1. Since I missed the weekend update, DW and I spent Saturday night at a fancy schmancy hotel in upstate New York celebrating our first wedding anniversary! It feels strange to call it our first though, since it erases all the many years before that. But that's the way it goes I guess!
2. There were fall colors and an outdoor hot tub and mints for the pillows at night and room service in the morning. Ah, that's the life.
3. DW then stayed upstate for a work event. Driving back was lonely and I'm excited for her to come home, but I also will admit that having the apartment to myself for two nights was fun.
4. I am feeling really sad that we're on a break from TTC due to the holidays. It feels like we're giving up, which of course is not at all true, since we'll start again after Christmas... but still, it's a long time.
5. I admit, I had more than my fair share of dreams about revealing a pregnancy to our families on these holidays, and about how a baby would fit into our plans next summer....and etc. etc.
6. We really need to have a baby before January 2013, cuz otherwise I'm going to have to wildly use up a ton of vacation that I'm hoarding for maternity leave. (And then have to start hoarding again...) Ha.
7. I get Friday off for Veteran's Day. Woo hoo!
8. My new office at work is large and bare; I really need to come up with something to decorate it with.
I think I'll have to add 9 and 10 later, or I'm going to be late!!
TTC with PCOS since July 2011.
IVF Oct/Nov 2012
Beta #1 = 77, Beta #2 = 190, Beta #3 = 1044
Cautiously optimistic.
1) The Duggars announced that they are expecting baby #20. Shut the F up.
2) I'm having a blast planning Daisy's 1st bday. I hope it goes as well as its shaping up in my head
3) Sprout's schedule has been all over the place the past 2 weeks, but he's managing it really well.
4) It fustrates me that DW gets so worn out the 2 days a week she has to watch the kids solo for a couple hours between when school gets out and I get home from work. seriously??
5) I've been having something happen to me lately that makes me feel like i've completely lost my mind. its freaky. i may blog about it later.
6) I experienced a holiday tragedy yesterday. I've had my holiday cards designed and waiting in my shopping cart (online) since august. I was waiting for a good coupon code. So yesterday my coupon came, i went to the site to order my cards and THEY'VE BEEN DISCONTINUED. omg.
7) I have to spend another couple days in NYC next month for work and am debating asking DW and the kids to come along. On the one hand, Sprout has been begging to go to NYC and i think they'd love the tree and holiday store fronts....but i also kinda like the little break my work travel provides
8) I did a cake smash photo shoot w/ Daisy this weekend. She loves food and is such a chunker that I was sure she'd get into it. actually, no - there was no smashing involved. just like RB, she was confused and a little freaked out.
9) so now i get jealous when i see siggy pics on the 9-12m board of the babies with smooshed cake everywhere and big smiles on their faces.
10) I dont understand the "Hi, how are you?" greeting. I mean, no one ever says anything other than "good, you?". What's the point??
1. What the H Duggars? STOP HAVING CHILDREN! Did you not hear that the world is approaching 7 billion people? Are you trying to get us there single handedly???
2. So it's official, I'm withdrawing from school, which is a huge stressor off of my life. Now I can work full time, I have a job lined up , and guess what that meansssss!
3. TTC starting January 2012
4. Is it normal to be nervous as fvck!
5. I'll eventually go to dental hygienist school, haha, which is odd but I really, really like it.
6. And the pay of a D.H. isn't anything to scoff at.
7. I'm so freaking excited. We have our fresh sperm, waiting to be *ahem* released.
8. I've got my baby incubator (my beautiful wife) all ready to go.
9. Christmas is quickly approaching and I only have 3 gifts for my beautiful bride. :S
10. I just found out that my old softball coach as become a lesbian! Whoa! She left her husband for a lady! Oh snaaap!
1. I printed all of Iz's monthly letters from my blog last night and left them on top of my computer hoping that J would be sneaky and read them while I was in the shower. I don't think she read them so she still doesn't understand the love I have for Iz.
2. I need to figure out how to incorporate the letters into the pages of a scrapbook, they are full size letters so I'm thinking that maybe putting them in color coordinated envelopes and mounting them to the pages would work. This is my first scrapbook EVER, I need help.
