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Pregnant after a Loss
Anyone else feel the same? (joing the gripe session)
Maybe it's because I'm just ready to meet LO, but I've been increasingly annoyed with others IRL.
I'm getting so sick of people commenting on various things. Things like when baby will arrive (gee thanks so much for reminding me there is always the possiblity of going over due...EVER HEARD OF INDUCTION?!?), or telling me how I'm going to feel when baby girl gets here, or commenting on how tiny I am for full term. I know people making the comments have no intention of being annoying, but the are none the less! Just so many things...I have always hated unsolicited advice, but especially now.
Anyone else feel this way? Or just need to gripe about something?
Nov. 19, 2010 BFP #1--m/c Dec. 24th, 2010
First cycle after m/c on Feb. 2, 2011--March 8th, 2011 BFP #2 EDD Nov. 19, 2011.
Nadia Dorothy Grace born on 11-18-11 @ 3:04pm 6lbs 14oz
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Re: Anyone else feel the same? (joing the gripe session)
I've got a long way to go and things are already annoying me! I have already gotten annoyed with some people's comments about how things change once you have a kid and "just you wait". Duh...I know things change, but just because you did something a certain way doesn't mean I have to do it that way too.
Also, today I got my first negative reaction when I said we were keeping our baby's name a secret. "That's just dumb". Well, I don't care if you think it's dumb, it's what we want so there!
I am definitely not in the same place as you pregnancy-wise... but I totally get the annoyed with people stuff.
I swear, no matter what I do at work, som nosy nellie is flinging an "OMG are you pregnant?" at me. I say something about lunch... "You're eating an awful lot today... are you... you know?" Am I what? hungry. Yes. I love food. "I've never seen that shirt before... is that a maternity shirt?" For Christ sake, the pee on the stick isn't even dry yet and I KNOW I am no where near showing. As a matter of fact, I have lost a few pounds since the last time I saw you, so bite me. I say I need to leave 30 minutes early for an appointment. "Aww.... Are you?" Am I what? Going to the dentist. Abso-freaking-lutely. Now get off my case.
I am pregnant. I am NOT going to tell you until I absolutely have to (even though I am so excited I want to plaster it on a billboard). My family doesn't know. My friends don't know. And you certainly will NOT knnow until long after they do. As a matter of fact, you will be the last group of people to find out. Stop prying.
Don't get me wrong, I am so absolutely over the moon excited to finally BE pregnant... but I am so annoyed at these crazy people at work who are just digging for info. And I get the feeling its not so much out of genuine excitement... but rather because they need something new to gossip about.
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Yeah... I am ready to throat punch my sister. Might sound a little harsh but you'd get it if you knew her. She is one of those people that has no internal filter at all. She never thinks before she speaks. She is also one of those that can get pregnant just by thinking about it and has never had a loss. (Kinda jealous about this one.)
If I hear one more "just wait" comment from her, I may lose it. Yes she has been pregnant 3 times and her oldest is 3. I know it is all fresh in her memory, but I am not her. I have different problems that she never had to deal with. And now she keeps asking in really snotty ways why I have so many dr's appointments. "Well why do you have to see a hematologist? Is it because aspirin isn't good for the baby?" Hello!!!!!! Aspirin is what kept my baby alive. I don't know how many times I have to tell her that. I think I may just stop telling her when I have appointments unless it is a regular monthly appointment.
Ahhh.... that helped some! Thanks for this thread!
Ha, people have no end of advice to pregnant women and women with very young children. Someone once accosted me leaving Home Depot, because I had bought my 2yo a hot dog. Not for a choking hazard, mind you (he was eating just fine by then) but because I should feel "ashamed of myself because I'm giving my child nitrates like that." Really?
Hang in there, random people is all part of the fun of being pregnant, even if it's annoying.
I know exactly how you feel. Thanks for this post because I desperately need to vent!
I am already overdue so everyone just keeps texting and calling asking how I feeling and if I am in labor yet. I know they mean well but I will tell them when it finally happens. It is stressful enough being overdue!
Also everyone has told me my entire pregnancy that I am so small. People always comment that I am going to have a small baby. My mother says that I am overdue because my baby needs to grow more.
I am going out of my mind! All I can think about all day is when will my baby finally get here and will she please come before they induce me so I don't really feel like hearing other people's comments!
Soon we will have our LOs and all this will be worth it! I have had to tell myself that a thousand times today!
I still have 10 weeks to go and it isn't just unsolicited advice that is getting to me. It is playful teasing and over all silly behavior by grown adults. Like pretending your card won't scan or asking why I turned the heat off outside.....
Why do you have to bug me?? Just leave me alone.. I don't care that you are pretending to hold your scan tag funny if you don't want to scan it then go home because I don't care if you work out........
Just stupid little things are driving me nuts so I won't even start on the dang you're about to pop aren't you......You haven't had that baby yet.....
I really want to say nope I had him but liked wobbling around so much I decided to swallow a basketbll and leave it there. Or oh no I like him so much better in there he causes so much less trouble....
I really want to say just don't, just don't talk to me at all......
See it isn't just you and I have a while yet.....I feel bad for the people that know me....
I'm really tired of all the constant checking in on me. I know it comes from a good place, but I really want to talk about something besides whether I am having contractions or the state of my cervix. Plus, I'm tired of everyone acting like I did something wrong- trust me, the last thing I wanted was to start going into labor at 32w and end up in the hospital and then on bed rest.
And if one more person tells me how lucky I am to be on bed rest/light activity, how jealous they are, how much fun I must be having, I am going to scream. Yes, I know it sounds nice in theory, but it really isn't exactly a blast.
Oh, and if my MIL tells me one more time that she is sure that I won't make it to Thanksgiving, I will cross my legs and not let LO out under any circumstances out of sheer perverseness.
Phew. Definitely needed to get that out- thanks for hosting this gripe session!
Ella born 12/21/11
I mentioned my GD to my staff and two of my staff member give me grief about what I eat daily most of the time they make up stuff just to pick on me and I get so mad.
The other day we celebrated birthday(s) in our department I had a small slice of Red velvet cheese cake it was awesome and I would have loved to eat more, but I know my limits and I know over eating sweets could alter my readings. I they are still talking smack about that small slice of cake.
I am GD my levels are very good 2hrs after meals which according to my OB and MFM, my diet is good, my reading first thing in the morning or at what they call fasting are high and therefore they concluded I need additional insulin, my body is not producing enough for the baby and I and to avoid overworking his little body I have to give myself shots.
I've said it before and it hasn't been untrue once yet... my least favorite part of being pg is other people!!!
And I'll add that if I say or post on FB that I'm tired... don't tell me "Well the next 2 years are going to be like this so might as well get used to it" - Yeah I signed up for the kid part, I did NOT sign up for work calling morning and night while I'm freaking asleep... Not all sleep depravation is baby related!!! GRRRRRRR!!!!!! And as if I didn't farking know I'm going to be tired w/ a newborn. Cripes people. Thank you for assuming that I'm stupid and clueless. Always flattering. We'll add that to the size and what you're eating comments... the whole "Well take advantage of eating whatever you want" thing is on the list too... then the whole "Well eating for 2 is a myth, you know, you don't want to do that really" - Fark me. Cause I'm too dumb to figure out that a 3 lb baby doesn't need 2000 calories. Gah people are obnoxious!