Tired of people dropping by! (Vent)

Re: Tired of people dropping by! (Vent)

• mattandbekah

  November 2011

  I am not kidding when I say "make a sign for your door".  If both my kids are sleeping and it has been a long day, I will absolutely make a sign that says not to ring the doorbell, come back later, babies are sleeping.  People need to learn that they cant just drop by.  How hard is it to send a txt that just asks if you can come over?  My sister lives 5 minutes away, we get together all the time, but unless its an emergency, we dont just show up. 

  ETA: I knew I took a picture of the sign I put up one time...

   

   

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• Liz4444 member

  November 2011

  You need to open your mouth and say something when they do this.  Most of my family lives ~10 minutes away, they would never do that because I made it very clear to them, never show up without calling!  If you keep letting them get away with iit they will think it's ok with you.

  

  
  

  

  
  

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• KnoxBride06 member

  November 2011

  I have had the same problem. I quit answering the door and now it doesn't happen anymore (knock on wood). I also had people show up at the hospital after I said I didn't want anyone coming there except the grandparents. WTF is wrong with people?

  
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• e_delo member

  November 2011

  I had this problem with the neighbor kids wanting to play with DD. Except they would ring the door bell nonstop until someone would answer. So we disconnected the doorbell. Now when people stop by, I don't even hear them and I don't feel bad for not answering. When they say something I say, "Oh I'm sorry, I didn't hear you out there. People kept stopping by unannounced, and none of us were getting any sleep, so we disconnected the doorbell." Now, they call before they come! Oh, I also will answer the door (to those who know the doorbell is disconnected and knock instead) with the baby attached to my milk machine. It usually makes the visitor pretty uncomfortable and they they call before showing up. One more  thing, I usually have my phone on vibrate, sometimes I answer sometimes I don't!

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• gracie076

  November 2011

  Thanks for the feedback ladies! You are right! I just disconnected the door bell and turned off the house phone. I put my cell on lowest volume so I can take calls from my husband. I will have to grow a back bone and say something to these people because you are right they will think I'm okay with it. I didn't think about it like that!  I just didn't know how to handle this...everyone always called before so this behavior is not like them.

  Mattandbek-I like your sign...I will post one outside letting people know that my LO is sleeping. great idea!

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• mars37810 member

  November 2011

  I luckily haven't had this issue because I think my family knows how I would react if they just showed up unannounced.  I don't sugar coat things with people and am pretty blunt so if something pisses me off I would let them know.  I think that is the best way to handle things when people don't seem to understand.  If people keep showing up despite your efforts and you wind up having to let them in then take the opportunity to hand off the baby to them after you are done feeding them so you can jump in the shower, get something to eat, or take care of stuff around the house.

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• AB25840

  November 2011

  This doesnt happen to me now that we are home but in the hospital my aunt (who i am not close with) showed up 4 hours after i delivered to the hospital while i was trying to breastfeed. She just walked right into the room with out knocking. I was so pissed, why cant people just call first!?!?

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• rubysue267 member

  November 2011

  That is really inconsiderate of your family and I'm sorry you have to deal with that. We live in an apartment so thankfully no one is able to get into the main door and access our actual front door without us letting them in, and as an added bonus, the door buzzer doesn't work. If I had a real-life front door I would definitely do as PP suggested and make a sign. If your family is too dense to call or text first, they deserve an in-your-face sign. And hot dang, I don't know how you refrained from smacking the daylights out of your BIL. You get major props for patience, girlfriend. 

  

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