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Unsolicited advice from siblings?

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My breastfeeding post below got me thinking about my older Sister. I love her to pieces, but she is SO insistent on telling me what problems I'm going to have with our baby.

For example: "You are not going to be able to get that baby on a sleep schedule, or sleep through the night because you are NOT going to want to part from it. You and (DH) don't have strong enough will. I know it..."

....Ummm, my job depends on my baby being a good sleeper and I will work toward that end as best I can. I know nothing is foolproof, but to flat out say I'm NOT going to be able to do something, is infuriating! She was kinda the same way about BFing, telling me I wouldn't be able to. Ugh.

My nephew is STILL a bad sleeper at 12, because she let him sleep with her in the bed, and then at the foot of their bed, in his own bed. WTH? She learned from her mistake with my niece though.

I know she means well, and I know she's the oldest and imparting wisdom, I just wish she weren't so emphatic about my abilities.

Anyone else want to vent about their siblings? :) 

ETA: My nephew was in the 3rd grade when he stopped sleeping in their room! 

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Re: Unsolicited advice from siblings?

  • Patella1129Patella1129 member
    I don't really have a vent about my sisters, b/c I think they're pretty great.  But I do get jealous of my older sister sometimes.  She lives near both sets of grandparents and she and her husband both have fabulous jobs.  So they have been able to get away with each other far more often than DH and I.  I'm also secretly afraid that my kids won't be as close to our parents as her kids are and that they'll know it.
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  • shouldbworkinshouldbworkin

    My mom and sister did that to me when I was PG with #2.  They kept saying how she was going to be so awful, put me through my paces, etc.  I have NO idea where it came from but it was super annoying.  My first is the one that gives me a hard time anyway, always has.  My DD is sassy, but way easier than DS.  This time around they aren't saying a word. 

    I don't know why people feel the need to tell you about all the awful things that could happen to you.  Every family/child is different.

    DS1 age 7, DD age 5 and DS2 born 4/3/12
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  • gisa886gisa886 member
    My sister gave me a lot of advice last time I was pregnant. She has never had kids. 
    i wish i could be joking but my dad is the music teacher at a church so he owuld be mad. we had sex, all the time how bad i know but we dont want to wait and he said GREAT OH KAY! and I was really feeling the wets? down there- too embarsed to say- but he acted like man.
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  • countdowntolockdowncountdowntolockdown member

    Gisa, that's RICH! LOL! 

    Yes, PP, I too am afraid our baby won't be as close to my mom as my older sister's children because they live in MI and we're in WI.  Oh well. That's where my MIL will come in (our baby is her first grandchild and she's a very proud to become a Yaya).

    I know I have to just let it slide with my sis. I know she means well. 

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  • Jesse's Girl 10Jesse's Girl 10 member

    I'm really to yell at my sister.

    I do not, under any circumstances, want an epidural and I'm planning a home birth and she keeps going on and on about how much labor is going to hurt and that I shouldn't do everything that I have planned for this birth.

    Ok, I get that she's already been through this twice BUT this is my baby and I'm not her.  I also get that labor is going to hurt.  I'm sure I don't have any concept of how much labor is going to hurt but this is the way I want to do it.  I also have a way higher pain threshold than she does.    

    I want to have a home birth because of my own personal choices and I don't want to have an epidural also for my own choices.

    I wish she would just let me do it the way I want and STFU.   

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  • jkfranklinjkfranklin member
    With DS my sister insisted that I didn't need newborn sized clothes and diapers because "they grow out of them after a week". He was in NB for a month! Big difference is my sister is 5'7" and her DH is 6'8" (as is his brother and dad) so yeah, you kids are probably going to be bigger than mine with me at 5'5" and dh at 5'7".
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  • PinkSapphiresPinkSapphires member

    Thus far, nothing from the siblings.I don't anticipate any problems there.

    But can I vent on how my grandmother is telling me how to apply cocoa butter to my breasts, and my mother telling me, "this is part my baby too, you know." Not in the cute, "aww, look at my baby" way. But the, "this baby is genetically part me so I plan on being involved in how it's raised," way.

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  • gisa886gisa886 member
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    Gisa, that's RICH! LOL! 

    Yes, PP, I too am afraid our baby won't be as close to my mom as my older sister's children because they live in MI and we're in WI.  Oh well. That's where my MIL will come in (our baby is her first grandchild and she's a very proud to become a Yaya).

    I know I have to just let it slide with my sis. I know she means well. 

    Yeah she also tries to convince my mom that I am unfit to stay home alone with Toot because I have seizures. I ignore her

    i wish i could be joking but my dad is the music teacher at a church so he owuld be mad. we had sex, all the time how bad i know but we dont want to wait and he said GREAT OH KAY! and I was really feeling the wets? down there- too embarsed to say- but he acted like man.
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