baby shower ettiquette rant.

nikileebaugh · November 2011

i have to get this off my chest, and this is my safe place. i promise treats at the end!

i'll start with - i live in nevada which is far away from my whole family - except DH's dad, step wife and their sons (one is theirs together, one is her's from a previous marriage). now, since this isn't her blood grandchild, i told her from the beginning that i totally understand and her involvement in everything can be whatever she wants it to be. i left it up to her. she came back with "oh no, i'm so excited! and please don't call me step grandma i want to just grandma, and blah blah blah".

i asked her for a list of people she wanted to invite, she gave me her family and a few friends - great! so, two weeks ago when i got these invites, they were over for dinner and i showed her the invites and told her to get me their info so i can mail them. she said "oh no, let me! just give them to me, i'll mail them to them no big. that way you don't have to worry about it."

great! well.. fast forward to today. i get an email at work, cause she works downstairs from me and apparently it's so hard for her to come up and talk to me, that says this:

"niki,

can you email me that invite so i can email it to my sisters? thanks.."

ARE YOU KIDDING ME? first off, i gave her those two weeks ago, how hard is it to put an address on? they already had stamps because i stamped them. secondly, email invites are the tackiest thing on earth. ok, not as tacky as facebook invites, but tackier then SH*T if you ask me. i don't want her to email them invites, i wanted them to receive printed invites like everyone else. and thirdly, my shower is on the 20th. i put an RSVP date of the 12th, so that gives them 4 days to RSVP and 12 days until my shower. that's not enough time! if you don't give people ample time for things, they just don't come.

so now, i sit here at work, totally irritated, over stupid baby shower invites and my lazy step-mother in law.

ok, vent over. and here's some yummy smore cookies that i'm going to serve at my forest friends baby shower! Big Smile

sbphotos · November 2011

People. Are. Lame.

Wtf? I'd be so irritated too! Sorry your step MIL is lazy. So frustrating!

Foolish5336 · November 2011

Ugh, I'm sorry that you have to deal with this. I hope your shower goes smoothly from here on in and that there's not more tackiness or drama that you have to deal with from step MIL.

mundayem · November 2011

That would irritate me too. She probably won't tell them that she's the one who forgot to send the invites. Sorry she's being so lame.

xoladiebug · November 2011

I don't understand this at all. Instead of making less work she's now made more work for you and wasted all the work that you put into the invites you gave her. Are you sure she didn't just run out? I tell ya, sometimes it's just better to do things yourself! I'm so sorry!

nikileebaugh · November 2011

xoladiebug:
I don't understand this at all. Instead of making less work she's now made more work for you and wasted all the work that you put into the invites you gave her. Are you sure she didn't just run out? I tell ya, sometimes it's just better to do things yourself! I'm so sorry!

i thought about that, but i even gave her extras without stamps in case she forgot someone and wanted to invite! plus i told her if she needed more despite the extras, just ask. and the ones that were for her sisters, had a return address and a stamp, all they needed was an addressee and dropped off at the post office.. but apparently that was too hard Huh?

this is going to come off mean, but i should have known better. she is a very lazy woman. my FIL cleans, cooks, does laundry, does everything and i'm not exaggerating. all she ever does is sit in her room and watch tv. she even has a recliner and a big screen tv in there - and when they got directv, she argued with him over who get the directv DVR box because she felt she deserved it in her room instead of in the living room for everyone else. needless to say, i should have known that if i wanted them mailed i should have just done it myself. blah!

corndog8 · November 2011

xoladiebug:
I don't understand this at all. Instead of making less work she's now made more work for you and wasted all the work that you put into the invites you gave her. Are you sure she didn't just run out? I tell ya, sometimes it's just better to do things yourself! I'm so sorry!

Same - sorry hon.

HBaylies · November 2011

I would be beyond annoyed. No volunteering to help if you're not going to follow through! This is why I'm one of those people that likes to just do everything myself.

lauralew · November 2011

OMG. This totes reminds me of my "big" family wedding shower. My Aunt Katie called dibs on throwing me a shower...and then did NOTHING to plan it. Two of my other aunts jumped in and started planning, but my Aunt Katie was in charge of sending out invitations. Well, all of Justin's family lives out of town, and some of them didn't even receive the invitations until AFTER the shower. I had invited a couple close friends who also didn't receive their invitations in time, but luckily I had given them all the information.

Your step MIL shouldn't have offered to mail them if she wasn't going to do it. And, if I were her, I would cover my ass by just giving the information to those people and not telling you about it. Dishonest? Yes...but sometimes ignorance is bliss.

ellebelle2384 · November 2011

I'd be irritated too. I hope this is the only snafu for you and the rest of the shower/planning goes smoothly!

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