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May 2011 Moms
The FB group...
I belong to it and love all the other ladies who do as well. In an earlier post about this board not being as lively as it once was, so many ladies are opposed to it. I'm curious as to why...
Is it that you prefer anonymity? Because honestly, everyone that belongs to the group is super nice, there's no judgy, snobby drama and it's so much easier to ask questions, see pictures of all the babies and post pictures of your own.
So let's hear it- why such the opposition to the facebook group?
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Re: The FB group...
With 50 awesome people, there is 1 a**hole that will ruin it for the entire bunch.
Call it experience. Call it inevitable. Whatever. I've been here for almost 10 years (the knot/nest/bump) and it happens.every.time.
Burn me once? Shame on you. Burn me twice? Shame on me.
Ultimately, you are strangers. I don't know you personally, and I'm not willing to share my children/my life with people that I occasionally chat with online.
There is an exception though. I've made a few really close friends over the years. But whenever I've been a part of a large group outside of this place, bad things happen.
Sorry, gotta call bullshite on the bolded part. https://media.community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/57362420/ShowThread.aspx
I'm opposed to it because I only want my real life friends (or the internet friends I would like to meet in real life) seeing all of my personal info and photos.
You aren't interested in the group for hypothetical reasons? And because you prefer not to share your life and children with internet strangers? Sharing photos and your life with the group is optional, of course. It's just better than using this old school forum. And as far as the possibility of it taking one person to piss another or a few off, I can agree. However, it's the internet, you can choose not be a part of it and just ignore it. But like I said, the ladies over there are incredibly nice and down to earth women and they almost feel like a second family.
If you're comfortable here then by all means, stay.
I'm not interested in that particular group, or rather I guess the ringleaders of it, because of several things that have been done in the past that brought a lot of drama to this board and the 0-3 board. A bunch of childish stupidity. Additionally, I don't want anything to do with people who gossiped about me online when they could have just PMd me here, emailed me or sent me a FB message. Or even texted me! I don't have room in my life for that in real life so why would I want to be involved in it online?
I share plenty of photos and life stuff on my blog, but much more personal stuff on my FB account. I don't want above said crazy b!tches having access to that stuff. I don't care if I piss people off, but there are really crazy people out there. Several people on the bump/nest have gotten fired from jobs because crazy girls emailed links to posts to their bosses. Seriously!
It is the internet, and I guess there are some of us here who have chosen not be part of it. I like the girls I chat with here and I have a lot of friends so I don't really need a "second family" of catty immature people. (My real life family has enough of that, LOL.)
No one in the group can see any info you aren't willing to share unless you become friends. Like I said, you don't have to post anything you don't want others in the group to see. You can ask all the same questions you ask here but access the group so much easier... I'm just saying. And wait, don't you have an open blog? Not saying that you share extremely personal stuff there but it is public, I believe. And please don't take any of this the wrong way, I like you just fine even if some of the others don't. I never saw the thread you linked.
I find that the girl there are extremely supportive and give great advice! The great thing about facebook is that you don't HAVE to look at anything you don't want to.
Pook, I heart you. Really but that wasn't a fair post so call BS on. There really aren't "ringleaders" and I know that there were several of us that came to your defense. Including me. One person does not speak for the whole group. Like I said before there are pros and cons to both. I participate in both. I don't share a whole lot of stuff there or here anymore.
P.S. Why can't I see some new Georgia cuteness?
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
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Saramae, can I ask you why you care so much why some of us are personally against it?
It's not my cup of tea for reasons stated. You have a blog (if I recall) and you like sharing. Some of us don't.
Move on, please.
One more reason:
A quick google search of a name and location brings up google images of your home. Did you know that?? Just an FYI.
I'm not saying all people are cray. But watch your back ladies. And don't razz those of us that have learned the hard way.
I participate here (after a very long break) only because it's a fun time suck, I'm entertained while I work, and I feel like I can add something to this place.
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Why does it sound like you are trying to sell us the FB group?
I personally use FB for my friends and family. I like the ladies here but I don't need to know what they had for lunch today, it's not so much about anonymity because some here have pictures on their siggys or links to their blogs we post our babies names some even have our real name in our username (or is it me the only one that couldn't come up with a better one when signing up for the knot? lol).
So, no. I post question here I get answer here, that's all I need.