3. The weather has been wonderful lately, 60's-low 70's, warm but with a cool and crisp Fall undertone.
4. I'm still negotiating with the bank for Cash for Keys, they take forever to get back to me.
5. A starts Thanksgiving (or is it first trimester?) break on Friday, it will be nice to have her home for 17 days!
6. J should have her promotion by next week.
7. We will be in court in 10 days, signing a paper that says we are legally Iz's moms!
8. I need to have the pilot on the wall heater lit but I've been putting it off because I don't know how much longer we'll be in this house.
9. The house is getting a deep cleaning today. Tomorrow is Iz's last SW visit and she will be doing a full inspection of the house.
10. Are we exchanging gifts this year? I have tons of ornament ideas and want to join in this year.
1. I'm convinced that one of the Duggars is going to go rogue at some point and put out a tell-all book. I can't wait!
2. I've worked out twice this week and it's only Tuesday. {Pats self on back.}
3. I'm excited about brunch on Sunday and it's only Tuesday. {Wonders if I have a problem.}
4. We have Friday off, and I HAVE to go buy new jeans. I've worn the same pair of jeans to work every Friday for the last two years (and wear that same pair most weekends), and they're slowly becoming less and less "casual/smart Friday appropriate."
5. I use the "dollar per use" rule for clothes - I don't buy something unless I know I'll wear it at least once for every dollar I spend on it. (Formal/party wear excepted - but my life doesn't call for much of that.) I think these jeans fall under the "nickel per use" category, and they weren't cheap
6. I need to go get coffee before my first meeting.
7. Sometimes things seem so messed up and hopeless and then I talk to Jen and she convinces me in 10 seconds that everything is going to be totally fine. How does she do that? And how did I luck into being married to her?
8. I have five episodes of American Horror Story on the DVR, and can't decide if I want to watch them or not.
9. I'm concerned that Glee going to butcher West Side Story.
10. No wonder my coffee buddy hasn't come by yet, he's out today. Must go forage on my own.
1. look at me!! (though this is going to be short lived, the baby boy be stirrin')
2. Holy gas. Holy gas. Holy gas. Holy gas. We were up all night and the night before and the night before and the night before.. with gas pains. I tried gripe water - nothing. My pedi says it might be my diary intake? Why all of a sudden? He was golden for 3 weeks and now it affects him? I am suspicious.
3. He is snuggled up in my giant bed, all alone. I am watching him on the video monitor. I snuck away to eat breakfast and spend the *first* moments alone in 4 weeks and 1 day.. on the bump... doing this?? oye. I am tempted to run up and snuggle with him. He is just too cute!
4. I have a son!!
5. and a super cute one, at that!!
6. After a super stressful first 2 weeks of life, waiting for my milk to come in, pumping and formula feeding..going to LC's and resorting to a nipple shield.. doing everything under the sun to make breastfeeding work I am overjoyed to say that we are 100% nursing now! He has been without a bottle or formula or pump for over a week!
7. Remember my post about the doula and should we get one? Yeah.. I think I am the first person in history to report back and say "I regret getting a doula". Hopefully one day I will type out my crazy birth story or at least an abbreviated version of it. I think my psyche needs to write it all out.
8. He is smiling in his half sleep. I could eat him. Fo reals.
9. He is laughing and smiling..can I bottle this time up and save it forever? He is already growing out of his newborn clothes!! He was such a peanut when he was born his feet hung out around the knees in his sleepers.. now they are in the actual feet!! AHH!! next thing I know he is going to be leaving for college! Make it stop!!
10. Being a mom is the best feeling on Earth. I am blown away by how much I love my little boy. My heart can't hold all the love. It aches. I can't wait for all the ladies on this board, who are waiting for their moment to come, to finally feel this. Hang in there my friends, it took us 2 years to make this beautiful baby boy and it is worth every tear, every heartbreak.. there are no words to explain how amazing this past month has been. Birth story from h*ll, sleep depravation, breastfeeding failures... none of it matters when his tiny fingers wrap around my hand or when he smiles.. oh my god.. when he smiles... his dimples.. his gummy smile.. his wide eyes following mine.. the world stands still and the love I feel.. my heart can't hold it all.
1. I just read a friend of a friend's blog about having to return their foster son to his biological family. I am a puddle. Seriously, I can't leave my office now. My co-workers will wonder what happened to me. My hat goes off to all of you foster parents. You have my utmost admiration and respect.
