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November3Love
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This Board was recommended to me...
November3Love
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Hello! I've been on TheNest for awhile now. I posted the following on TheNest under the Getting Pregnant Board because I thought it was about Getting Pregnant & not geared more for TTC. I was recommended to this board here by one of the posters. Hopefully, this would be the proper spot? {I think I might have rubbed some of them on TheNest the wrong way with the post, but I can honestly say it was absolutely not my intention & I have apologized.} As I have said, I really hope this is the proper place for this post & if not, a recommendation to the correct one is much appreciated. *tia, everyone!*
So, I took a HPT this morning. It was a First Response HPT & it came up with one really dark line & another not as dark. The paper says that 2 lines (even if not the same shade) show-it's a "Yes!-You're pregnant!" I started to shake & called DH immediately. As soon as I heard his voice, I started to cry (not sure why, though) & I asked him if he could come home now. He asked me if everything was OK or if something was the wrong. I just couldn't get words to form & just asked him again if he could just get home. He asked me again & this time I just blurted it out: "I'm pregnant." He said, "Are you sure? What, did you take a test just now?" I told him "Yes, like 5 minutes ago, now." He took a moment & said "I'm on my way." We exchanged "I love yous".
As soon as I hung up, I was still shaking like a leaf, but this time I was talking to myself (& my pets) saying "OMG... OMG... Are we really ready? When? How far along? Oh sh!t-I drank a few glasses of wine last week for our Anniversary & Birthdays-I pray to God that doesn't affect the baby!?!? I hope everything is OK..." {& the list continues of my worrisome thoughts}
DH came home within 15 minute'ish & hugged me & kissed me & talked with me. He asked me how I was feeling & I said 'A little numb-I don't know if it's really hit me yet; my mind won't shut off with all of these questions.'
* Random Backstory: When DH & I met, he was That Guy who was not getting married or having kids. (Funny... that's not how it seems to be going...!?!?)
I asked him how he felt & what he was thinking & he simply said: "We'll be OK. Everything will be fine, Love. You know, it could be worse, we could not have insurance, or you or I a job. We'll figure this out. Just calm down. Don't freak out. I love you. We'll be all right." Ahhh... I 
him. I did, however, ask him if we could not tell anyone because I would feel much better once I saw a doctor & got more answers. He agreed, with the exception of our houseguest, Hunter, (who is also an employee of his & apparently they were together in the meeting that I called him out of. DH told Hunter he had 'to go, something was going on back at the house.') I said that was fine, but I wasn't comfortable letting anyone else know yet because I'm expecting questions I have no answers for.
DH suggested we keep it cool over the weekend & take another HPT Monday. I thought I should make a doctor appointment for our next day off together, Thursday. We just moved to this area & I have no clue which doctors are the 'good ones'... let alone for this. This will be our first baby. First grandchild on his side & 6th on mine, as well as the 9th great-grandchild. This is going to be amazing.
What did you do when you saw a BFP? I have all these things in my head screaming: "Run to the store & get prenatals! Go buy 'What to Expect When You're Expecting'! & the like... How would you suggest handling finding a new doc in a new area? Any advice is much appreciated. *tia* ~& sorry if this is long & sort of all over the place!~
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I would say, go get the prenatals, go get "what to expect," and call your regular PCP for an appointment. Congratulations! :-)
What did you do when you saw a BFP? I screamed, jumped up and down, said a prayer of gratitude, told my dog because he was the only one home with me, and then plotted how to tell dh.
I have all these things in my head screaming: "Run to the store & get prenatals! Do it! This is incredibly important. You should start them today. Any brand will do. I like the Target brand pills, but some women prefer the chewable or gummy kind.
Go buy 'What to Expect When You're Expecting'! Don't do this! That book isn't the most credible source. There are much better pregnancy books that are better researched. Ask on this board if you want great recommendations. Plus, everything you could want to know is online.
How would you suggest handling finding a new doc in a new area? If you know pregnant women or new moms, get their recommendations. If not, look at online reviews for doctors covered by your insurance. Remember that you might not even choose a doctor. I'm seeing nurse midwives and love them.
