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February 2012 Moms
Gave horrible advice to my 3 yo
Today, DS and I were sitting down getting ready to read before bed time when he tells me that a boy in his Preschool class is calling him "poopy". Sure. They are 3. But "poopy" to a 3 year old is pretty bad.
He has told me this before and we talked about what to say to his boy next time. The typical "Don't call me that" "I won't play with you if you call me that" etc.
Tonight I told him to make fun of his shoes because crocs were not real shoes.
I totally did that. NOW I have to have a talk with him in the morning and reenforce better words. And another talk with the teacher.
My cute little boy. Also tells me that when he is called a name or pushed down that he would still play with whoever did it. 
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Re: Gave horrible advice to my 3 yo
Awww! I haven't even thought about this yet... well, it could actually be a good time to start teaching him empathy (i.e. "How does it make you feel when he says that?" And the whole, "That's why we treat other people how we want to be treated" thing...), so as to try to prevent him from becoming a bully himself, and also learn to sort through his feelings. Granted, he's only 3... but it'd be a good start! Has he tried going to the teacher when this happens after asking for his toy back? Poor little guy!
ETA: Got the 2 posts confused, yours didn't have the "ask for the toy back" comment in it.. So after he was pushed did he speak with the teacher?
Hmmm.. is it the same boy pushing him? Could his parents attend, too?
There are two boys in his class. a verbal and then a physical assaulter. The verbal I think is fairly harmless, but needs to stop. The one who pushes, is a WHOLE other story. I have talked to the parents before (really I have talked with them fairly constantly over the last 3 years). Kid has an older sibling in kindergarten who is aggressive. They are expecting another boy right now and their youngest will be in class with my youngest. Not happy to have to deal with both my boys having problems.
I feel like this set of parents assumed that the school would just teach their children to share, be nice and use words rather than violent actions.
Ugh! I hate it when kids do that. It makes you wonder where they get it. I have been getting phone calls from DSs school about him owing money to the lunch account. At first I was very confused because I pack his lunch everyday. I then talked to him and he informed me that another boy on the bus is smashing his sandwich and taking all the "good stuff" so he can't eat his lunch. My DH told DS to tell this boy "if you touch my lunch I'll give you a knuckle sandwich". Not the best parenting advice.. I wouldn't want my DS to turn into the bully. However, his lunch has not been taken/smashed since.
Hope the talk this morning goes well and there is nothing more to worry about.
My Colton...Growing up so fast!
And Coralee, his baby sister...On the way!