I hate my neighbor...nbr long vent!

Temp915122062503143 · November 2011

So I have this control freak neighbor who is catty as heck- and it's a guy.

At the bus stop every morning, which happens to be on my front lawn, my 3rd grader and his 5th grade buddy toss a football around while waiting for the bus. Occasionally this guys 1st grader joins the game as well- even though my son doesn't like him, but he is nice to him and lets him play.

Sometimes the ball goes into the street, but my son is in third grade and knows to look and see if there are cars coming before getting it (plus we live on a coldesac). And I am always out there with him. On the chance I have to go into work early, I have to ask my other neighbor to get him onto the bus and she waits out there with him- but this is where the trouble starts. Last time I wasn't there, our guy neighbor yelled at my son for going into the street and getting the ball and told him he was 'setting a bad example for the little kids'- then he took the ball away. This wasn't the first time he has yelled at him. My son hates this guy. He yells at him for riding his bike in the street, for playing too close to his house, for making noise at 7pm on a summer night bc his kids go to bed early etc... So when my son told me about this later that day I asked the guy not to do that and that I had someone watching him and she would provide discipline if needed. He took it hard and said he was just concerned with his safety- which is BS. So it was over, or so I thought.

I asked the woman to watch my son at the bus stop this past Friday, and I guess my son went out a few minutes before her (which is fine....he's in 3rd grade and the stop is in front of our house on a coldesac street) and was playing catch with his 5th grade friend again. The ball went into the street the guy yelled at him and took it away-again! Funny, only happens when I'm not there. My son just told me about this today and I called another neighbor to confirm and she said it did happen.

WTF? should I say something now, almost a week later. I know it's not a huge deal but it's annoying knowing that I have to go outside and stand with my 3rd grader at the bus stop every morning just to make sure he doesn't get bullied by this 40 year old man when I could be warm inside with my 3 year old, sipping my tea and watching to make sure he's safe from the window. Plus, my third grader is now at the point where every time this guy is outside, he comes inside from playing for fear that he is going to get yelled at. ugh...ok, vent over...I feel better

ChrissyMarie007 · November 2011

Sounds like you should call this guy and thank him. Sorry but you 3rd grader should have someone with him at all times at the bus stop- a lot can happen in a few minutes.

Sick kidnappers don't say "gee that's a cul de sac, better not kidnap from there".

bonez1219 · November 2011

I think your neighbor needs to mind his business. It doesnt sound like hes really concerned about your son but just wants to be bossy for some odd reason. If it were me Id have to say something to him again, only this time a little firmer so that he gets the message to back off. Good Luck!

Temp915122062503143 · November 2011

I should have mentioned...the "safety" he talks about is so that he doesn't get hit by a car. Thought that was clear as he is always being watched.

ChrissyMarie007 · November 2011

Jacqui2005:

So I have this control freak neighbor who is catty as heck- and it's a guy.

At the bus stop every morning, which happens to be on my front lawn, my 3rd grader and his 5th grade buddy toss a football around while waiting for the bus. Occasionally this guys 1st grader joins the game as well- even though my son doesn't like him, but he is nice to him and lets him play.

Sometimes the ball goes into the street, but my son is in third grade and knows to look and see if there are cars coming before getting it (plus we live on a coldesac). And I am always out there with him. On the chance I have to go into work early, I have to ask my other neighbor to get him onto the bus and she waits out there with him- but this is where the trouble starts. Last time I wasn't there, our guy neighbor yelled at my son for going into the street and getting the ball and told him he was 'setting a bad example for the little kids'- then he took the ball away. This wasn't the first time he has yelled at him. My son hates this guy. He yells at him for riding his bike in the street, for playing too close to his house, for making noise at 7pm on a summer night bc his kids go to bed early etc... So when my son told me about this later that day I asked the guy not to do that and that I had someone watching him and she would provide discipline if needed. He took it hard and said he was just concerned with his safety- which is BS. So it was over, or so I thought.

I asked the woman to watch my son at the bus stop this past Friday, and I guess my son went out a few minutes before her (which is fine....he's in 3rd grade and the stop is in front of our house on a coldesac street) and was playing catch with his 5th grade friend again. The ball went into the street the guy yelled at him and took it away-again! Funny, only happens when I'm not there. My son just told me about this today and I called another neighbor to confirm and she said it did happen.

