Sobbing in the car

VeilSdeGTO · November 2011

I had my 6 week pp appt today, so DH stayed home to watch DD. On my way home, I started to miss her and then wondered how much I was going to miss her once I go back to work.

Then I started thinking how hard it was going to be on her to not have me around for 10 hours. Will she think I've abandoned her? Will she cry the entire time?

I was so worked up that I started sobbing on the drive home. I am DREADING taking her to daycare in Jan. I'm tearing up just thinking about again. How am I going to do this!? Crying

I was only gone for about an hour and a half total.

Amanda78 · November 2011

Huge hugs. Don't let it overwhelm you now. Just enjoy every day with her. My advice about going back to work-don't go back on a Monday. Go back on a Wed or something so you don't have the whole week ahead of you.

She will not think you've abandoned her and she will not cry the whole time. Just remember you're raising a little girl who can be proud of what her mommy does inside and outside of your home.

It sucks going back, but we'll be here for you

Wildlandwife · November 2011

((hugs)) It's hard to be away. However, it has gotten easier for me and there are times, I just need a break. It was difficult coming back to work for a month or so, but now, I enjoy it and can't wait to get home to see and play with her.

Hang in there.

ksulli · November 2011

I'm so sorry! It is tough. But harder on us than the LO's.

if yo're looking for an encouraging story, keep reading. If you just needed to vent, disregard the rest.

I had my mom come stay with us my first week back so that I could get used to being away while not being worried about her, and that helped a lot. I also went back for a few 3 day weeks before bumping the schedule up- if that's an option I highly recommend it. Also, my DD loves daycare- I was in tears on day one leaving her, but she was all smiles for the teachers. Now when I drop her off she's smiley for the teachers who adore her, and the other babies that can toddle come over and say 'baby!!' every.single.time. When I picked her up this week she'd just fallen asleep in the teacher's arms- the woman asked if I would let her keep DD for another hour or so- now I know that DD is getting all the love & attention she needs when I'm away.

Kelanne · November 2011

(((( HUGS ))))

Going back to work SUCKS! It's really hard. I promise that once you get into a routine that it will get easier.

Don't worry about how she feels about you. Babies ALWAYS know their mommies and she knows you love her.

D&D4Ever7 · November 2011

Huge hugs. I just wanted to let you know that I am going through the same emotions and you are not alone. I worry about going back to work in January also, but trying to enjoy my time with DS right now. I get really overwhelmed when I think about going back to work and not having enough time with DS after work everyday. It is definitely going to be difficult and hopefully get easier over time. I went out of the house maybe 3 times without DS (twice for shopping and once for my 6 wk appointment). The first time was very difficult. I kept calling DH to check on DS. I called DH too many times that he almost got pissed off at me. The next 2 times were easier and made me enjoy spending time with DS even more. I miss DS when I step out of the house even for few minutes. I also noticed that he grew bigger because I went away for a little bit. Since I stay home with him all the time, it is hard for me to tell how much he is growing. Lets worry about the daycares when we get to it, until than we will enjoys our LOs!

MrsAtch · November 2011

I'm already dreading this and sick over it. I was a 60-70 hour a week employee before having DD and I know I can't ever go back to that. I'm sure it will get easier when we start giving her bottles but right now I can't even have DH hold her for more than a few minutes without her screaming. I wish we got better maternity leave. Our Canadian friends get a year off Sad

martinimomma · November 2011

You live in my brain, dontcha? I had a very similar episode when I went to my 6 wk PP check (early) last week. ((hugs))

VeilSdeGTO · November 2011

Thanks for reassuring me that I am not the only one. I'm sure it'll be a lot worse on me than for her. I know that it will also get easier once we're into the swing of things.

I would love to ease back into work but school starts back up on the 2nd of Jan. No half days or part time for me.

I'm going to enjoy my time with her as much as possible now (which I already do), but man, it is always at the back of my mind.

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