2. Last night L asked me to stop hanging the boys' backpacks on the banister and hang them on the hook inside the coat closet. I said that I would forget them. Guess who forgot the backpacks this morning and had to drive 45 home and 45 back to school to drop off said backpacks. Yea, me. Back on the banister they go. I don't care if looks cluttered.
3. I just got an e-mail that our message lights on our phones aren't working - and haven't been since yesterday. I am scared to check my VM and hear how many messages I have.
4. While I am happy to only having a 4 day work week, that means a 3 day weekend all alone with the kids. I think I have planned a good weekend of fun stuff and rest time.
5. Daylight savings is really messing with all of us. I can't seem to stay awake past 9:30 and am awake at 5am. the kids are exhausted by 7:30 and up at 5:30am. Yawn.
6. This morning when I went to drop off the backpacks, I found Carter in timeout. He had kicked another kid and then kicked down whatever that kid was building. The teacher asked for me to talk with him and when he saw me, his face was heartbreaking. he nearly cried while I was talking with him (so unlike him.) L just reminded me this is how he acts when he is about to get sick (aggressive, weepy, etc.) Fabulous.
7. I am on a spending freeze. Last month we had crazy overage charges on our cell phones because of L's work (sigh.) I paid the bill and then earlier this week got a bill for last month and this month, saying I didn't pay it. Turns out I paid it to Verizon home (cable/phone/internet) and not Verizon wireless. So I had to repay both months to the right company. But I don't have to pay cable this month or next!
8. It looks GORGEOUS out there right now. VERY blue skies, not a cloud to be seen, and 65 degrees. Why am I in here? And by the time I leave, it will be dark. Boo.
9. Part of the kids' homework is to make a tee-pee and put little twigs/sticks in it. Given we don't get home till after dark, I guess we'll be outside with a flashlight looking for sticks tonight. LOL.
10. I need to eat lunch. A sub from the hospital next door sounds awesome, but they are $$ (see #7.) Off to see what I can dig up for cheap!
Aw Jean, way to go and make a girl get all weepy at work! So good to see you here and hear how you are. And yes, they grow up way too d%mn fast, so soak up every minute!
1. I usually have no problem with the "fall back". I was awake an hour early this morning despite being totally exhausted last night. WTF?
2. Some work things are coming to a head all at once and I'm feeling a little overwhelmed. So instead...I'm here posting.
3. I had an african violet growing into 2 plants in one pot on my desk at work. I split it into two pots yesterday. Cross your fingers I didn't kill them.
4. I was trying to avoid coffee this morning...but now I feel like there's no way I'll make it.
5. I am excited at the prospect of moving and owning my own place. But a mortgage by myself...gulp.
6. I wish there were time/money for a warm sunny vacation somewhere soon.
7. E's dad and I are talking about taking her to the nut.cracker together. It's expensive, but I think this could be the magical age when she will just thrill at it.
8. My mom is having knee surgery next Monday and I offered to go be with her. She declined (while my dad was on the phone) but sent me a text later thanking me so much for offering.
1. Most feedings I just stare at this baby's sweet face. Mesmerized.
2. A friend remarked how calm our house is. I said, "that's cuz we've just been meditating on him all day."
3. At 3 am I start to nod off while he's eating, so I've turned on the TV. And found sister wives on netflix. Thanks, ladies.
4. He had his first visit with mom yesterday. All went smoothly. I was still a wreck.
5. Today--my hats off to all of you breastfeeding mamas. And single mamas. Who do all of this without caffeine!
6. My work was on the news yesterday (we are changing owners in a very unique way--selling the restaurant for $100). The story was botched.
7. L is off for 6 weeks. My plan was to be off for one week, then part time for a few weeks. Because the restaurant is selling--I was barely off for one week, then my first day back (Mon) was this news story. I was here until 8:30pm.
8. Another story on Thurs. I'll be here til 10pm. If I can sleep in a day or two I"ll be ok. But I miss the bambino.
9. L's parenting style: All heart. She said, "I've never understood when people say they could just eat someone up. I think I get it now."
10. And she said, "His butt is just so much cuter in the cloth diapers. I love his fluffy diaper butt." How lucky am I?
1. Actually posting TTT takes more commitment than just reading them.
2. I've been very busy at work today, but in a good way. Lots of loose ends getting tied up.
3. I not so secretly love to watch 19 Kids and Counting. I find most reality TV to be a fascinating window into the lives of people who are different from me. That said, I really fear for Michelle and this baby. What if it's God's will for a doctor to tell you to stop having babies?
