friends come and go..but how to move on

missnikkie89Wed27956 · November 2011

I know most of my friends are not at the point in their lifes to be having babies yet but its so frustrating that i have no one to go hang out with or take lily to play dates with or who wants to be around a baby and the friends i do have that have kids are way older than lily , i just dont know if im the only one that has or is going through this right now??

, i just feel lost and just would like to have someone to talk to who is going through the same thing or go do lunch some time , i just want lily to have a friend to grow up with , sorry i just needed to vent

blueLu25 · November 2011

Hi! Ok, I hope this doesnt sound totally creepy, but I recognize you and L from your picture! I know your husband and his sister. Small world I live way north of you (I think...) but there are tons of great girls on here. I think there will be some form of holiday gtg this year, so you should definitely come to that! This is a great place to meet other mamas and babies.

p.s. To answer your question, yes its a tough time since we are one of the first of our "group" to get married and have kids too, we have really lost touch with a lot of them. I have made some really close friends just from meeting people off this board tho!

missnikkie89Wed27956 · November 2011

Thanks for the reply , lol defiantly a small world , Yeah i have slowly noticed how sweet the girls on here are , just need to get in the habit to get on here, yeah i so would love to go to that

,it has been really tough especially with my friends i grew up with they are slowly getting married but far from planning having babies anytime soon , since i have had L none of my friends come by or even call especially my "bestfriend" always thought she would be there , i know life gets in the way of things but i always try to make time to say hi to some friends or even try to make plans to do get togethers oh well at least i said i tried

thanks again for the reply

ckmommy · November 2011

First, I apologize for the formatting as I am on my phone. Second, it can definately be tough feeling like your friends are drifting away as they are in a different phase of their life. The friends I grew up with do not have children and are not married. I am the first. I feel lucky that my close friends understand I am also in a different phase, but there have been rough patches where I felt completely left out. I decided not to dwell on it and just include my son in our activities and reach out to make new friends who do have kids. I now feel like I have a balance of friends with kids and friends without kids and it is great. You might have to push out of your comfort zone a bit, but it is worth it. I have met awesome ladiesfrom here and it is fabulous! Welcome!

Irishsapphire · November 2011

I have been going to the GTG for Seattle Babies on this forum. I have tried the playgroups on meetup.com---it has not been as easy to go to some of the playgroups because I work during the week. And I am going to a church now that has a good children's program. In my mind, I am thinking that my son will meet really good friends there in the toddler room. I got beeped out today. My son was not in a socializing mood today. And I was basically the mother who had a runaway toddler who was going 40 directions outside of the santuary--at one point I was sprawled on the floor with my son. Oh well, not exactly making friendship progress at church yet--he is still going through stranger anxiety at church. My son does good at his daycare, but he has been there a while since he was 3 months, so he is very used to the other kids there. And I like to catch up with the other parents when I am picking up my son. I am planning in the future to enroll him in Lil' Kickers-baby soccer-which he can start at 18 months, and some swim lessons in the future.

cupcakepirate · November 2011

I can certainly relate to what you're saying, almost verbatim. I'm not in the Seattle area, so my options are pretty limited. I attend Baby Story time at my local library every week in efforts to meet other moms.

AdelynRae · November 2011

Have you tried to sign up for a PEPS group? I have some amazing friends in mine still two years after DD1 was born.

alicb · November 2011

I can definitely relate to the part where all my friends have kids that are older. I got started a little later. I have had luck meeting people at story time at my local library. I also found a preschool where the classes start from baby, this has been another great place to meet parents with kids closer in age to DD. Once DD is walking (we are getting close!) I am hoping to take her to the indoor playground ran through the community center and meet more parents.

missnikkie89Wed27956 · November 2011

Thank you ladies for all your responses , i really do need to get out there and not stick in my comfort zone even though its so easy to stay there .but i really feel like im not alone so thank you all soo much

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