Is anyone still keeping it a secret?

ten17 · November 2011

I just hit the 13 week mark last Friday and we have yet to tell anyone we are expecting. I am hoping to wait until at least 20 weeks when we know if we are having a boy or girl. Also I have a close relative who is due within the next month and I'd prefer to let her have the focus for the next couple of months as this is her first also. Just wondering if anyone else is waiting as long as possible and how you reached that decision.

ElinJ · November 2011

I won't hit 11 weeks until tomorrow, and we have a dr's appointment tomorrow. After that, assuming all goes well, we'll begin to tell our closest friends & family this weekend. Think we might keep it off FB, Twitter, casual friends & coworkers until Thanksgiving at least (13wks), but it might be hard once we tell a couple people! As for right now, I'm really enjoying not getting tons of unsolicited advice. Wink

JG362009 · November 2011

For my first pregnancy we didn't tell my parents (who I"m actually pretty close with) until the anatomy ultrasound when we found out I was having a boy. I didn't tell work until 22 ish weeks. I was uneasy about being pregnant and just generally freaked out about everything so we didn't feel like sharing yet. This time has been the complete opposite -- we told our families within days of getting the BFP. Haven't told lots of friends, mainly because I'm waiting to do it in person if I can. I hate telling work so we'll see when that happens.

tnywndy · November 2011

I waited until the NT scan to tell work and a lot of our friends, but I also wouldn't have been able to wait much longer because I started to show. If you can make it to 20ish weeks without showing I am impressed!! (and maybe a tad jealous!:))

marielovestimothy03 · November 2011

I've told some online friends and my women's Bible study at Church but we haven't told any family or other friends or made announcements on FB or our family blog yet. I have my first u/s tomorrow and then we leave to go see our families (we live out of state) this weekend and will tell them then and then I'm hoping my MIL will keep her mouth shut long enough to keep it a secret until we make our public announcement after Thanksgiving

With my first two pregnancies we told pretty much right away so its been weird to have it a secret - especially from my mom - so long! Though I admit its been kind of fun to build up the suspense of surprising everyone!

MelissaMiso · November 2011

Initially, we told close family and friends right away (the ones that we'd rely on for support if something went wrong). We finally made the official announcement at 12.5 weeks (after the 2nd u/s). It felt really weird to not be carrying around the secret anymore, but now I am thrilled everyone knows.

FyreFlyeRush · November 2011

We told a couple of people at beginning, but decided to wait until my 12 week appt to tell anyone else. I'm 34, had spotting, and was considered higher risk for miscarriage. My 12 week appt is tomorrow, and I'll hopefully be making an announcement then. My now ex in a temper tantrum told a bunch of our mutual friends for reasons unknown to me. Spite, maybe?

missbrooklyn1 · November 2011

The only people who know are me, my SO and you ladies (oh, and my OB!). I want to wait until Thanksgiving - I will have had my NT scan and a follow up with my OB and, assuming all goes well, I'll then be comfortable sharing. A piece of me wouldn't mind waiting until after the a/s (my OB says that happens at 16 wks) but I don't know if I can hide it that long - people are already guessing and asking, not that I'm showing, just that people are getting vibes...weird. We'll see.

NatPhoto09 · November 2011

I'm still in the closet. I'll be 11 weeks tomorrow. I have a dr's appt. on Thursday and if everything is good then we'll start spilling the beans on Thanksgiving. Both families will be together and we can get it out of the way all at once. There are a handfull of people that know but I want to announce on facebook and my local bump girls don't know either.

fryrat · November 2011

I lost my first around 12 weeks, so we are waiting until after the next appt at around 13.5 wks.

nicole0066 · November 2011

We initially told one set of friends and our parents. When we heard the heartbeat at our last appointment we told some other close friends. My boss knows, but I won't tell coworkers until at least after the NT scan. Even though it's next week I'm pretty bloated at the end of the day and am getting worried about the bloat "outing" me before I'm ready to tell.

CC.to.be · November 2011

I am waiting till after my NT scan. I will not post on FB either, I will actually call people and tell them.

skooterblenny · November 2011

The only person who knows other than my DH is the midwife office. We are telling our family over Thanksgiving (seeing them in-person) and will let it slip to DH's coworkers probably right afterwards. I'm starting a new job in Dec, so I'm hoping to hold off a few weeks so I don't drop a bomb right away.