Any advice is much appreciated. Relax. Enjoy this happy news. Also, feel free to join us on the July 2012 Moms birth month board. There are some incredible women over there.
Awesome advice! And congratulations!!! I had pretty much your exact same reaction when I found out I was pregnant with my first. I couldn't get DH for 2 hours though since he was in a meeting. It was the longest 2 hours of my life! It IS really scary at first, along with super exciting. Happy and healthy 9 months to you! And welcome to the board!
YAY!!!! Congrats! I totally panicked the first time I found out I was pregnant...and my husband LITERALLY had a panic attack. You are not alone!
I agree with the others- buy What To Expect When You're Expecting so that you can get some immediate answers and recommendations, start taking those prenatals, and go in when your doc will see you!
Mind my asking what area you're in so people here could maybe give you some dr. recs?
ps- don't worry about what you did last week or even yesterday...out of your control, now! With our third, I took an HPT and it said I wasn't pregnant so I had all sorts of fun...hot tub, wine, etc...just a few days later I took another one because I still had no period and, BOOM. Pregnant. Oops. Just make good choices from now on!
One poster said it was "like running into Bankruptcy court & screaming "I'm rich!"... I got some really nice posts saying congrats, but also suggesting I post elsewhere. Some, though, were pretty harsh saying things along the lines of 'I miscarried-but good for you', 'I wouldn't know what to tell you-I can't get knocked up' & the one that made my eyebrows go up was 'I've been trying & can't, but good to know you can get pregnant on accident.' ... harsh. I was told by my ob/gyn awhile ago that I have some issues & when I asked her about getting pregnant she pretty much said: 'I wouldn't go running off to go buy onesies Anytime soon.' & we actually miscarried previous year, not that it's their business, but, I can understand more than they are giving me credit for. It just sucked to read those comments, so I deleted it. I don't need that negativity. I mean, I highly doubt these people would run up to a pregnant woman in the store & say those things to her face if they overheard her situation & it was as mine is. It's not OK to be that way to someone. Under any circumstances. I just don't get it. But.. ehhh.. I have a life that is so amazing & NOTHING can take away from this Blessing.
I'm a regular on that other board... they don't take non-regular posters posting about their pregnancies very well. I know a lot of them have struggled with infertility and miscarriages... so to see a newbie who they don't know be all excited about their pregnancy, it rubs them the wrong way. Don't take it personally, really. Most of them are actually very nice. The one who mentioned about losing 3 babies has always had a "Bitter Betty" attitude... and while i feel bad for her, sometimes I think she needs to either get off the board or improve her 'tude!
Anyway... it's great you're so excited! Definitely get WTEWYE! And take the prenatals! My OB prescribed them for me... she feels like the OTC aren't monitored so she wanted me to have the prescription one. But before that i was taking the Target ones.
Congrats!
Sorry about the harshness they gave you. They are pretty nice ladies over there, I posted for a while. Many of them are having trouble TTC, and some have been at for years. When someone posts something like that, I think it just reminds them of their own struggles. But congrats on the pregnancy!
**Good luck to gatorwife,MissIntentional&corinne2010! Congrats to Piper2009!
Congrats on your exciting news!
When I got my first BFP my DH was out of town and my sister was in town staying with me. I walked out of the bathroom shaking and went right to her room where she was sleeping, woke her up and tearily told her I was pregnant. It was awesome!
I would recommend the 'Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy' instead of 'What to Expect When You're Expecting'.
Happy and healthy 9 months!!
Congratulations on your exciting news!! I'm so happy for you, and yes some people usually dont take kindly of knowing someone else is pregnant because of the issues and stuff. I would wish they have better and positive attitude though, but some people are different.
Anyway my reaction when I got my first BFP was I laugh hysterically like I'm mad or crazy, I just cant believe it, we were 2 month towards our TTC and I got it on my 3rd month trying, I pray and pray and pray to God that this will be a good pregnancy then I called my husband and he saw the test and he almost fainted (he is still in denial right now).
I know for sure you need to get prenatal ASAP called my OB to set up my 8 weeks appointment. I havent get any books yet, but I think I will whenever I hit my 12 weeks mark, I'm still worry about ms right now I dont want to jinx my self.
Congratulations again and just relax and enjoy the ride