sleep training? help please

itsmyangel · November 2011

never thought i needed it but here we are.....little guy falls asleep in my arms well almost asleep but when i lay him down the eyes get real wide and screaming commences....he ends up in our room in the middle of hte night...yup...i guess its time i need help....

i hate hearing him cry.....but everyone says let him do it....so i let him cry for 5 min, i went him tried to give his paci and laid him back down on his back....he is screaming the whole time and gets right back up as i leave the room.....

do i keep this up going back in and doing that same thing but with longer spans? do i not go in at all? do i go in and tell him good night ...help please

swgal · November 2011

We did some sleep training at 10 months. It was the same as you are describing, we were having to rock her to sleep, then she would instantly wake up when we put her down, then wake up in the night. So, we did CIO started with 5 minutes, go in lie her back down say mommy loves you and i'm here but it is time to sleep. Then 10 minutes, then 15. We did the same thing every time, including if she woke up in the night. The first night it took 30 minutes, the second night less than 10 I think. From then on she has been a perfect sleeper. I put her to bed wide awake, she smiles, and goes to sleep. Changed our life!

Yep it sucks to hear them cry but I honestly think of it as teaching them a really important skill. Sleep is good for everyone involved.

Good luck!

itsmyangel · November 2011

oh thank you for some reassurance that it worked and that i'm doing the right thing...so far i went in at 5 andi just went in at 10....so so far we are on 15 min....so i think about 8:33 will be my 15 min mark.....it makes me SOOOO anxious hearing him screaming like this though but i KNOW he's exhausted and we're exhausted and it doesn't help anyone for us to all be super tired....

swgal · November 2011

You can do it! I know that it seems worse when you go in because they ramp up the crying, but I do think it helps because they know you are there. Good luck. I hope it works quickly for you guys too!

AlissaCell701 · November 2011

You gotta read Ferber book! You can download it I am sure from amazon ect. It explaines it step by step.. But yes its gradual 3, 5, 10, intervals going in not picking up, giving paci if necessary, and leaving. It's hard/if you can't do it( I didnt at first) have dh help out and be the bad guy! But read the book don't do it w out reading understanding what you are doing!!

Hope that helps! Sleep problems are the worst..

ohiostategal · November 2011

AlissaCell701:
You gotta read Ferber book! You can download it I am sure from amazon ect. It explaines it step by step.. But yes its gradual 3, 5, 10, intervals going in not picking up, giving paci if necessary, and leaving. It's hard/if you can't do it( I didnt at first) have dh help out and be the bad guy! But read the book don't do it w out reading understanding what you are doing!!
Hope that helps! Sleep problems are the worst..

Ditto, we didn't do sleep training until we were completely prepared because you can't give in or the crying is for nothing. We just did sleep training and in 3 days I went from having a baby that had to be rocked until he was completely asleep and then be transferred and who slept 3 hours stretches to a kid that goes down with little crying (between none and 7-10 min) and sleeps 12-13 hour stretches. So worth it IMO. Good luck!

itsmyangel · November 2011

ok so he just vomitted....don't know if it was from being worked up or a legit belly ache.....he did get sick earlier tonight but thought that it was just from drinking apple juice real quick and then being very active

Dragonfly1226 · November 2011

We did Ferber. The first night you go in at 3, 5, and 7 minutes. Then you stick with 7 minute intervals until they fall asleep. The same thing in the middle of the night. Then the next night you start with 5, 7, and then 10 minute intervals and stick with 10. It really helped us too. GL!

swgal · November 2011

Ahh poor guy. How is he feeling today? I hope he is not actually sick.

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