Thank you etiquette

Kristine83 · November 2008

When you receive a gift at your baby shower from someone who couldn't attend the shower, is it considered rude to send them a thank you card (within less than a week of the shower) and not phone them as well? MY grandmother in law sent a gift and has been stewing that all she got was a thank you card and not a phone call as well. She is actually really, really mad at me and saying I am ungrateful and such. I didn't think that what I did was so wrong. Opinions?

Thanks.?

wanticecream · November 2008

silly grandma!!!!!!!

RoxyLynn · November 2008

Good heavens. You were entirely correct to send a prompt TY note. This one's on her for being unrealistic; you're totally in the clear.

hopefulmom · November 2008

Maybe you DH could phone her and thank her (via phone). You already did with the card. He could just say...I know so and so sent a thank you card but I wanted to personally thank you as well...yadi yadi yadi. She is your grandmother-in-law for heavens sakes. She is HIS grandmother! it is certainly not proper etiquette to have to send a card AND a phone call. I'm only suggesting the above to help "smooth things over".

Jma316 · November 2008

I think a thank you card is adequate. ?If you want to go the extra mile I think a phone call is nice but not necessary.

klmbride05 · November 2008

H's aunt sent me the FP papasan swing and sent it early. She is coming from out of state to my shower this saturday but sent the gift ahead. I called her to tell her I got it, but won't send a thank you until after the shower. But H's cousin that sent a gift, will just get a thank you card.