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So annoyed- who will watch DS

Shmogan09Shmogan09 member
in February 2012 Moms
I hate that people in our families are trying to claim watching DS while I am in labor.  Hey, maybe this is one of those situations where IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU!  DH and I need to have whoever we feel DS will be most comfortable with.  It's not a competition, I am so worried about leaving him all that time so all I care about is how DS will feel.  Some people are so selfish!
And yes, I know I am lucky to have people to watch him, but having people try to claim it without being asked is just annoying. 
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Re: So annoyed- who will watch DS

  • christinak22christinak22 member

    That is annoying.  My family has learned to offer once and let me and DH make decisions.  Some of them were a bit pushy when DD was born.

    I don't know who I want to watch DD while we're in the hospital.  I kind of don't want her with my parents because I might want my mom in the waiting room in case I need her for anything.  I guess it kind of depends on who's off work when I go into labor!  I'm not at all worried about how DD will feel...maybe I'm too carefree, but I can't imagine she would really notice the difference (whether an aunt, grandma, etc. watches her).

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  • repedrickrepedrick member
    We're not making definate plans with who will watch DD. It all depends on what time I go into labor- depending on the time of day it will switch between 3 different people based on their schedules. I also have a friend close by that we can call at the drop of a hat. Lucky for us, both sets of parents have said just call and let them know and left it at that.
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  • susie2242susie2242 member
    This makes me so sad to think about. At first I was sure it would be BIL and SIL. And I'm still fine with that but it just seems like such a long time to be away from him. I think I may send DH home at night to be with him.  He'll get more sleep with DS1 then with us at the hospital. 
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  • sparks2987sparks2987 member

    I watched my nephew while my sister was in labor, then my mom and I switched off, being with my sister and with my nephew. She ended up staying the hospital longer than expected so I stayed with my nephew at her house to make it comfortable for him. He thought it was fun, he is 2, but in the morning, he had to go see mom and dad. poor guy was alittle confused.

    when we got to the hospital  and were walking to my sister's room he kept asking,"are my mom and dad in this house with baby sister?"  it was freaking cute!

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  • Lisa9926Lisa9926 member
    Everyone is just trying to help!  I would just announce your plans about who is watching him and be done with it.  People will probably just leave you alone then.
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  • Shmogan09Shmogan09 member

    I agree everyone, it is so hard to think about leaving LO's for that long.  My mom and DH will trade off being with him for the 2 recovery days but I need them both in the delivery room with me during labor.  I just want this to go smoothly for DS, I am so afraid he will feel negatively about the baby because it will be the most he is ever away from me. 

     

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    Everyone is just trying to help!  I would just announce your plans about who is watching him and be done with it.  People will probably just leave you alone then.

    It may seem as though everyone is trying to help but they are not.  I rarely have left DS in the past 2 1/2 years so MIL is just using it as an opportunity to have her alone time with him that she is always asking for.  It has been a constant battle since we had him because she doesn't like coming over and seeing him at our house, she wants him alone at her house and we just don't feel comfortable with it.  I just don't like feeling like people see me being in the hospital having a baby as an opportunity to push their own agenda. 

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