Cosleeping and Bedsharing...

Athena0809 · November 2011

Are two different things. I've seen many posts here about "cosleeping" and almost all of them refer to bedsharing. I'm not trying to be a smarta$$ trying to correct people here, it's just that by definition there are many forms of cosleeping, like having LO in a pnp in your room, and then there's bedsharing, another form of cosleeping. I just don't want people hearing the term and assuming it's a bad thing because cosleeping, not bedsharing, is advised by the AAP...just saying Stick out tongue

now carry on folks

kerrbear72 · November 2011

I would not consider a PnP in your bedroom co-sleeping.

kacelle · November 2011

kerrbear72:
I would not consider a PnP in your bedroom co-sleeping.

But when the AAP recommends co-sleeping until 6 months, they are referring to a bassinet or crib in the parents' room, not to bedsharing.

Jram85 · November 2011

My brain defines them like this:

co-sleeping: baby sleeps in parents room in a separate bed/bassinet/crib/pnp

bed sharing: baby sleeps in the parents bed

The word confusion sort of irks me too, but whatev.

jazzyag · November 2011

Steph&Harry08:
Are two different things. I've seen many posts here about "cosleeping" and almost all of them refer to bedsharing. I'm not trying to be a smarta$$ trying to correct people here, it's just that by definition there are many forms of cosleeping, like having LO in a pnp in your room, and then there's bedsharing, another form of cosleeping. I just don't want people hearing the term and assuming it's a bad thing because cosleeping, not bedsharing, is advised by the AAP...just saying now carry on folks

This is how I see it too.

melandjudd · November 2011

melpatbat:
Co-sleeping is having your baby in your room. Why wouldn't a PnP count?

This.

kerrbear72 · November 2011

kacelle:
kerrbear72:
I would not consider a PnP in your bedroom co-sleeping.
But when the AAP recommends co-sleeping until 6 months, they are referring to a bassinet or crib in the parents' room, not to bedsharing.

Correct.

To me, a PnP in my room is room sharing. Co-sleeping would require a co-sleeper. Bed sharing is sleeping in the same bed.

Semantics.

Athena0809 · November 2011

kerrbear72:
kacelle:

kerrbear72:
I would not consider a PnP in your bedroom co-sleeping.

But when the AAP recommends co-sleeping until 6 months, they are referring to a bassinet or crib in the parents' room, not to bedsharing.

Correct.

To me, a PnP in my room is room sharing. Co-sleeping would require a co-sleeper. Bed sharing is sleeping in the same bed.

Semantics.

Here is the expert definition on cosleeping:

"Co-sleeping in the context of infant care practices refers to any situation in which the infant sleeps close, within sensory range, of a committed caregiver permitting each (the infant and caregiver) to detect and respond to the sensory signals and cues of the other (smells, whisperings, movements, sounds, touches, heat.

By the way, keep in mind that infants do not have to be in the same bed in order to ?cosleep?, as a bassinet next to the bed, or a crib"

A bassinet or crib is the same thing as having a pnp, I used the example of a pnp but it means any separate surface. So, a pnp or a crib or a bassinet in your room = cosleeping.

kerrbear72 · November 2011

Steph&Harry08:
kerrbear72:
kacelle:

kerrbear72:
I would not consider a PnP in your bedroom co-sleeping.

But when the AAP recommends co-sleeping until 6 months, they are referring to a bassinet or crib in the parents' room, not to bedsharing.

Correct.

To me, a PnP in my room is room sharing. Co-sleeping would require a co-sleeper. Bed sharing is sleeping in the same bed.

Semantics.

Here is the expert definition on cosleeping:

"Co-sleeping in the context of infant care practices refers to any situation in which the infant sleeps close, within sensory range, of a committed caregiver permitting each (the infant and caregiver) to detect and respond to the sensory signals and cues of the other (smells, whisperings, movements, sounds, touches, heat.

By the way, keep in mind that infants do not have to be in the same bed in order to ?cosleep?, as a bassinet next to the bed, or a crib"

A bassinet or crib is the same thing as having a pnp, I used the example of a pnp but it means any separate surface. So, a pnp or a crib or a bassinet in your room = cosleeping.

I'm fully familiar with the definitions of co-sleeping and bed sharing. I'll just never understand how someone who puts a bassinet or PnP somewhere in their bedroom considers that co-sleeping. Unless the baby is on the same level as you, directly next to you, I'm not sure how you'd pick up on things like smells and heat as defined in your comment above.

melandjudd · November 2011

kerrbear72:
Steph&Harry08:
kerrbear72:
kacelle:

kerrbear72:
I would not consider a PnP in your bedroom co-sleeping.

But when the AAP recommends co-sleeping until 6 months, they are referring to a bassinet or crib in the parents' room, not to bedsharing.

Correct.

