Emotional during c-section

Jenny952 · October 2011

This is my first post over here. I have a c-section scheduled for November 14. My baby will need to go to the NICU right after the c-section, so it will be a pretty emotional time for me. This may be a really dumb question, but what happens if I just start bawling on the operating table when they take her away? I'm afraid it will interfere with the doctor's ability to sew me up. I'm thinking I should ask for a sedative, but I also don't want to be totally out of it when she's born.

mamajanna28 · October 2011

I think that the doctors are prepared for those situations for the most part. I was a sobbing mess when they put the spinal in, recovered for a few minutes and was again a sobbing mess after LO was born. They didn't give me any additional medications or take any extra action.

bmc62884 · October 2011

Yeah I had an unplanned c-section and I cried pretty much from when the decision was made until the surgery was over.

BUmama · November 2011

If you're really concerned, tell the anesthesiologist. As much as I like my OB, the anesth. is really who you want to connect with for the surgery. Both that I've had have talked to me throughout, given me meds when needed, extra warm blankets, all of that kind of stuff. S/He is totally focused on YOU throughout the procedure.

ortenzia · November 2011

I wasn't actually very emotional during my unplanned c-section (I think I was still too shocked at the way my birth experience unfolded - for me the bawling came days later), but I don't think you need to worry about your emotions interfering with the doctor being able to complete the surgery; you'll be so immobilized from the spinal or epidural that you couldn't possibly prevent the doctors from doing what they need to do. Also, I completely agree that you should connect with your anesthesiologist as you're preparing for surgery. My OB basically didn't even acknowledge me or my husband during the surgery, but the anesthesiologist was AMAZING - he guided us through the whole process, and made me feel like I was still a part of my daughter's birth even though I couldn't see what was going on. I am sure he/she will understand that it's an emotional time for you, especially with your baby being whisked off to NICU. Best of luck!

Daisy22 · November 2011

They gave me something to relax me but I didn't have the drugged feeling. I cried through out both my c/s. I think the OR nurses and your OB are use to it. It's an emotional time.

ladybugpjb · November 2011

BUmama:
If you're really concerned, tell the anesthesiologist. As much as I like my OB, the anesth. is really who you want to connect with for the surgery. Both that I've had have talked to me throughout, given me meds when needed, extra warm blankets, all of that kind of stuff. S/He is totally focused on YOU throughout the procedure.

I had the same experience. He listened to all of my concerns and either adjusted the pain meds or reassured me it was okay or whatever else I needed.

ILoveRunning · November 2011

BUmama:
If you're really concerned, tell the anesthesiologist. As much as I like my OB, the anesth. is really who you want to connect with for the surgery. Both that I've had have talked to me throughout, given me meds when needed, extra warm blankets, all of that kind of stuff. S/He is totally focused on YOU throughout the procedure.

All of this. The only people I remember having contact with during and after the surgery was my H, my midwife who scrubbed in to take pics, and the anesthesiologist. I also recall that I was given medication after DS was born that basically knocked me out, or at least made me very sleepy.

pepomntpat · November 2011

BUmama:
If you're really concerned, tell the anesthesiologist. As much as I like my OB, the anesth. is really who you want to connect with for the surgery. Both that I've had have talked to me throughout, given me meds when needed, extra warm blankets, all of that kind of stuff. S/He is totally focused on YOU throughout the procedure.

Yeah, my nurse anesthetist was my BFF! The actual anesthesiologist was a tool, but the nurse anesthetist rocked. He reminded DH to give me my glasses, take pictures, he took a couple of pics of the three of us before they took LO to the nursery, told the stupid nurses why the catheter wasn't working after they knocked it out and had to replace it. He was great.

JG362009 · November 2011

Honestly, if they're anything like the doctors I experienced, they will just ignore you. The only person that said a word to me during the surgery was the ansethesiologist. You shouldn't have to be completely out of it. Even if your arms are free, the hospital will almost always strap your legs down and you're pretty immobile. I was violently shaking (uncontrollably) the entire time and it didn't seem to interfere with anything.

magdalina.h · November 2011

I was sobbing through the whole c/s this time. My ob would stop for a few seconds to give me time to compose myself.

kgreek · November 2011

I was not only emotional but also had a mild freak-out in which I kept crying that I just wanted it to be over. I was a bit dramatic and probably annoying... But it didn't last long! You'll do great and know that your baby is in good hands!

Rachel R · November 2011

I started bawling as soon as I heard my DS cry, and I don't remember there being any issues with my OB doing any stitches. I could be remembering incorrectly, but I don't think I could really move the bottom half of my body. Don't worry about it.

