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No baby= shopping and hair cuts...ohhhhhh boy...

irishfrenchgirlirishfrenchgirl
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   So...it has been almost 2 weeks since the last failed IUI.  I am still angry and have cried a little.  Some days I am fine.  Somehow I find a way to keep busy and not think too much.  However there are still moments when I snap at people.  I just can't help it.  But the WORST THING IS...........

  I can't seem to stop shopping!!!!

  Going out seems to help keep the crazies away but holy hell!  I feel the need to but things that I DO NOT NEED.  I feel better for an hour or so and then I feel guilty.  SO to curb the shopping I decided it was a good idea to get my hair cut (that I have been putting off for over a month anyway) and get my hair foiled.  Jesus...I hate it.  So now I have to go back in a week to color it back.  Wow...what a friggin rollercoaster!  

Luckily I am seeing the humor in it all.  I need to go to the craft store and get canvas so I can paint.  This is getting silly... 

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  • DKC1308DKC1308

    I spent over $300 on clothes, bought a German Shepard (NOT CHEAP), and booked 3 vacations after we got the news of the crap eggs. I mean... retail therapy IS BETTER than no therapy..right?

     Sooo...what did ya get? hahaha

     

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  • Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member
    imageDKC1308:

    I spent over $300 on clothes, bought a German Shepard (NOT CHEAP), and booked 3 vacations after we got the news of the crap eggs. I mean... retail therapy IS BETTER than no therapy..right?

     Sooo...what did ya get? hahaha


     

    I've spent way too much $$ since last weekend when I failed IVF#2.  I also got my hair cut yesterday, massage today, going out for an expensive dinner with friends tonight and booked a trip to Punta Cana for next month. Anything to get through this tough time I guess. Hugs to all.

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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  • BeckyP005BeckyP005 member

    Yes please tell...get anything good? Right now DH gave me a lecture on shopping and always getting my hair blown out when having someplace to go. I said no baby means making me happy. I'm not actually on this board yet but very soon I'm sure. Talked DH into seeing a new RE on DE IVF. That will prob not go over well....money part.

    Oh and yes I agree that all of this just makes you feel better for a little bit then WHAM...i'm back in the same place I was before shopping.

     

     

     

    ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
    Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)

    DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN  DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!


     

     

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  • irishfrenchgirlirishfrenchgirl
    Let's see...I have bought a new Fossil purse, wallet, a dress, a denim blazer, 3 pairs of shoes, makeup, nail polish for my collection( which I don't need more of), jewelry, gone out for dinner 3-4 times, and I plan on going to the mall tomorrow after I stop at work to do some planning in my classroom.  Craziness. The fall out sucks.  I would love a vacation but we are already going to visit his parents for Christmas so that will have to do for now.  UGH!  Glad to hear that you are all in the same boat.  Hope you are all managing ok.  Sending everyone lots of shopping dust!
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  • ahappywifeahappywife

    Writing a journal was also a great outlet for me.  I couldn't keep trying to buy myself happiness.  I printed out my IF journal and it is almost 100 pages long. Sometimes I read it to remind myself how far I've come since we hit the end of the road. 

    I'd also been wanting a dog since we had gotten married.  DH never had pets growing up and he always resisted.  Once we hit the end, DH got me a puppy for my birthday.  She helped mend my broken heart.  I love her to bits.  

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  • GildedIconGildedIcon
    We also got our first dog ever,soon to be 2. :) We will get a puppy in a week.Our dog has a great life.Anything she (I ) wants or needs she gets! We also bought luxury sports cars we would have NEVER bought if we had kids. We could have bought SEVERAL beamers with cash for the $ we spent on IVF but I not going to get bitter here.I truly believe we are allowed to treat ourselves for what we have been through.Do not feel guilty ladies.
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