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January 2012 Moms
cbkeni
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Random Annoyance...
cbkeni
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Does anyone else get annoyed when people tell them they need to add stuff to their registry?
For some reason I'm irritated because my stepmom emailed me to tell me that she looked at my registry and there isn't much left on there and I need to add more because otherwise people won't know what to get me. For the record we only registered for things we felt we needed (no clothes or toys because we have a ton of hand-me-downs from my nephew) and there are still 18 items left on it...18 items that we still NEED ( ok not NEED need, but things that will actually be useful like a humidifier or bottles ) seems like plenty to me.
I think she's annoyed because my SIL threw me a shower already for my IL's and my mom's side of the family and now my stepmom is throwing me a shower for her and my dad's sides and she feels like all the good presents have already been bought. There isn't really anything "fun" on the registry for them. BUT she put off picking a date for her shower for a super long time and didn't even make her date official or send out the invitations until after I had already had my first shower, so I sort of feel like if there's nothing "fun" left on the registry it's kind of too bad. Plus I also know for a fact that if people want to get fun stuff they're going to get it whether you register for it or not. And is it just me or if you were invited to a baby shower and the registry was completely bought out wouldn't you just pick something out yourself/get them a gift card/do something else totally normal and rational? And if you were invited to a shower and they still had 18 items on the registry would you *** that there wasn't anything left for you to get?
Plus I have this weird thing where I feel like adding junk we don't need (or want) to the registry is asking people for things that I couldn't care less about having and that seems somehow greedy and rude and gift grabby. Like if you want to stray from the registry that's fine and I'll appreciate the fact that you got our baby anything because of the thought you put into it, but I'm not going to tell you to go out and buy me something the baby doesn't need.
(Side note: The 18 items left on the registry have a HUGE price range so it's not that the only things left are too expensive or anything).
I'm just irritated. The end.
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Re: Random Annoyance...
That is annoying. My mom has a variation on this: she keeps asking what we want, despite the fact that we have a registry. That she's seen. And ignored already.
I don't mind for a minute that she's buying stuff off-registry, but I don't know how to express that everything we want is ON the registry. Sheesh!
Argh! People...argh. See at least my stepmom hasn't CONTINUOUSLY bothered me about it, she's mentioned it once or twice but I feel like if I had an answer for her and she STILL kept annoying me I'd do something horrible.
I do also get people who want to spend a certain amount on the baby and get mad that nothing I registered for cost that amount. My BFF's mom wanted to spend $100 on a present for the baby but I only had things that cost either over $100 or under and she literally got upset that nothing cost the amount she wanted to pay...to the point where my BFF begged me to please just add something for $100 to shut her up. I was like "A) Buy 2 $50 items, or 4 $25 items...etc.
Don't spend $100, that's a lot of money anyway. C) Spend OVER $100...not the politest thing to ask someone to do but it's an option. D) Get the baby $100 gift card. She ended up skipping my shower and going down to Cape Cod with her friend.
I don't think you should have to add more things to your registry to make someone else happy. Leave the things that you still need and if they want to buy you something "fun" then they are going to do it whether its on the registry or not!
I had a few friends who are new Mom's that took it upon themselves to go through and "critique" my registry. Some of this was helpful (they told me they had this or that product/brand that they didn't like and told me which was better) and other parts were just annoying. One friend did not understand why I wasn't registering for things like swings, bouncy seats, etc. I explained that I had already received them second hand from friends or found them at garage sales and she looked at me like I had three heads and said "but if you put them on the registry someone might buy you one and then it would be NEW" I just sort of laughed and brushed it off, I would rather register for the few things that I still needed than get new duplicates of things I already got great deals on!
Thankfully no one has asked why I haven't registered for a bouncy seat, exersaucer, swing or other type of product. I did the same thing; got them used. I don't see the point in spending my hard earned money or my guests hard earned money on something that's only going to be used for a couple of months and that LO may or may not like. I'd rather have things that are essential and will be used frequently for a long peroid of time than things that take up tons of space and may or may not be used.