To me, a PnP in my room is room sharing. Co-sleeping would require a co-sleeper. Bed sharing is sleeping in the same bed.

Semantics.

Here is the expert definition on cosleeping:

"Co-sleeping in the context of infant care practices refers to any situation in which the infant sleeps close, within sensory range, of a committed caregiver permitting each (the infant and caregiver) to detect and respond to the sensory signals and cues of the other (smells, whisperings, movements, sounds, touches, heat.

By the way, keep in mind that infants do not have to be in the same bed in order to ?cosleep?, as a bassinet next to the bed, or a crib"

A bassinet or crib is the same thing as having a pnp, I used the example of a pnp but it means any separate surface. So, a pnp or a crib or a bassinet in your room = cosleeping.

I'm fully familiar with the definitions of co-sleeping and bed sharing. I'll just never understand how someone who puts a bassinet or PnP somewhere in their bedroom considers that co-sleeping. Unless the baby is on the same level as you, directly next to you, I'm not sure how you'd pick up on things like smells and heat as defined in your comment above.

I guess this is why I wasn't getting why you said using the pnp was not cosleeping. Our pnp on my side of the bed and since DD is still small enough to sleep in the bassinet part she pretty much right beside me. I consider this cosleeping, but I can see if they are not beside you and off in the corner of the room it would be room sharing.

Lisa Frank · November 2011

Yeah yeah yeah. I get it. But I will still call a bed-sharer a co-sleeper. I honestly don't think I heard those words much (bed-share) when my DS was born. It was always co-sleep. I'm stuck in my ways. lol

lulabellalula · November 2011

we bedshare & love it!

Raquellyo · November 2011

Steph&Harry08:
kerrbear72:
kacelle:

kerrbear72:
I would not consider a PnP in your bedroom co-sleeping.

But when the AAP recommends co-sleeping until 6 months, they are referring to a bassinet or crib in the parents' room, not to bedsharing.

Correct.

To me, a PnP in my room is room sharing. Co-sleeping would require a co-sleeper. Bed sharing is sleeping in the same bed.

Semantics.

Here is the expert definition on cosleeping:

"Co-sleeping in the context of infant care practices refers to any situation in which the infant sleeps close, within sensory range, of a committed caregiver permitting each (the infant and caregiver) to detect and respond to the sensory signals and cues of the other (smells, whisperings, movements, sounds, touches, heat.

By the way, keep in mind that infants do not have to be in the same bed in order to ?cosleep?, as a bassinet next to the bed, or a crib"

A bassinet or crib is the same thing as having a pnp, I used the example of a pnp but it means any separate surface. So, a pnp or a crib or a bassinet in your room = cosleeping.

We had EJ in our room for 2 weeks before she moved into her own room (which I thought was the best thing we ever did...), so I don't know a lot about benefits of cosleeping or bedsharing.

Bolded above, if there are whispers, movements, sounds, etc....what exactly do you need to respond to? Obviously you would respond to cries and things (and I guess I can understand "smells") but I don't think I understand exactly what this is supposed to mean overall. I was under the assumption that the main reason for cosleeping/bedsharing was just to be..close?

We traveled once overnight to DH's dad's house and took the pnp, and with her sleeping with us in the same room I could just hear her moving her feet (swish swish swish) and little grunts here and there ALL NIGHT...I couldn't get a wink of sleep! I remember thinking "wow, moving her into her own room really was the best thing ever..."

pinkflipflops44 · November 2011

by the 'definition' of co-sleeping, it appears we are still co-sleeping since our bedrooms are so close id ont even require a monitor and hear everything and can feel that our house is freezing as well.:P

last night? definitely a bedshare night. Surprise

Athena0809 · November 2011

Raquellyo:
Steph&Harry08:
kerrbear72:
kacelle:

kerrbear72:
I would not consider a PnP in your bedroom co-sleeping.

But when the AAP recommends co-sleeping until 6 months, they are referring to a bassinet or crib in the parents' room, not to bedsharing.

Correct.

To me, a PnP in my room is room sharing. Co-sleeping would require a co-sleeper. Bed sharing is sleeping in the same bed.

Semantics.

Here is the expert definition on cosleeping:

"Co-sleeping in the context of infant care practices refers to any situation in which the infant sleeps close, within sensory range, of a committed caregiver permitting each (the infant and caregiver) to detect and respond to the sensory signals and cues of the other (smells, whisperings, movements, sounds, touches, heat.

By the way, keep in mind that infants do not have to be in the same bed in order to ?cosleep?, as a bassinet next to the bed, or a crib"

A bassinet or crib is the same thing as having a pnp, I used the example of a pnp but it means any separate surface. So, a pnp or a crib or a bassinet in your room = cosleeping.

We had EJ in our room for 2 weeks before she moved into her own room (which I thought was the best thing we ever did...), so I don't know a lot about benefits of cosleeping or bedsharing.

