DH says he is done with PPD

Re: DH says he is done with PPD

• SilentSymphony member

  November 2011

  I am right there with you hun.... DH just doesnt really understand.... Today he PROMISED that he was gonna spend time with our DD and me and what happens?! He goes up to his job to get paid and the store owner asks him to work til closing and he says yes. So wen he comes back to get his keys I start to have a panic attack, he yells at me, and storms out of the house....Ive never felt so alone before.....
  

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• MrsS2203 member

  November 2011

  I feel like a dog chasing its tail most days. I want my cake and to eat it too,darnit!

  P.S. I'd explain if he's done that you're willing to trade minds for an hour.  
  

  

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• Kristine Schilling

  November 2011

  Alrighty ladies... So sayeth my therapist when I was diagnosed PPD with an anxiety disorder.

   

  First, get out of the house daily. Somehow. Go for a walk with the kids, go to the store, something. Every day.

  For your own personal sanity, a stay at home mom needs to have "alone time" on a regular basis. Once a week, once a month.. whatever. Alone time means HE watches the kids so you can have a real relaxing couple or three hours. What you do in that alone time is totally up to you, not him, not the kids.

  Next, Does DH realize that PPD can lead to harmful actions against self and family? (my therapist used the terms suicide, shaken baby syndrom, among others.) He needs to support you, and help you. If he cannot help you as much as you need, than he needs to support a choice by you to see a therapist, get a once a week maid, or family visiting regularly to help out. **that can include the MIL he doesnt get along with.**

   One devils advocate note here... He is the provider and feels he must work in order to support and provide for his family. Understand that is most likely where his opinion is comeing from.

  

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• HelloWaldorf

  November 2011

  booboo1414:

  He tells me that life is not hard. What do I have to be sad about? He hates my mom, and now she is moving back to town.  This is making my PPD worse. He says he can't handle it, if my PPD gets worse.

   

  But I know what my problem is, I just can't adjust to being a mom.  I go no where, I am home all the time. And the whining and screaming.   I have no freedom.  I know I am being selfish.  I know this is a part of being a mom. "Self sacrifice".  I feel like I am on house arrest.  I just want to run and go! Anywhere.

  DH goes to the gym, stores, and work. So no, he doesn't understand. 

  But at the end of the day, I am so blessed that I am with my children everyday. to be the primary caregiver to them, and not a daycare. I know a lot of working moms wish they could be to this. 

  I am so emotionally confused. Anyone else? 

  I could have written this myself. Ugh. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this 

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• EVA116 member

  November 2011

  I know exactly how you feel. That is how I felt right when Annabel was born. I felt like my old life was over and I missed it so much. DH did not understand at all. I wanted a baby so bad and then when she was here all I did was cry....he couldn't wrap his head around that.

  I agree with PP that you need to get out of the house at least once a day. I use to just go sit in my garage while my mom watched A for a little while.

  

   

  

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• wheelsonthebus member

  December 2011

  I totally understand. I run a HOME DAYCARE. I am stuck inside ALL DAY LONG with no adult contact and several toddlers and my own DS. I've been getting depressed very easily with this pregnancy and I'm nervous that I will develop PPD as a result. My DH is the same. He tells me to suck it up and be happy that I get to be with my child and that "this is what has to be done." He has no idea. He gets to see friends at work, take lunch breaks, have adult time alone. I get none of that. Ever. You are not alone.

  

  
  

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