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s/o of s/o of s/o "Sibsets"

All this baby name talk is awesome because we (and by that I mean, I) still can't make a decision on what to name this little guy.  I see a lot of talk about "sibsets" on the baby names board and the concept seems limiting.  Plus, I never ever hear my name and my brother's put together anymore so it seems a bit...trivial?  I know what the baby name boarders think, but what does the "average" nestie think?
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Re: s/o of s/o of s/o "Sibsets"

  • I wouldn't go as far as saying it's "ridiculous" not to match, but I think it's nice when names have a similar feel.  I just don't get using one very trendy name and then something very classic for another child.

    That said, I DO think it's ridiculous to get too matchy.  My mom and her brother and sister all have (had) the initials JJJ. Then my parents went and gave my brother, sister, and me names that all start with M.  Which is why I refuse to re-use A or V should we ever have another kid.

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  • I guess I'm not sure what the actual definition of "sibsets" is.  Is it names that sound alike?  Or just names that go well together?

    I have it in my head that a "sibset" refers to 2 names that flow well together, but don't necessarily have to sound alike.  Every name we have thought of, we've said it out loud several times with DS1's name to see if it flows well.  It has made me realize that I don't really like the sound of Logan + a name that starts with a vowel...  just sounds weird to me.  (Ex:  Logan and Evan.  Love Evan, just don't love them together.  But I suppose I could switch them and say Evan and Logan....)

    That said, I unintentionally seem to have created a list of names, most of which end in "-an",  "-in" or "-en", and therefore (in my mind) go well with Logan.  But it's not a MUST for me.

  • imagemlf625:
    My mom and her brother and sister all have (had) the initials JJJ. Then my parents went and gave my brother, sister, and me names that all start with M. 

    My favorite example of this is DH's aunt and uncle.  Both have "s" names and gave all their kids "m" names.  DH says they used to sign cards and gift tags, "Love, the S&Ms."  IndifferentEmbarrassedSurprise

  • I only see it as important in terms of ethnicity. I wouldn't name one my kids a very Spanish name and the other a very WASPy name, since I want them to identify with each other. Like, imagine twins named Francisco and Henry. Hmm, never mind, I actually like that. Ignore me! :-)
  • imagemlf625:

    I wouldn't go as far as saying it's "ridiculous" not to match, but I think it's nice when names have a similar feel.  I just don't get using one very trendy name and then something very classic for another child.

    That said, I DO think it's ridiculous to get too matchy.

    Ditto. 

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  • Nah, I don't think it really matters.  But now I'm curious as to what the name is.  :)  We're having the hardest time nailing down a name too. 
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  • imagemlf625:

    I wouldn't go as far as saying it's "ridiculous" not to match, but I think it's nice when names have a similar feel.  I just don't get using one very trendy name and then something very classic for another child.

    ditto. 

    This definitely came to play when we were naming Tommy. We kind of set the tone w/ Jack, so we followed up w/ a second "classic" name. If Jack had been Seamus or Fin(bar), then Tommy may have been something more traditionally Irish, as well.

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  • For me, it's more that I really like traditional names.  If we have another kid, I'm sure s/he and Kate (Katherine) will sound sibsety, but that's more because of my personal naming style and not because I think the names need to go together.  Likely candidates are Elizabeth (Beth) and Alexander (Alex).  I'm holding out hope for Luke though!  :)
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  • Children are individuals and I think their names should reflect that. If you want matchy-matchy, buy a sweater set. :)

    Only horrible sibsets I can think of are the Duggars.

  • I don't know what a "sibset" is either, but I'm guessing names that flow?  We had picked Coop's name waaaaayyyy before we ever got pregnant.  Spencer was one of 10 names we narrowed it all down to and it was the only one we both agreed on in the end.  I really hadn't realized they both had the -er at the end until their names were "set in stone".

    So I'm guessing that sometimes you get "sibsets" accidentally--my sister and I both have "J" names.  But I was "supposed" to be a boy (my mom was SURE I was going to be a boy) and my parents only had one name picked out--Bryan.  That doesn't work for a girl, sooo my mom named me after her mom, who happened to be in the room at the time they asked what my name would be.  

    I happen to hate when siblings have the same first initial.  Stems from working at the IRS and seeing a tax return with 8 kids all having "K" names and every one of those "K" names was made up.  No thanks.

  • I don't think they need to sound alike or even flow well together, but I don't know that I would do different "types" of names (like the Spanish/non-spanish).

    DH has 5 sisters and all of their names start with D because MIL's name starts with D..and DH is a Jr. Of the 7 grandkids, 4 of them have a first or middle name that starts with a D (DD doesn't and they were annoyed).
  • imagekiarox2002:
    For me, it's more that I really like traditional names.  If we have another kid, I'm sure s/he and Kate (Katherine) will sound sibsety, but that's more because of my personal naming style and not because I think the names need to go together.  

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  • imageMrsAJL:

    Children are individuals and I think their names should reflect that. If you want matchy-matchy, buy a sweater set. :)


     This.  Names that start with the same letters or rhyme drive me a tad bit nuts. 

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  • We are in the minority here, but we are going with the same initials for both of our kiddos.  My husband insisted on it... I was not nearly as keen on the idea but he decided that our new LO would feel left out if she didn't have an "A" name like the rest of us.  (insert eye roll here)

    With that said... we settled on an A name for #2 that I really love - so now we have an Alexis (Lexi) and will have an Alainah (Lainie) *shrugs*  :)

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  • We were indecisive about DD2's name, and actually "tried on" a name for her first day that we loved but decided to nix because it was too close to DD1's name. 

    I guess I agree with the majority that the names should be similar styles, but not matchy matchy.   :-) 

  • imagebluestreet:
    I only see it as important in terms of ethnicity. I wouldn't name one my kids a very Spanish name and the other a very WASPy name, since I want them to identify with each other. Like, imagine twins named Francisco and Henry. Hmm, never mind, I actually like that. Ignore me! :-)

    This is my thing. My baby girl has a "ethnic" name, so to speak and I told my husband I think it would be weird if we name the next one something super american like Ashley or Steve (or whatever) 

  • My sister and I had the same initials and our first names only differ by one letter (they're 4 letters long). I didn't want to do that and actually didn't set out purposely to choose 2 A names that also end in E and have the same syllables. We just love them both and the meanings behind each. Each also fits with the family middle names we gave each of them (we think.) it wasn't to be matchy-matchy b/c I also hate that from my childhood. Oh well. I like each name individually and I think they're "compatible" together. For us, the meaning of each name was one of the biggest considerations. I nixed a name I loved once I looked up it's origin/meaning and didn't like it. But lump me in with pp's DH, lol. If there's ever a "Dez" s/he will probably get an A name...so s/he doesn't feel like the odd one out. Go ahead, laugh at my ridiculousness. ;-)
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    imagemlf625:
    My mom and her brother and sister all have (had) the initials JJJ. Then my parents went and gave my brother, sister, and me names that all start with M. 

    My favorite example of this is DH's aunt and uncle.  Both have "s" names and gave all their kids "m" names.  DH says they used to sign cards and gift tags, "Love, the S&Ms."  IndifferentEmbarrassedSurprise

    um, my maiden name initials were SNM:| and that is my random fact of the day, now back to your regularly scheduled programming. 
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  • Ugh. I hate these name posts. We have lost more than one Nestie over stuff like this bc inevitably someone always gets offended.

     

    I have 3 kids with t initials. I like their names, they like their names, what else matters?

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