Bolded above, if there are whispers, movements, sounds, etc....what exactly do you need to respond to? Obviously you would respond to cries and things (and I guess I can understand "smells") but I don't think I understand exactly what this is supposed to mean overall. I was under the assumption that the main reason for cosleeping/bedsharing was just to be..close?

We traveled once overnight to DH's dad's house and took the pnp, and with her sleeping with us in the same room I could just hear her moving her feet (swish swish swish) and little grunts here and there ALL NIGHT...I couldn't get a wink of sleep! I remember thinking "wow, moving her into her own room really was the best thing ever..."

I wrote this post to make a clarification not with the intention to start a "is cosleeping good or bad" debate. I just wanted people to know what bedsharing is a form of cosleeping and cosleeping can mean different set ups. People hear cosleep and assume it's bedsharing. I am pro cosleeping, since the AAP recommends cosleeping (like an arms reach or pnp next to your bed) until 6 month of age, heck I'm even pro bedsharing.

If you want to know the benefits of cosleeping (that IMO outweigh a "good night sleep" by not hearing my baby stir in the middle of the night) here is a link to the Scientific Benefits of Cosleeping.

Raquellyo · November 2011

Steph&Harry08:
Raquellyo:
Steph&Harry08:
kerrbear72:
kacelle:

kerrbear72:
I would not consider a PnP in your bedroom co-sleeping.

But when the AAP recommends co-sleeping until 6 months, they are referring to a bassinet or crib in the parents' room, not to bedsharing.

Correct.

To me, a PnP in my room is room sharing. Co-sleeping would require a co-sleeper. Bed sharing is sleeping in the same bed.

Semantics.

Here is the expert definition on cosleeping:

"Co-sleeping in the context of infant care practices refers to any situation in which the infant sleeps close, within sensory range, of a committed caregiver permitting each (the infant and caregiver) to detect and respond to the sensory signals and cues of the other (smells, whisperings, movements, sounds, touches, heat.

By the way, keep in mind that infants do not have to be in the same bed in order to ?cosleep?, as a bassinet next to the bed, or a crib"

A bassinet or crib is the same thing as having a pnp, I used the example of a pnp but it means any separate surface. So, a pnp or a crib or a bassinet in your room = cosleeping.

We had EJ in our room for 2 weeks before she moved into her own room (which I thought was the best thing we ever did...), so I don't know a lot about benefits of cosleeping or bedsharing.

Bolded above, if there are whispers, movements, sounds, etc....what exactly do you need to respond to? Obviously you would respond to cries and things (and I guess I can understand "smells") but I don't think I understand exactly what this is supposed to mean overall. I was under the assumption that the main reason for cosleeping/bedsharing was just to be..close?

We traveled once overnight to DH's dad's house and took the pnp, and with her sleeping with us in the same room I could just hear her moving her feet (swish swish swish) and little grunts here and there ALL NIGHT...I couldn't get a wink of sleep! I remember thinking "wow, moving her into her own room really was the best thing ever..."

I wrote this post to make a clarification not with the intention to start a "is cosleeping good or bad" debate. I just wanted people to know what bedsharing is a form of cosleeping and cosleeping can mean different set ups. People hear cosleep and assume it's bedsharing. I am pro cosleeping, since the AAP recommends cosleeping (like an arms reach or pnp next to your bed) until 6 month of age, heck I'm even pro bedsharing.

If you want to know the benefits of cosleeping (that IMO outweigh a "good night sleep" by not hearing my baby stir in the middle of the night) here is a link to the Scientific Benefits of Cosleeping.

Thanks for the link! Really interesting...I am pretty ignorant on the subject (along with the difference between cosleeping/bedsharing -- geez, I am learning a few new things today) so the info is enlightening. Might be something I will reconsider for #2.

kerrbear72 · November 2011

pinkflipflops44:
by the 'definition' of co-sleeping, it appears we are still co-sleeping since our bedrooms are so close id ont even require a monitor and hear everything and can feel that our house is freezing as well.:P

last night? definitely a bedshare night.

Which is why I'm refuting some portions of the definition of co-sleeping.

We bedshare a bit too often lately Embarrassed

pinkflipflops44 · November 2011

kerrbear72:
pinkflipflops44:

by the 'definition' of co-sleeping, it appears we are still co-sleeping since our bedrooms are so close id ont even require a monitor and hear everything and can feel that our house is freezing as well.:P

last night? definitely a bedshare night.

Which is why I'm refuting some portions of the definition of co-sleeping.

We bedshare a bit too often lately

Give D the talk we gave I tonight. No partying at 2 in the morning until college! And I had her hang out with her daddy tonight because he was what she wanted in the middle of the night lastnight.she would NOT stop staring at him, flinging herself at him and wanting to cuddle with him. Apparently she is a daddy's girl. If only he could grow boobs with milk.

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