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Getting really fed up

LadyLissameLadyLissame member
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Lately, STBXH has been mentioning that if he wanted to he could file for spousal support because I was the bread winner of the house. I told him that he couldn't because he has a decent stable job that make above minimum wage (not sure if its true..... but it made him stop). He has also asked me not to file for child support because we are doing joint custody. I wasn't going to because I can afford DS on my own, but I'm thinking I'm going to anyway, especially because I financially supported his ungrateful a$$ for so long (2 years) while he went to school. I can always put the extra money in a savings account for DS. He went and got this job because we found out I was pregnant when I was unemployed.

I have not seen a lawyer yet but I am saving up my money so I can. I have a 30 minute free consult so I might use that to see if he can in fact file for spousal support and what my chances would be of getting child support. And what he thinks I should do in the mean time....

Just needed to vent.

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Re: Getting really fed up

  • crazynervouscrazynervous
    I can only tell u what happened to my friend. She was the breadwinner and her husband had jobs on and off but otherwise took care of their child. She did pay him spousal support but it was figured off how long they were married. They also had 50/50 custody and if I remember correctly she also paid him child support. I don't know if that has changed now that he finished his degree. She is still making more money than him. I don't know if that helps but thought I would share.
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  • walkntreeswalkntrees

    In my state, Colorado, the state uses a formula to calculate spousal support and child support. There has to be a percentage difference between your pay and his pay. For the child support, they put in my income, his income, the days of overnights at each parents house and it gives an amount. My sister does 50/50 in LA and neither parent pays support but she can claim the boys on her income taxes. Both parents have to keep clothes, toys, rooms etc at both houses. be very careful to set up 50/50 with no support because he can later try to make you buy everything for your house and let it go to his house.

    Good luck, hope this helps.

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  • LadyLissameLadyLissame member
    imagewalkntrees:

    In my state, Colorado, the state uses a formula to calculate spousal support and child support. There has to be a percentage difference between your pay and his pay. For the child support, they put in my income, his income, the days of overnights at each parents house and it gives an amount. My sister does 50/50 in LA and neither parent pays support but she can claim the boys on her income taxes. Both parents have to keep clothes, toys, rooms etc at both houses. be very careful to set up 50/50 with no support because he can later try to make you buy everything for your house and let it go to his house.

    Good luck, hope this helps.

    That helps a lot. Right now he is staying with his parents and they have a full stocked nursery for him. As far as I know, he doesnt pay anything. I'm also very careful what gets sent over there from my house.

    I will call a lwayer tomorrow for that free consult. Thanks ladies

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  • PrettyInPearls23PrettyInPearls23 member

    In my state, a court won't even consider spousal support unless you were married for a substantial amount of time. I'm not sure exactly how long that is, but my attorney kept making to reference of 10-15 years.

    Just something worth looking into. Definitely prepare a list of questions and meet with someone, even if it's just for a consultation.

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