WTF? should I say something now, almost a week later. I know it's not a huge deal but it's annoying knowing that I have to go outside and stand with my 3rd grader at the bus stop every morning just to make sure he doesn't get bullied by this 40 year old man when I could be warm inside with my 3 year old, sipping my tea and watching to make sure he's safe from the window. Plus, my third grader is now at the point where every time this guy is outside, he comes inside from playing for fear that he is going to get yelled at. ugh...ok, vent over...I feel better

greengirl0909 · November 2011

Like someone else said, I think I'd be glad someone else was looking out for my kid. He might be a little firmer than you, but he is keeping an eye on things.

acooper18 · November 2011

I agree with you. Your son sounds competent. He should be able to get a ball from the street without someone yelling at him. Especially on a cul-de-sac.

saturdaysuiteheart · November 2011

i would say something. also i dont think it's anyones business how you wish to raise your child.

e_dogsgirl · November 2011

Can the 2 boys play catch in the yard more and then maybe the ball won't land in the street all the time and then the guy can find something else to complain about.

What about the 5th grader? Does the guy yell at him too?

Sounds like you just have a crappy neighbor and nothing is going to please him.

ashmarie22 · November 2011

ChrissyMarie007:

Sounds like you should call this guy and thank him. Sorry but you 3rd grader should have someone with him at all times at the bus stop- a lot can happen in a few minutes.

Sick kidnappers don't say "gee that's a cul de sac, better not kidnap from there".

Not to sound rude....but by 3rd grade a child should be able to be alone for "a few minutes," especially if waiting for the bus with other kids/adults around. I shutter to think of all the kids with helicopter parents who often become incompetent because of this.

I agree that nosey neigbbor needs to back off. That would drive me crazy.

RaeAnt · November 2011

So why doesn't the older 5th grader get the ball or the neighbor if he's that concerned about your son? He could say that he knows you allow it, but he'd feel more comfortable getting. What a Kumquat!

acbeeman · November 2011

ChrissyMarie007:
Jacqui2005:

So I have this control freak neighbor who is catty as heck- and it's a guy.

At the bus stop every morning, which happens to be on my front lawn, my 3rd grader and his 5th grade buddy toss a football around while waiting for the bus. Occasionally this guys 1st grader joins the game as well- even though my son doesn't like him, but he is nice to him and lets him play.

Sometimes the ball goes into the street, but my son is in third grade and knows to look and see if there are cars coming before getting it (plus we live on a coldesac). And I am always out there with him. On the chance I have to go into work early, I have to ask my other neighbor to get him onto the bus and she waits out there with him- but this is where the trouble starts. Last time I wasn't there, our guy neighbor yelled at my son for going into the street and getting the ball and told him he was 'setting a bad example for the little kids'- then he took the ball away. This wasn't the first time he has yelled at him. My son hates this guy. He yells at him for riding his bike in the street, for playing too close to his house, for making noise at 7pm on a summer night bc his kids go to bed early etc... So when my son told me about this later that day I asked the guy not to do that and that I had someone watching him and she would provide discipline if needed. He took it hard and said he was just concerned with his safety- which is BS. So it was over, or so I thought.

I asked the woman to watch my son at the bus stop this past Friday, and I guess my son went out a few minutes before her (which is fine....he's in 3rd grade and the stop is in front of our house on a coldesac street) and was playing catch with his 5th grade friend again. The ball went into the street the guy yelled at him and took it away-again! Funny, only happens when I'm not there. My son just told me about this today and I called another neighbor to confirm and she said it did happen.

WTF? should I say something now, almost a week later. I know it's not a huge deal but it's annoying knowing that I have to go outside and stand with my 3rd grader at the bus stop every morning just to make sure he doesn't get bullied by this 40 year old man when I could be warm inside with my 3 year old, sipping my tea and watching to make sure he's safe from the window. Plus, my third grader is now at the point where every time this guy is outside, he comes inside from playing for fear that he is going to get yelled at. ugh...ok, vent over...I feel better

I think you need to re-read this. She clearly stated that this only happens when she has to go in to work early and her neighbor has to watch her son and get him on to the bus.

Also, as PP said at 3rd grade he should be just fine to stand on his own lawn and wait for the bus with other students and parents. Its not like shes sending him a block away by himself.

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