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I'm in the FB group but I don't really participate in it much. Mostly because it blows up my phone/page and it's harder to follow than the bump. Plus, I was a late addition and, I'll be honest, I feel like an outsider since everyone sort of already knows each other on a more personal level.
I know, you're all nice girls, but it's like a sorority and I'm the pledge.
I hate that you feel this way.
I feel like we were such a part of you having the boys.
Me too. I wish you would participate more.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
And now you're talking about participating in a place where not all of us are joint members.
See the disconnect? Oh, hi guys! We know you read here...so what translates back there?
Catch my drift? Maybe the problem is really that you guys should participate more in this place vs. Facebook. Just sayin'.
I'm feeling this board picking up a bit. And I like it.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
I'm confused??
I am not trying to talk anyone into joining FB if they don't want.
For me it is easier.
I'm kind of thinking sharing one's name is too much information to share for some of us.
And why do I have Antoine in my head saying "bishes be crazzy.." "hide yo wife.. hide yo kids.."
i should go to bed.
lol!
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
I don't think so - I agree with the others that it sounded like you were trying to sell us on the FB group. It's fine if you're for it.
I'm not joining because even though you can choose who you share what info with on FB, your name is still out there. My name is generic enough that I don't mind having it as my SN here (although in retrospect if I had known I was going to post so much then I would have used something even more anonymous). I don't think I've ever engaged in any flaming or bullying, so I don't think it's fair that you say I'm hiding behind my SN to do so. I simply don't want any friends, family, coworkers, or future bosses or clients to find out the info I've shared on here from anyone who gets pissed at me in the FB group. And as nice as some people seem, I don't know any of you. Another board I'm on exploded over the weekend when one of the women shared private info about another because she got angry. The info was shared within the "privacy" of the FB group (which I am also not on). It only takes one person to blast it out to the whole world.
I've never said anything against the FB group other than it's too bad that it seems to be pulling people away from posting here. I don't even really know who's on it and who's not. However, I do think that saying there is no risk at all is a statement that ignores the highly internet-dependent and increasingly internet-savvy world we live in. There's a risk posting info on here that someone will dig through all your old posts and be able to figure out who you are, but in my opinion there's a slightly higher risk posting on the FB group because it's not as much effort to connect my name with what I've posted.
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For once, I'm not the one swearing. How about you take it down a notch?
Look, I've been burned here. Personal photos of mine have been stolen, altered. I've been stalked. Some jerk put my name out here without my consent when I was on these boards w/ my son.
It's amazing I'm even here participating in any fashion, because after learning what some people are capable of on an internet message board, it freaks me out.
So, sorry that you don't like it that some of us are "hiding behind our screen names" but maybe you should think before you ASSume.
Indeed, you are
And Kelly, two thumbs up, girl.
True, but there are 3-4 who are like constant drama when they post here.
I'm lazy on the sig pic, but I put photos of her on my blog.
Who is hiding behind her screen name? I dont' see anyone being bitchy or a bully. It sounds like those who don't want to be part of it - don't...just like you said.
Do you really think it's "clicky?" That kind of makes me sad... I know there are some who don't have the same opinions on things, but maybe I'm naive and don't see the separation.
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Um, you seem to be the only one getting worked up and it's a little bizarre. They've given very valid reasons to not join. And they're not even required to.
If I didn't already belong to the FB group I'd be backing even further away based on your posts, frankly.
Clicky might be the wrong word, but sometimes because I joined late, I too feel like a newbie and I am not on the IN. That said, I like posting in both places and so many of you are incredible. On the other hand, I DO in fact recall some of the girls on FB saying they wanted a smaller group.
Either way, I have fun where ever I go and even when I had a VERY unpopular opinion one day, I was still welcome....
I'm going to have to agree with that. It's a little creeptastic you care this much.
DS 6.12.11
Hypermenorrhea, Anovulatory & Hypothyroid
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Ribbons like this one are why I'm not part of the FB group.
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I have made a few "real" friends via the Nest, and we're FB friends even though we've never met. One of them awesomely mailed me some hand me down clothes.
I knew those ladies online for years before I let them know my real name, though. I don't just give that info to a whole group of people that I know includes some that don't really like me much.
I like my privacy and anonymity, I guess. And that is definitely born out of experience.
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I do go on the facebook group, but I find the posts much more difficult to keep track of. I like how this is set up and I can read post titles. On facebook I feel like I miss a lot of what happens.