Feeling Down Today

Re: Feeling Down Today

• srmmm09

  November 2011

  If I'm completely honest, it's pretty hard for other people to get the situation you're in. They can try (and sometimes they don't), but only birthmoms really know what it's like to be a birthmom. It sucks, but it's also so... rewarding, looking back, to know you really loved your baby by doing what you thought was right by them, even though it was hard. I know my birthson has such a better (more stable, more full of security and love) life than I could've given him myself.

  There are lots of us on the board here. We're here for ya.

  
  
  Application approved Dec '11
  Mar '12: Homestudy interrupted by change in Uganda requirements - where do we go from here?
  After searching and searching, back with Uganda but with our homestudy agency's program.
  Homestudy complete July 19
  USCIS I-600A submitted July 20. Biometrics appointments arrived Aug 17; fingerprinted Aug 21; 171H received Sept 25th. On the wait list Oct 1st: #18. By Jan 25th, we're #13!
  Come home, baby A!

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• jenn985

  November 2011

  You are in my thoughts today... I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. I've never been in your shoes so I don't know what it's like but I still feel for you. Is there any one you can talk with? I don't know if you have signed with an agency yet but sometimes they have someone you can talk to. I know our agency has a birthmom's support group and other birthmom's that are willing to talk if someone needs it, but not sure what is available in your area. Please feel free to message here- you will always find someone who is willing to at least listen, even if we don't have any advice or answers :-)

  Unable to conceive due to emergency hysterectomy 11/04 Started our adoption journey 4/11 9/29/11- Officially waiting! 5/29/12- Our little boy is born and goes home with us the next day :-)

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• firecracker8 member

  November 2011

  I can't imagine what a tough time you are going through. The birthmothers on here are wonderful and I know that there are birthmother support groups that you can find. Maybe something like that will be helpful. I will keep you in my prayers!!!

  

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• HannahAdopt

  November 2011

  Thanks guys, I usually can hold it together so well but today just the little things are pulling on me. My friend found out today shes pregnant I couldnt be happier for her really im happy for her but at the same time i cant help but be a little jelouse, im not ashamed to say it, im jelouse im pissed that she has a fiance, a stable home, parents who are there to hold her hand.

  Is it possible to be happy for someone yet at the same time wish you didnt know that at that point, maybe im being overdramatic, im happy I ahve an amazing daughter who is my world I love being a mom, ive had a great pregnancy so far and im happy with me choicing to make an adoption plan, i want to do it! I never imagined it to be thins hard. And I feel like tehre is still so much for me to do, i find it hard to sit down and look at agencies and find the right one, either I ahve school work to be done, Jay neeeds alot of my attention lately and I love spending my days with her, work, house stuff. Overwhelmed doesnt cover what im feeling.

  Maybe I sound like a cry baby, or a complainer but I just needed to really vent so thanks for reading ladies! And I hope I dont make people think im a ***, i swear im not!!

          

   

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• amm78 member

  November 2011

  Hannah, I'm sorry that you're feeling so down.  I can't imagine how overwhelming everything must be for you!  You just need to take things one step at a time.  You do still have a lot of time to make the decisions you need to make before the baby comes.  

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