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Parenting after a Loss
ksulli
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Who is out of line here?
ksulli
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DH likes to play some kind of college football video game. I hate video games, but whatever, it's his 'thing'. I tend to get frustrated/upset with him for playing too much when I wish he'd spend time with DD & I, but he by no means is always down there playing. I suppose it's also useful to know that he picks dd up from daycare 3 days a week and has her alone from 5-8 when i get home, so its not like he doesnt spend time woth her.
So this morning (we're both off today) he came up from playing when I asked him to strip DD while I got her bath ready, and I suggested that I might be better about his playing if he gave me a timeline before going to play- nothing about it needing to be less than X number of hours. He got all upset that I'm treating him like a child, my thought was that having an expectation rather than wondering when he'll be done, it'd be less aggrivating for me to know when he'd be free. Am I treating him like a child, or is he acting like one?
So this morning (we're both off today) he came up from playing when I asked him to strip DD while I got her bath ready, and I suggested that I might be better about his playing if he gave me a timeline before going to play- nothing about it needing to be less than X number of hours. He got all upset that I'm treating him like a child, my thought was that having an expectation rather than wondering when he'll be done, it'd be less aggrivating for me to know when he'd be free. Am I treating him like a child, or is he acting like one?
*Married 10.10.08*
TTC #1 9.09 - BFP#1:2.18.10= missed m/c, D&C 4.16
BFP#2:10.22.10=Avelin born 7.2.11
TTC#2: 2.13 - BFP#3: 7.25.13=Kelsey born 3.31.14
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Re: Who is out of line here?
We pretty much have a "if the baby is up we are playing with her" game plan because we don't get to spend a lot of time with her since we work long hours. If H were disappearing to play video games/golf/etc frequently enough so that it seemed the balance of who got free time was off, I'd be annoyed.
I'm not sure if that's your situation or not, but regardless, I don't think it's unreasonable to have limits on how much "me" time anyone gets for anything when you have other family members to consider. And it's definitely not unreasonable to ask for a time frame on when he's going to be available again.
BFP #2 4/13/10. Bridget born 12/28/10
BFP #3 Finn born 8/11/15
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-m/c at 11w2d due to partial molar 2008 -m/c #2 2009
Beautiful daughter born February 2011
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