4. I am one of the lucky few who benefits from the time change in this direction. Got sleepy early and went to bed, and slept a full night. Usually I have a hard time getting to sleep and a hard time waking up.
5. C is literally putting the finishing touches on the first draft of her dissertation as we speak. I am so proud of her.
6. I have babies on the brain so bad these days, it's ridiculous. It doesn't help that my Facebook has become "Babybook" - probably 15 babies born to my FB friends in the past year.
7. We have finally nailed down our holiday plans. We're going to go visit my mom and sister for an entire 10 days. It feels ridiculously luxurious to be able to do this. I will really enjoy the time with my family, and I think C will too.
8. We met with a realtor last week to talk about selling the house and she suggested we should get it on the market in early 2012 so that we are in line with the local university's recruiting season.
9. That means we have some work to do to get the house ready to be photographed and go on the market. Not a lot, but enough to be intimidating.
10. Jean and EratMama, I am so happy for you both!
Same sex couple TTC with donor sperm. I am 35 and carrying. Endometriosis and DOR. AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
3. Some past drama is starting to resurface and it is leading me back down a path to depression. I wish I knew how to let it all go.
4. I feel like things are spiraling out of control.
5. I think I need to see a counselor.
I'm sorry you're struggling so much. If you ever want to talk feel free to reach out by PM or FB. I hope you can find a good counselor to help you get things back on the right track.
TTC with PCOS since July 2011.
IVF Oct/Nov 2012
Beta #1 = 77, Beta #2 = 190, Beta #3 = 1044
Cautiously optimistic.
1. mommymonster, I'm sorry. Please let me know if a shoulder would help. I have two.
2. Jean and Eratmama, I'm so happy for you both. They grow unbelievably fast, so enjoy every moment.
3. We were going to put in an offer on a house today, but we ended up not doing it. It needed too much work for us to deal comfortably with the idea. Back to the drawing board. I LOVE my realtor, by the way. He is super duper patient with us.
4. Work was a bit emotionally draining today.
5. I'm excited about dinner - salmon, couscous, and broccoli.
6. Dinner is ready, so I guess it's just six things for me!
1. It's Wednesday, but it's really early, so I'm playing.
2. Today I get to have a root canal on a molar. It should take 2 hours. I'm excited to finally have it done (insurance just kicked in), but not :-/
3. It's CD 34! Last month was 35 days long! Ridic!
4. It's stupid how much I'm affected by the time change. I was up at 4:45 this morning.
5. I'm so happy for our two Jeans!
6. Yesterday we were all consumed with a stray dog. He was so sweet, it was heartbreaking. We had to take him to Animal Care and Control. He showed some aggression to other dogs, so they will surely euthanize him.
7. K has agreed to move forward with fostering, with some reservations about my ability to deal with the loss involved.
8. I'm not sure how I'll deal with it, honestly, other than my normal coping mechanisms. What can you do? Yes, if (and when) we "lose" a child, I will be heartbroken. I just don't want that to prevent us from doing some good.
7. K has agreed to move forward with fostering, with some reservations about my ability to deal with the loss involved.
8. I'm not sure how I'll deal with it, honestly, other than my normal coping mechanisms. What can you do? Yes, if (and when) we "lose" a child, I will be heartbroken. I just don't want that to prevent us from doing some good.
How could anyone be "good" at dealing with something like that? IMO, that's not what makes someone a good candicate for foster parenting - what does, is someone willing to deal with it.
I'm always here if you want to chat about it more.
3. Some past drama is starting to resurface and it is leading me back down a path to depression. I wish I knew how to let it all go.
4. I feel like things are spiraling out of control.
5. I think I need to see a counselor.
I'm sorry you're struggling so much. If you ever want to talk feel free to reach out by PM or FB. I hope you can find a good counselor to help you get things back on the right track.
I second the offer of support. I am a therapy utilizer big time. I can listen if you want to reach out.
7. K has agreed to move forward with fostering, with some reservations about my ability to deal with the loss involved.
8. I'm not sure how I'll deal with it, honestly, other than my normal coping mechanisms. What can you do? Yes, if (and when) we "lose" a child, I will be heartbroken. I just don't want that to prevent us from doing some good.
