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Today is the cremation

weddedwifeweddedwife member
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and tomorrow we will bring him home. It has been 9 days since he was born still, it feels like a lifetime ago.

 If you brought your babies' ashes home, did it help to have him/her home? Or did it make it worse? It seems like a lot of people have done this.

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Re: Today is the cremation

  • johnnys junejohnnys june member
    We buried Logan.  I couldn't stand the thought of cremation.  So I don't have any advice, but I wanted to send you HUGE *hugs*!!!  None of this is fair.  I will be sending you and your family T & P tomorrow!
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  • krysiahamatykrysiahamaty
    We cremated Jack. We put 1/2 in an urn and we will be spreading the other half. And I have a little bit in a necklace that I wear everyday. When the ashes came home it did give us some closure of finally having him with us but it was also intensely sad to have Jack home in an urn rather than in his crib. Big hugs and I hope you get some sort of closure having your little one home with you.
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  • karebear57karebear57 member
    We are still waiting for our daughter's remains it's been a little over a month and still no call from the funeral home and I'm getting REALLY impatient! But once I get her back I might feel a little better, maybe I'll finally be able to sleep like a normal person! It should help having your babies' ashes home then at least you know where they are.
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  • CaroleeCarolee member
    (((HUGS))) I'm so sorry.  I remember going through that and it was so hard.  For me, it did help to bring Eliott's ashes home.  I felt like that was where he belonged, and honestly, I think we will end up keeping his ashes here.  It just seems right for us.
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  • DesiraeSunshineDesiraeSunshine
    I felt beter having my son and daughter home.
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  • LoveOfMikesLifeLoveOfMikesLife member
    It helps is to have Addison's ashes here with us. I haven't found anything that I really like to keep them in so for now she's still in the plain white plastic box we brought them home in.
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  • dandywarholdandywarhol member

    I think it helped a little bit to have Sylvie's ashes home, but more so because I didn't like the thought of her body being cold and alone at the morgue or a funeral home. 

    We've talked about interring her at a cemetery where my grandparents are and where my parents, and possibly we, will end up. I think I might put a final wish in my will that upon my death and cremation Sylvie's ashes would be mixed with mine and interred together.  I've also thought that we might take a portion of her ashes and scatter them at a park that means a lot to us.  

    I hope that cremation and having the ashes home with you provides some comfort. 

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