It's actually not as hard as I thought it would be, although I've been working crazy long hours at my current job and haven't seen friends much in the past few weeks so I haven't had to deal with happy hours/not drinking or someone noticing my tummy is a little puffy. I think people just think I'm getting chubby from working so much and not making it to the gym.

We had the NT scan, everything looked good. We kind of like having this little secret that nobody knows about, but I doubt I could make it to 20 weeks (that would be Christmas for me) - I'm petite and pretty sure I will start showing shortly after my new job starts. Good luck!

blueshamrock7 · November 2011

Most of my famly knows - there are some aunts/uncles/cousins on my dad's side that I am waiting until Saturday to tell because I wanted to tell them in person and they live farther away (so we are all getting together on Saturday). My MIL's family knows (we are close with them, my husband's cousin lives right down the street with his family) and my FIL will get to tell his family himself after our NT scan on Friday. As long as all goes as we are planning with the NT scan on Friday, we will "go public" on Monday, which involves me telling my friends at work (my bosses know), my husband telling his friends at work (his boss knows) and then coming out on Facebook (which I am pretty excited about as I have a big "fan base" expecting me to get pregnant any day now LOL).

ELF4321 · November 2011

Some of my close friends have known from the beginning, because they also know our ttc and IF history and I knew I would need their support if things went bad. We're going to tell our families at Thanksgiving. Not sure when we'll come out to our more extended group of friends on FB.

EmilyP103 · November 2011

I couldn't hold it in. I told one of my best friends at about 7w (only because she called me to tell me about her bfp). After that, we told another best friend and our parents in the next few weeks.

We haven't told extended family and I just told one boss yesterday....

It won't be "facebook official" to the world until Thanksgiving weekend!

MickeyM04 · November 2011

Other than our parents and our 2 sisters we have not told anyone. We are waiting until I hit second tri, which is Saturday.

chusum · November 2011

I've told a handful of people but have no interest in sharing it with the masses anytime soon. DH keeps asking when we are going to share, and I keep avoiding the question.

djclk · November 2011

We have not told anyone yet. I do not have anyone I am close with so I have no interest in just sharing it with random people. I am overjoyed at being pregnant again but at the same time I feel completely alone this time. We are no longer close with our families and rarely see them especially DH's family and I do not have any close friends.

SometimesRunner · November 2011

My parents, H's parents and our two best friends know. Our next appt is on Monday and if everything goes well, we'll share with the rest of our family on Thanksgiving and start telling other friends after our family knows.

BelleIsa · November 2011

tnywndy:
I waited until the NT scan to tell work and a lot of our friends, but I also wouldn't have been able to wait much longer because I started to show. If you can make it to 20ish weeks without showing I am impressed!! (and maybe a tad jealous!:))

Yeah, this!

There is no way that at 20 weeks people won't know you're pregnant just by looking at you so, personally, I feel it's kind of weird to NOT tell people.

jossalyn617 · November 2011

That's great for you! We told our close friends and family around 11 weeks but we are not planning to post it on FB or anything until 18 weeks. 4 more weeks to go. Can't wait!

kyekyel · November 2011

We still have a lot of family, co-workers to tell. We are going to wait until Thanksgiving when my family will be there. Usually we go around and say what we are thankful for, and it will be during this time we will share the great news.

desertsun · November 2011

I'm 11w2d, and so far, we've told our immediate families, a couple close friends, and my bosses b/c I was having really bad nausea and m/s.

I don't know if we're planning to do like a FB announcement, or call people, or what. We honestly haven't talked about "going public" in great detail, other than to say we will wait to tell the whole wide world until we hit 13 weeks.

Under.the.Rose · November 2011

I still haven't made it public knowledge. I've told family and select friends, but not work/acquaintances.

I'm putting it off as long as possible since I only just went back to work in mid-October from my last maternity leave!

eljudd · November 2011

All I can say is GOOD LUCK on keeping it a secret that long! I just told everyone last week when I was 11 weeks along and half of them said something to the effect of, "We have been eyeing you for weeks but were afraid to ask."

You will really be showing by 20 weeks!!!

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