How could anyone be "good" at dealing with something like that? IMO, that's not what makes someone a good candicate for foster parenting - what does, is someone willing to deal with it.
I'm always here if you want to chat about it more.
I agree! I have a history of depression, and K just wants to protect my heart. It looks like we're moving forward, slowly. I'll treasure you as a parenting resource, no matter how we end up getting there, for sure!
Re: TTT
1. Since I missed the weekend update, DW and I spent Saturday night at a fancy schmancy hotel in upstate New York celebrating our first wedding anniversary! It feels strange to call it our first though, since it erases all the many years before that. But that's the way it goes I guess!
2. There were fall colors and an outdoor hot tub and mints for the pillows at night and room service in the morning. Ah, that's the life.
3. DW then stayed upstate for a work event. Driving back was lonely and I'm excited for her to come home, but I also will admit that having the apartment to myself for two nights was fun.
4. I am feeling really sad that we're on a break from TTC due to the holidays. It feels like we're giving up, which of course is not at all true, since we'll start again after Christmas... but still, it's a long time.
5. I admit, I had more than my fair share of dreams about revealing a pregnancy to our families on these holidays, and about how a baby would fit into our plans next summer....and etc. etc.
6. We really need to have a baby before January 2013, cuz otherwise I'm going to have to wildly use up a ton of vacation that I'm hoarding for maternity leave. (And then have to start hoarding again...) Ha.
7. I get Friday off for Veteran's Day. Woo hoo!
8. My new office at work is large and bare; I really need to come up with something to decorate it with.
I think I'll have to add 9 and 10 later, or I'm going to be late!!
IVF Oct/Nov 2012
Beta #1 = 77, Beta #2 = 190, Beta #3 = 1044
Cautiously optimistic.
1) The Duggars announced that they are expecting baby #20. Shut the F up.
2) I'm having a blast planning Daisy's 1st bday. I hope it goes as well as its shaping up in my head
3) Sprout's schedule has been all over the place the past 2 weeks, but he's managing it really well.
4) It fustrates me that DW gets so worn out the 2 days a week she has to watch the kids solo for a couple hours between when school gets out and I get home from work. seriously??
5) I've been having something happen to me lately that makes me feel like i've completely lost my mind. its freaky. i may blog about it later.
6) I experienced a holiday tragedy yesterday. I've had my holiday cards designed and waiting in my shopping cart (online) since august. I was waiting for a good coupon code. So yesterday my coupon came, i went to the site to order my cards and THEY'VE BEEN DISCONTINUED. omg.
7) I have to spend another couple days in NYC next month for work and am debating asking DW and the kids to come along. On the one hand, Sprout has been begging to go to NYC and i think they'd love the tree and holiday store fronts....but i also kinda like the little break my work travel provides
8) I did a cake smash photo shoot w/ Daisy this weekend. She loves food and is such a chunker that I was sure she'd get into it. actually, no - there was no smashing involved. just like RB, she was confused and a little freaked out.
9) so now i get jealous when i see siggy pics on the 9-12m board of the babies with smooshed cake everywhere and big smiles on their faces.
10) I dont understand the "Hi, how are you?" greeting. I mean, no one ever says anything other than "good, you?". What's the point??
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1. What the H Duggars? STOP HAVING CHILDREN! Did you not hear that the world is approaching 7 billion people? Are you trying to get us there single handedly???
2. So it's official, I'm withdrawing from school, which is a huge stressor off of my life. Now I can work full time, I have a job lined up
, and guess what that meansssss!
3. TTC starting January 2012
4. Is it normal to be nervous as fvck!
5. I'll eventually go to dental hygienist school, haha, which is odd but I really, really like it.
6. And the pay of a D.H. isn't anything to scoff at.
7. I'm so freaking excited. We have our fresh sperm, waiting to be *ahem* released.
8. I've got my baby incubator (my beautiful wife) all ready to go.
9. Christmas is quickly approaching and I only have 3 gifts for my beautiful bride. :S
10. I just found out that my old softball coach as become a lesbian! Whoa! She left her husband for a lady! Oh snaaap!
1. I printed all of Iz's monthly letters from my blog last night and left them on top of my computer hoping that J would be sneaky and read them while I was in the shower. I don't think she read them so she still doesn't understand the love I have for Iz.
2. I need to figure out how to incorporate the letters into the pages of a scrapbook, they are full size letters so I'm thinking that maybe putting them in color coordinated envelopes and mounting them to the pages would work. This is my first scrapbook EVER, I need help.
