowing there is a reason for the out bursts and his ability to understand increasing has helped a lot. Big hugs I know how it feels to walk in those shoes and me feet were a blistery mess. I can tell you it will get better.
(((hugs))) I know I have had the "I am a horrible mommy" moment more times than not. 2 is HARD!
After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
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I think we all could have (and I know that I actually have) written this same exact post. Being a mom is really hard and its especially difficult when you feel like you're banging your head against the wall with discipline.
Take the weekend to take some time for yourself - even if that means going to a coffee shop and reading a magazine. And then come back at it on Monday with a fresh perspective.
Hang in there, mama! Every day will not be perfect, but it promise it won't last!
Thank you all so much for sympathizing with me. You have no idea how much better it makes me feel knowing that I'm not alone.
Charmcity-Good suggestion on taking some time "off". Lord knows I could use some recharging.
TTC#2=July 2011: Surprise BFP: Chemical Pregnancy
You are not a horrible mother. Sounds like typical 2 year-old behavior. I too feel like a failure at times...I think we all do. Being a mommy is no easy job!
Hang in there! My T&Ps are with you! This too shall pass!