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thumper11
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God is great!
thumper11
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My husband and I have been together for 3 years and married for 3 months this Saturday. We are both very excited that we just found out that we are pregnant with our first child. I am 5 weeks and 5 days!
We told my parents already but are waiting to tell his. My parents live in Oregon and we are in Colorado. Both my parents we excited but scared for us. We are only 21 and they think that we should have waited longer to start our family. I know this is something I was born to do and am very proud to say I am going to be a mom. I understand that my parents were young parents and struggled with many things including finances. They just need to realize that we aren't them and that we can and will do this differently. I love my parents and I just want them to support us, I know they are. I know where we send them our first ultrasound picture they will be thrilled to know they will be first time Grandparents!! I know they will be awesome Grandparents.
As for his parents, we plan on waiting until Thanksgiving to tell them. We are very nervous to tell them considering they felt a lot more strongly about us waiting. They were 30 and 32 when they got married and didn't have my husband until they were 32 and 34. I know they just want what is best for us, but who is to say what they did is best for US. We want to tell them in person so they can see how confident we are in each other. I know they will come around and I know they will be amazing Grandparents. I'm just super nervous about their reactions.--Pray for us.
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Re: God is great!
Congratulations!
We haven't told either side of the family but we're expecting similar responses from both sides (we're too young, we should have waited, etc). I'm 23 and he's 26.
However, we know we want a big family and we were ready. And really, the most important part: It's our decision (as it was yours) and not our parents's.
I could argue the opposite point of your family's. I was born when my mother was 36 and my father was 41. I'm still young but I've watched both of them decline in health and I started worrying about how I was going to continue to breathe when I lost one of my parents before I had even graduated from high school. Thank God they are both still with me now, but I don't want my children to live in the same kind of fear as young as I have if I can even come close to preventing that.
First of all, congrats! I was married at 20 and had my first baby at 21. My parents were alot like yours, thought we should have waited longer but we were confident in ourselves. Now that he is 1 1/2 they are amazing grandparents and support us 100%. They will all come around!
Congrats on the little one. I think anyone that wants a family is their choice, as long as you are ready and knows the responsibility of it.
I firmly sure God always have plans for their children and as long as you believe he will enlighten your way, your pregnancy will be smoother than you expected it to be.
Congrats!
I was 23 when my first was born and know quite a few people who had kids early on in their 20s and are fantastic parents. Some people just know what they want! Nothing wrong with that
I have absolutely no regrets having kids early, it has been such a joy to be a mom and is everything I've ever wanted.
My husband and I were pretty financially secure before we had kids but even still we got a lot of our gear and things at consignment because it was more practical. Some things are better to buy new but we got things like our swing and bumbo and activity mat all 2nd hand and practically new! There's many ways to cut costs and save money ;-)
I'm sure your parents will come around and I hope telling your husband's parents will go well too. Best of luck to you!
we were married for four months when we found out we were two months prego with #1...we were a bit older, but my parents were SHOCKED and didn't have the reaction I'd hoped for. Baby #2 was conceived on birth control when #1 was only 5 months old and again, not the reaction we would have liked...
Don't worry. People will not all know how to react or respond in the way you want, but good parents will definitely be the grandparents and support to you that you think they will.. it may just take them a bit to get there and be ready. My mom said, "you might be ready to be a mom, but no one asked ME if I was ready to be a grandma" self-absorbed? A bit, but she came around relatively quickly and was uber supportive for the rest of my pregnancies and with all of the many babies I have brought into the world.
*Jealous*
As a kid my family took a trip to Vail every winter break from school, but we stopped about 5 years ago. I am determined to go back with my family some day. Its too beautiful not to!
They will warm up to the idea. I'm 19 and my boyfriend and I are having our first, unplanned, but my mom just had to get used to the idea. Now she is so excited for it!
Where in Colorado are you at if you don't mind me asking? That's where I'm from and we'll be going back there once the baby is born.
So I believe in God, but my pregnancy with DS was far from smooth... So what's that say??? I had pre-eclampsia and was on bedrest for my entire third trimester... was hospitalized multiple times and induced at 37 weeks because it was getting worse. My pregnancy was very far from smooth, it was also not the worst in the world either... but don't say that you won't have complications because you never know.
Oh...and remember He gives you trials and tribulations.... so nothing is never smooth.
OP, Congrats on your pregnancy.
I don't think she necessarily meant smooth in that sense - more in the it won't be this stressful (emotionally). Her parents and her DH's parents will come around and the worries they have about everything will ease up. That's how I took it.