3. The weather has been wonderful lately, 60's-low 70's, warm but with a cool and crisp Fall undertone.
4. I'm still negotiating with the bank for Cash for Keys, they take forever to get back to me.
5. A starts Thanksgiving (or is it first trimester?) break on Friday, it will be nice to have her home for 17 days!
6. J should have her promotion by next week.
7. We will be in court in 10 days, signing a paper that says we are legally Iz's moms!
8. I need to have the pilot on the wall heater lit but I've been putting it off because I don't know how much longer we'll be in this house.
9. The house is getting a deep cleaning today. Tomorrow is Iz's last SW visit and she will be doing a full inspection of the house.
10. Are we exchanging gifts this year? I have tons of ornament ideas and want to join in this year.
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
1. I'm convinced that one of the Duggars is going to go rogue at some point and put out a tell-all book. I can't wait!
2. I've worked out twice this week and it's only Tuesday. {Pats self on back.}
3. I'm excited about brunch on Sunday and it's only Tuesday. {Wonders if I have a problem.}
4. We have Friday off, and I HAVE to go buy new jeans. I've worn the same pair of jeans to work every Friday for the last two years (and wear that same pair most weekends), and they're slowly becoming less and less "casual/smart Friday appropriate."
5. I use the "dollar per use" rule for clothes - I don't buy something unless I know I'll wear it at least once for every dollar I spend on it. (Formal/party wear excepted - but my life doesn't call for much of that.) I think these jeans fall under the "nickel per use" category, and they weren't cheap
6. I need to go get coffee before my first meeting.
7. Sometimes things seem so messed up and hopeless and then I talk to Jen and she convinces me in 10 seconds that everything is going to be totally fine. How does she do that? And how did I luck into being married to her?
8. I have five episodes of American Horror Story on the DVR, and can't decide if I want to watch them or not.
9. I'm concerned that Glee going to butcher West Side Story.
10. No wonder my coffee buddy hasn't come by yet, he's out today. Must go forage on my own.
WATCH IT!!!!!!!! J and I are OBSESSED with this show! We love it so much lol it's completely freaky and weird and amazing!
1. look at me!! (though this is going to be short lived, the baby boy be stirrin')
2. Holy gas. Holy gas. Holy gas. Holy gas. We were up all night and the night before and the night before and the night before.. with gas pains. I tried gripe water - nothing. My pedi says it might be my diary intake? Why all of a sudden? He was golden for 3 weeks and now it affects him? I am suspicious.
3. He is snuggled up in my giant bed, all alone. I am watching him on the video monitor. I snuck away to eat breakfast and spend the *first* moments alone in 4 weeks and 1 day.. on the bump... doing this?? oye. I am tempted to run up and snuggle with him. He is just too cute!
4. I have a son!!
5. and a super cute one, at that!!
6. After a super stressful first 2 weeks of life, waiting for my milk to come in, pumping and formula feeding..going to LC's and resorting to a nipple shield.. doing everything under the sun to make breastfeeding work I am overjoyed to say that we are 100% nursing now! He has been without a bottle or formula or pump for over a week!
7. Remember my post about the doula and should we get one? Yeah.. I think I am the first person in history to report back and say "I regret getting a doula". Hopefully one day I will type out my crazy birth story or at least an abbreviated version of it. I think my psyche needs to write it all out.
8. He is smiling in his half sleep. I could eat him. Fo reals.
9. He is laughing and smiling..can I bottle this time up and save it forever? He is already growing out of his newborn clothes!! He was such a peanut when he was born his feet hung out around the knees in his sleepers.. now they are in the actual feet!! AHH!! next thing I know he is going to be leaving for college! Make it stop!!
10. Being a mom is the best feeling on Earth. I am blown away by how much I love my little boy. My heart can't hold all the love. It aches. I can't wait for all the ladies on this board, who are waiting for their moment to come, to finally feel this. Hang in there my friends, it took us 2 years to make this beautiful baby boy and it is worth every tear, every heartbreak.. there are no words to explain how amazing this past month has been. Birth story from h*ll, sleep depravation, breastfeeding failures... none of it matters when his tiny fingers wrap around my hand or when he smiles.. oh my god.. when he smiles... his dimples.. his gummy smile.. his wide eyes following mine.. the world stands still and the love I feel.. my heart can't hold it all.
omg, yes!!
