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Having my 2nd miscarriage :(

WittyKittyKatWittyKittyKat
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Just got back from ER

I miscarried.  I started brown spotting that turned into a light bleed and went to ER and they found nothing in my uterus.  My hcg was 66. I am not shocked as they started really low..highest they got was 102

I don't know what to expect now...as with my first miscarriage I was far along and had to have a D&C.  Will I bleed bad?  Does it hurt?

I knew this was going to happen becuase of my low levels and tried to brace myself, but still ended up crying at the hospital.  And do you think ANYONE said sorry for your loss or show any compassion....NO.He said he thinks the baby did not even form. Yeah, thanks buddy.

This is just so freakin crappy 

 

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Re: Having my 2nd miscarriage :(

  • Mrs.EmmaLouiseMrs.EmmaLouise member
    I am soooo sorry for your loss.  Sadly I can believe that noone said sorry for your loss, or tried to be human at all, because the same thing happened when I found out about mine.  I was 11 weeksish when I had mine and they strongly suggested a D&C, not sure if that helps.  GL, and you will be in my thoughts and prayers.  *big hugs**
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  • MerryMarisaMerryMarisa

    Oh hon, I'm so sorry.  And I can't believe the lack of compassion at the ER!  Sadly, I had the same awful experience with the ER doctor in my first m/c.

    In all my m/c's, I bled a lot and I had painful cramps the first few days.  In the m/c where I had betas close to yours, I had full red flow for about six days and spotting for the next days - by CD 10, I was finished.

    I would definitely ask your OB to do an u/s to confirm everything has passed.  ((( BIG HUGS )))

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  • knortonknorton
    I am so sorry for your loss. I can't believe so many people in the medical field are so insensitive. we are all here for you if you need anything. i hope your next couple of days go smoothly!
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  • igh0318igh0318

    I have no experience with natural m/c but I wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss.  I hope things go smoothly and you have very little (or better yet no) pain.  Take care and feel free to share your thought & feelings here.  

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  • nancyandnatenancyandnate

    I am so sorry you are going through this again. ?My second one was still the hardest. ?I've had three natural m/c and one d&c. ?With my natural ones, the bleeding is similar to a heavy period and I'd have a few hours of cramping and passing everything. ?Others seem to have different experiences. ?It is hard to see all the blood every time you go to the bathroom, but it isn't that bad.

    I'm sorry the medical staff was so insensitive. ?That seems to be the norm, unfortunately. ?I guess they don't really know how to deal with m/c??

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  • melodylbmelodylb member
    I am sorry for your loss. When we went for our follow up appt no one said sorry for your loss or anything of that nature they were all cold and mean. I think if you are going to be in the medical profession you need to have compassion/empathy... Sorry your experience did not go well.

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  • Lisa10eLisa10e
    I am so sorry, it is really crappy. I had an early loss in July and just bled like a normal period. Sorry your going though this again. ((hugs))
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  • CEK977CEK977
    I'm so sorry.  I think it stinks that people who see this all the time forget that a woman is losing a child- I'm not sure why people don't think of it that way.  I'm so sorry for your loss...  I had an ectopic so I can't really answer your questions.  (((HUGS)))
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  • MrsA2BeMrsA2Be

    I am sorry for your loss.  From the moment you got that BFP - you welcomed your baby into your heart.  Screw them for not acknowledging that.  {{HUGS}}

    I can't answer the D&C question - but wanted to send my condolences.

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  • mp1648mp1648

    I am really sorry - and what a crappy comment about the "baby not forming" what the hell is wrong with people? 

    ((HUGS))

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  • aandgaandg member

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I've also had two miscarriages. My first was natural and I bled for about a week and had some pretty bad cramps. I took the Motrin that they gave me at the ER and that helped a lot. They really weren't any worse than the cramps that I am having right now following my D&C.?

    I wish you the best and I'm sorry that you had such a bad experience at the ER. I think that medical people sometimes forget that things like this don't happen to us everyday. We aren't used to it like they are. Again, I wish you the best and this board is a very supportive place to be.

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  • CincyRaysb2bCincyRaysb2b
    I don't know what to say except I'm sorry you have to go through this again. I wish Oprah would do a segment on miscarriages and get people to better understand and to show a little compassion. If you want me to send a letter to your ER I totally will.
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