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Hospital Problem (vent)
So I have done al the research, looked at all the statistics and found the hospital in the area that has the lowest c section rate. I am at an office with three midwifes. I am signed up for lots of birth classes. I really want this birth to be as natural as possible. I want people around me that I can trust.
I do not have the best birth experiences behind me. My son was delivered with forceps and vacuum after 24 hours. With my daughter that did not happen, but I did feel like they were scaring me away from walking around, letting me take a shower etc. Both births started with my water breaking, not getting "good enough" contractions, getting pictocin and then an epidural.
This time I want to do it natural. Even though I wonder if I can. I feel that if I at all will have a chance I need a strong support of people I can trust around me.
Well, I did a hospital tour this weekend. And the nurse there was talking lots about making the birthing women feel comfortable, "we put a men on the moon, why be in pain" etc Then it hit me what if I end up with a nurse like that that works against everything I want. I am so scared now, because I know that if they offer me the epidural I will take it
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Re: Hospital Problem (vent)
a) you can always ask for a different nurse. when you arrive, specifically request a nurse who is supportive of unmedicated birth. usually, those nurses are thrilled to have a patient laboring without an epidural. whereas the nurse who would prefer you get an epidural is more than happy to trade!
b) i think i read somewhere that for women who experience PROM (premature rupture of membrane, not premature baby, just water breaking before the onset or as the first indication of labor), it is likely to happen again. i could be wrong and i have no link to support this, but i think i remember reading it somewhere.
i'll tell you what is also likely, it's also likely that you will have a shorter labor! most women have shorter labors with each subsequent birth. so your chances of that happening are good.
will you have a doula? this could be a really wise investment and help you get the things you want in labor (freedom of movement, shower, etc.). if the cost is an issue for you, consider hiring a doula in training, who will likely not charge (or not charge as much) since she is not yet certified and needs to attend births to complete her certification. if you are in the DC area, i can help you find one. otherwise, go to www.dona.org.
Find a new hospital if you can. Do you have a supportive midwife/OB that knows of your hopes for going natural?
The hospital I delivered DS at sounded MUCH like the one you're describing and it was terrible. But there was WAY more to it than just them offering me an epi.