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This is my favorite comment of the day! Wouldn't that be some sh*t?
1. I just read a friend of a friend's blog about having to return their foster son to his biological family. I am a puddle. Seriously, I can't leave my office now. My co-workers will wonder what happened to me. My hat goes off to all of you foster parents. You have my utmost admiration and respect.
2. Last night L asked me to stop hanging the boys' backpacks on the banister and hang them on the hook inside the coat closet. I said that I would forget them. Guess who forgot the backpacks this morning and had to drive 45 home and 45 back to school to drop off said backpacks. Yea, me. Back on the banister they go. I don't care if looks cluttered.
3. I just got an e-mail that our message lights on our phones aren't working - and haven't been since yesterday. I am scared to check my VM and hear how many messages I have.
4. While I am happy to only having a 4 day work week, that means a 3 day weekend all alone with the kids. I think I have planned a good weekend of fun stuff and rest time.
5. Daylight savings is really messing with all of us. I can't seem to stay awake past 9:30 and am awake at 5am. the kids are exhausted by 7:30 and up at 5:30am. Yawn.
6. This morning when I went to drop off the backpacks, I found Carter in timeout. He had kicked another kid and then kicked down whatever that kid was building. The teacher asked for me to talk with him and when he saw me, his face was heartbreaking. he nearly cried while I was talking with him (so unlike him.) L just reminded me this is how he acts when he is about to get sick (aggressive, weepy, etc.) Fabulous.
7. I am on a spending freeze. Last month we had crazy overage charges on our cell phones because of L's work (sigh.) I paid the bill and then earlier this week got a bill for last month and this month, saying I didn't pay it. Turns out I paid it to Verizon home (cable/phone/internet) and not Verizon wireless. So I had to repay both months to the right company. But I don't have to pay cable this month or next!
8. It looks GORGEOUS out there right now. VERY blue skies, not a cloud to be seen, and 65 degrees. Why am I in here? And by the time I leave, it will be dark. Boo.
9. Part of the kids' homework is to make a tee-pee and put little twigs/sticks in it. Given we don't get home till after dark, I guess we'll be outside with a flashlight looking for sticks tonight. LOL.
10. I need to eat lunch. A sub from the hospital next door sounds awesome, but they are $$ (see #7.) Off to see what I can dig up for cheap!
Aw Jean, way to go and make a girl get all weepy at work! So good to see you here and hear how you are. And yes, they grow up way too d%mn fast, so soak up every minute!
1. I usually have no problem with the "fall back". I was awake an hour early this morning despite being totally exhausted last night. WTF?
2. Some work things are coming to a head all at once and I'm feeling a little overwhelmed. So instead...I'm here posting.
3. I had an african violet growing into 2 plants in one pot on my desk at work. I split it into two pots yesterday. Cross your fingers I didn't kill them.
4. I was trying to avoid coffee this morning...but now I feel like there's no way I'll make it.
5. I am excited at the prospect of moving and owning my own place. But a mortgage by myself...gulp.
6. I wish there were time/money for a warm sunny vacation somewhere soon.
7. E's dad and I are talking about taking her to the nut.cracker together. It's expensive, but I think this could be the magical age when she will just thrill at it.
8. My mom is having knee surgery next Monday and I offered to go be with her. She declined (while my dad was on the phone) but sent me a text later thanking me so much for offering.
I guess I only have 8 today...
1. I just can't ...with the duggars. Can't.
2. We are in love with our little guy.
3. I am about to go on 4 months leave with him. Looking forward to it, but sad for DW that she has to return to work.
4. So rainy and gross here today.
5. Can't wait to see 2 couples from our birth class and their babies tonight!
6. I actually threw out the option last night that we BOTH get a Keurig. We have a serious coffee problem.
7. Nervous about some family stuff for holidays, but also hopeful as some of the relationships are going better.
8. WW makes me so.d***.hungry. And it works.
9. 3.5 days left of work.
10. I think our furnace will die soon. Did not want that expense.
1. Most feedings I just stare at this baby's sweet face. Mesmerized.
2. A friend remarked how calm our house is. I said, "that's cuz we've just been meditating on him all day."
3. At 3 am I start to nod off while he's eating, so I've turned on the TV. And found sister wives on netflix. Thanks, ladies.
