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PrettyInPearls23
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This is why DV needs to be taken SERIOUSLY
PrettyInPearls23
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There was a story on my local news this morning about a man who beat his MIL to death with a baseball bat, and also injured his FIL. The man was served the day before with a PPO from his estranged wife, who had recently filed for divorce. The news story said the wife had filed for divorce because of prior "domestic issues".
If anyone is in a situation where DV is an issue, please get out. If not for your own safety, but then for the safety of your children and family members.
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Re: This is why DV needs to be taken SERIOUSLY
I agree, but as someone working within 'the system' I found three things to be true:
1) I can't force a dv victim out of denial. (If I try I lose their trust.)
2) If the victim doesn't take it seriously for even a few minutes, long enough to make a phone call, all the protection in the world can't make them safe.
3) There is usually a bit of going back and forth into denial.
I work with families with drug issues, mental health issues, and dv issues. Drug addicts, well, either they accept the support to get clean or they don't. On the other end of the spectrum is mental health issues where even with the best of resources, the result is out of the clients hands (saddest cases). DV is by far the most exasperating because it it waivers between being an issue of mental resolve, other emotional rather than logical responses, and abject fear.
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I don't see how the story applies to not taking DV seriously. The woman left him and got an order of protection, but he went BSC on his in-laws. Maybe they should have gotten an OOP also?
The woman in the story took it seriously. But this is a harsh reminder to other women who don't take DV seriously that it can affect more people in their lives then just themselves.
coming from someone who left a marriage and currently has four orders of protection in place to protect me from his violence, i can honestly say it is only a piece of paper.
although it is taken seriously, my ex is now just finally being brought up on felony charges for once again lashing out at me during a pick up/drop off of our son.
he faces jail time now.
after he gets out, he will come after me again. he will try to kill me some day.
i sleep with an extra cell phone and an emergency back packed ready to go if c and i have to flee in the middle of the night. right next to my bed. and pepper spray. and i got a security system. and now i am studying krav maga so i can protect myself.
if i dont do all of these things, i will end up in a body bag. sorry but thats the reality.
regardless of DV being taken seriously and leaving, it never ends. you have to solidify your mind and home in so many ways to avoid being sucked back in.
and yeah... i agree everyone should get out....
but it doesn't stop there. this post (OP) seems really ignorant of how anything works having to do with domestic violence