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DEVASTATED for my brother :( T's and P's if you can spare them

He and his wife justs had their first baby last night.

The birth was incredibly traumatic for all involved. It's a long story, but to paraphrase, some bad calls were made, and mom and baby almost died. On top of that, when the baby's head popped out, the doctors saw she was gray and immediately panicked. She wasn't breathing and didn't breathe on her own for 6 hours.

She was born with a birth defect called Pierre Robin Syndrome which is characterized by micrognathia and a cleft palate. She has to have a tube to keep her airway open so she doesn't choke on her own tongue. She is still in the NICU.

My brother had to go home without his baby girl and he says it feels like she died because of the trauma of the situation and not having her with them. He doesn't have that glorious new father feeling because he is still reeling and hasn't had a chance to bond with her. He said this was the single most emotionally and psychologically traumatic even of his life, and it is breaking my heart.

They live in Montreal. It is killing me to not be there for him, though it wouldn't be feasible for me to go. I just want to hug him and his wife and that little baby girl. Prognosis is unknown at this point. They just have to keep her breathing. If you can spare a prayer for her and my brother and his wife, I would appreciate it.

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  • My heart goes out to them, and to you. Lots of Ts and Ps to your brother, his wife, and their little girl. ((HUGS))

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  • I'm so sorry - what a terrible experience for your family.  Sending lots of prayers for them.
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  • OMG, I am so sorry, I am thinking of your family and that sweet baby girl!

    {{HUGS}}

     

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  • Oh no! I am so, so sorry to hear this. I can't even imagine how your brother and the rest of your family are feeling. Praying that everything turns out ok.
  • Thoughts and prayers goes out to you and your family. 
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  • That is horrific. Prayers for your brother and your sweet baby niece.
  • Thinking of you and your family tonight. 
  • Oh my gosh, I am so sorry.  Sending tons of T&P's. 

    (((HUGS)))

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  • I'm so sorry. I will defiantly keep them in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • Oh sweetie, I am so so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with your brother and with you. 
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  • I'm so sorry! How traumatic. Your brother, his wife, his sweet baby girl, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. ((hugs))
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  • How awful. I'm so sorry, and lots of prayers.
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  • Oh my.  I will be thinking of their family and your new niece.
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  • That is just terrible.  I will be thinking good thoughts for your brother, his wife and baby.
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  • Oh no, I am so incredibly sorry. Will definitely be praying.

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  • Sending thoughts and prayers your way.
  • Oh my goodness -- sending my thoughts and prayers out for you, your brother and SIL, and your sweet niece.
                                  

      
                                   
  • Oh no! I'm so sorry. That sounds awful. I hope the baby does ok and that in time the pain of the way she joined the family will lesson.
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  • Oh how awful :( my T&Ps are with all three of them, and I'm sending you a big (((HUG)))
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  • sending lots of thoughts and prayers!! 
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  • Oh how awful, I'm so sorry!!  

    Is his wife recovering (physically)?

    Thinking of you all... 

  • Keeping them all in my thoughts, how scary!
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  • I am so sorry.. I will be praying for your family and that sweet little girl.
  • Sending lots of T&Ps to your brother, his wife and their LO.  
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  • Praying that your neice does well in NICU and can come home soon to your family.
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  • Oh my...that sounds so traumatic.  I will be thinking of your family and your new niece.  I hope she's okay.

     

  • I'm so sorry!  Sending lots of T's and P's their way.  A big hug to you too!
  • Oh no, I'm so sorry.  I will be thinking of them and saying prayers for them also. 

    The ultrasounds she had during her pregnancy didn't show anything? 

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  • I'm so sorry your brother and his wife are dealing with this. I'm praying for them and their sweet new baby girl.

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  • they will be in my thoughts and prayers...

     

  • Sending lots of thoughts and prayers to your whole family. I hope their little girl gets to come home soon.
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  • They are in my prayers.
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  • uuuugh, rough stuff. I hope things go smooth for them all, and she comes home soon. Keep us updated when you can.
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  • I am so sorry!  Sending all my best thoughts to your family. 
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  • Are your parents close by to him, or is he in Montreal by himself?  Does he have any family members around to support him?
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  • So scary.  Sending lots of good thoughts to all of them.
  • I will keep them in my thoughts and prayers!


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  • So sad.  Prayers sent.
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