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Parents......ugh!! (vent)

TomsShugShugTomsShugShug member
in November 2011 Moms
I have explained to both my mom, who lives about 20 minutes away and will be watching LO once I go back to work, and my dad and step-mom, who live 2,000 miles away, that we want the first week at home to ourself to kind of settle in and find some sort of a groove with a newborn. I know that if I NEED help, my mom is only 20 minutes away and can be here to help. Both sets of parents are acting like it is the end of the world that they won't be able to be at my house every waking moment. I plan on breast feeding so it's not like they can get up with her in the middle of the night to help with a feeding or two. I don't know if I'm just a complete moron for wanting to have some alone time with LO before everyone and their dog wants to come over to my house and tell me what to do. Both my mom and step-mom think they always know best, even though neither one of them has been around a baby in 20+ years. I'm already fed up with both of them and my baby isn't even here yet!! Ugh!! I'm just super grumpy and want to meet my LO already! I just gotta keep thinking it's only 2 more weeks, max!
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Re: Parents......ugh!! (vent)

  • brainpaganbrainpagan member
    The way I see it is its your baby and your experience. So if that is what you want they need to understand. Its hard because for them this is their experience too and they want to be involved too, but in the end its really your call. Also, you never know. You might end up changing your mind once LO arrives. And if you are already frustrated with the situation it will only make you less willing/able to hold your tongue (I know if would make it harder for me) so you may be saving them from enduring your rath. Hang in there. I do feel your pain. My mom has been here "helping" for two wks and only now is she actually being very helpful rather then driving me up the wall.  
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  • avaleiavalei member
    If you're fed up already, imagine how much worse it would be if you backed down and let them come! Stand your ground, but also be understanding - they want to be a part of their grandchild's first weeks. Maybe there's a compromise you can make that would take the edge off that? If not, it's your baby and you DO need time for you and your husband to bond with the baby!
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  • tinydancingqueentinydancingqueen
    I'm in the same boat as you.  I want as much time to bond and breastfeed before family gets involved.  Stand your ground, its your decision.  They will get over it, and even if they don't, does it really matter?
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  • Twin.PeaksTwin.Peaks
    Stick to your guns. I have always done our home alone time after each birth and its the best thing ever.
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