4. He had his first visit with mom yesterday. All went smoothly. I was still a wreck.
5. Today--my hats off to all of you breastfeeding mamas. And single mamas. Who do all of this without caffeine!
6. My work was on the news yesterday (we are changing owners in a very unique way--selling the restaurant for $100). The story was botched.
7. L is off for 6 weeks. My plan was to be off for one week, then part time for a few weeks. Because the restaurant is selling--I was barely off for one week, then my first day back (Mon) was this news story. I was here until 8:30pm.
8. Another story on Thurs. I'll be here til 10pm. If I can sleep in a day or two I"ll be ok. But I miss the bambino.
9. L's parenting style: All heart. She said, "I've never understood when people say they could just eat someone up. I think I get it now."
10. And she said, "His butt is just so much cuter in the cloth diapers. I love his fluffy diaper butt." How lucky am I?
1. Actually posting TTT takes more commitment than just reading them.
2. I've been very busy at work today, but in a good way. Lots of loose ends getting tied up.
3. I not so secretly love to watch 19 Kids and Counting. I find most reality TV to be a fascinating window into the lives of people who are different from me. That said, I really fear for Michelle and this baby. What if it's God's will for a doctor to tell you to stop having babies?
4. I am one of the lucky few who benefits from the time change in this direction. Got sleepy early and went to bed, and slept a full night. Usually I have a hard time getting to sleep and a hard time waking up.
5. C is literally putting the finishing touches on the first draft of her dissertation as we speak. I am so proud of her.
6. I have babies on the brain so bad these days, it's ridiculous. It doesn't help that my Facebook has become "Babybook" - probably 15 babies born to my FB friends in the past year.
7. We have finally nailed down our holiday plans. We're going to go visit my mom and sister for an entire 10 days. It feels ridiculously luxurious to be able to do this. I will really enjoy the time with my family, and I think C will too.
8. We met with a realtor last week to talk about selling the house and she suggested we should get it on the market in early 2012 so that we are in line with the local university's recruiting season.
9. That means we have some work to do to get the house ready to be photographed and go on the market. Not a lot, but enough to be intimidating.
10. Jean and EratMama, I am so happy for you both!
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
I'm sorry you're struggling so much.
If you ever want to talk feel free to reach out by PM or FB. I hope you can find a good counselor to help you get things back on the right track.
IVF Oct/Nov 2012
Beta #1 = 77, Beta #2 = 190, Beta #3 = 1044
Cautiously optimistic.
1. mommymonster, I'm sorry. Please let me know if a shoulder would help. I have two.
2. Jean and Eratmama, I'm so happy for you both. They grow unbelievably fast, so enjoy every moment.
3. We were going to put in an offer on a house today, but we ended up not doing it. It needed too much work for us to deal comfortably with the idea. Back to the drawing board. I LOVE my realtor, by the way. He is super duper patient with us.
4. Work was a bit emotionally draining today.
5. I'm excited about dinner - salmon, couscous, and broccoli.
6. Dinner is ready, so I guess it's just six things for me!
1. It's Wednesday, but it's really early, so I'm playing.
2. Today I get to have a root canal on a molar. It should take 2 hours. I'm excited to finally have it done (insurance just kicked in), but not :-/
3. It's CD 34! Last month was 35 days long! Ridic!
4. It's stupid how much I'm affected by the time change. I was up at 4:45 this morning.
5. I'm so happy for our two Jeans!
6. Yesterday we were all consumed with a stray dog. He was so sweet, it was heartbreaking. We had to take him to Animal Care and Control. He showed some aggression to other dogs, so they will surely euthanize him.
7. K has agreed to move forward with fostering, with some reservations about my ability to deal with the loss involved.
8. I'm not sure how I'll deal with it, honestly, other than my normal coping mechanisms. What can you do? Yes, if (and when) we "lose" a child, I will be heartbroken. I just don't want that to prevent us from doing some good.
How could anyone be "good" at dealing with something like that? IMO, that's not what makes someone a good candicate for foster parenting - what does, is someone willing to deal with it.
I'm always here if you want to chat about it more.
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I second the offer of support. I am a therapy utilizer big time. I can listen if you want to reach out.
I agree! I have a history of depression, and K just wants to protect my heart. It looks like we're moving forward, slowly. I'll treasure you as a parenting resource, no matter how we end up getting there, for sure!