I hope everything goes ok for you and your sweet baby!

crab82388 · November 2011

I was a basket case when I had my c-section. It was unplanned, but not an emergency either. I cried when they told me that I would need one, the whole time they where wheeling me down the hall, pretty much till my husband came in. My anesthesiologist was awesome though. She held my hand the whole time and assured me that it was ok that I was crying. I think it's completely normal to cry in a situation like that. You won't be the first and surely won't be the last. Just try to relax. If you are really freaking out they can give you something to calm you down a bit too. Hope every thing goes well and your baby is ok. Good luck mama.

S-Tuna · November 2011

First off, I'm really sorry that you are going to have a NICU baby. I also knew ahead of time that I was going to have a c-section & NICU experience. Like PPs, crying didn't interfere with anything they were doing. I didn't want any extra anxiety meds because I was afraid they would make me to loopy to remember anything. Good luck, and please feel free to PM me if you have questions about anything. (I haven't found many people on here that are in our situation.)

HelloWaldorf · November 2011

Tell your nurse.Despite scheduled c/s a birth plan is still a good idea, and I would put a request for that in there. I'm sorry you won't get to be with LO right away. : ( I hope your c/s goes well.

Ebony_miles06 · November 2011

My first c/s was very emotioal because the anestesiologist (hope that's spelled right) couldn't get the spinal tap to work nor the epidural. So I cried when they told me that they were going to put me to sleep. I wanted to see my baby born and I couldn't, so I was a mess. With my second c/s, another anestesiologist got the epidural to work and I saw my daughter when she was born. I was too out of it to even realize what was going on. The doctor said I was talking a lot of nonsense. LOL. My daughter, though, had to go to NICU because of fluid on her lungs and she had to stay there the entire time we were in the hospital. I didn't find out until I got in my room. She wasn't able to come into the room with me at all. It sucked but they let me come in the NICU anytime I wanted. It's a lot better to be awake when you are having a c/s because you won't have to wait until you wake up to hear anything about the baby. Hope this helps

moonfaerie · November 2011

I asked for sedatives both times, because I had panic attacks during the c/s. It didn't phase the doctors at all. The anesthesiologist tried talking me into hanging in there w/o extra sedatives, but I was a total mess. Not able to breathe, shaking up a storm, a total mess.

g00dg0llymsm0lly · November 2011

I cried through the entire thing. Happy tears, sad tears, scared tears, you name it and I was sobbing lol. You might shake because of the spinal, too, and that added to my hysteria. The good news is that you're expecting the Csection- a lot of my crying was because I was high and mighty about natural birth and never bothered to educate myself on caesareans, so I was so afraid, because it was all unknown. However, my OB was wonderful and talked me through each step and I trusted her completely (she herself had a Csection) and she was sympathetic. It didn't interfere with her stitching at all. I think you'll be fine without a sedative, even if you get emotional- your baby's birth is something you want to experience FULLY, if you can!

lindsaybethmiller · November 2011

Oh poor thing... I can relate to an extent. Mine wasn't scheduled and was an emergency - but my baby was whisked off to the NICU team, wasn't breathing, so wasn't crying and on top of it my husband wasn't with me (he was traveling for work that week) so I was a sobbing mess, hicups and everything... But still to this day I'm so glad I wasn't on anything else, and I'm SO glad my anesthesiologist was amazing and talked my OB out of putting me completely under, because even though it wasn't the birth I expected, nor was it the best day of my life as you expect the birth of your child to be - I'm SO glad that I remember it. Good luck with your c-section and hope your baby ends up perfectly fine after a quick NICU visit!!!

MooseyMommyCO · November 2011

My c-section was unplanned as well, and it happened really fast (after a very long day of labor). I cried my eyes out, and I remember shaking uncontrollably. I was scared, didn't want to be alone, and just confused (probably from exhaustion and meds). The crying during the c-section wasn't anything compared to the complete breakdown I had afterward when they said my husband couldn't spend the night with me. I was INCONSOLABLE, especially because I had been told all c-sections got to have their husbands stay in the room overnight. I don't know what all went down, but the nurse pulled some strings and I got to have my hubby stay for all 3 nights. I don't know what I would have done otherwise.

canthardlywait426 · November 2011

mamajanna28:
I think that the doctors are prepared for those situations for the most part. I was a sobbing mess when they put the spinal in, recovered for a few minutes and was again a sobbing mess after LO was born. They didn't give me any additional medications or take any extra action.

This. I was an emotional mess. My dr, who was with me throughout my IF, actually sang during my surgery. I will never forget how much at ease she put me by singing "how sweet it is" while delivering my son.

they did not give me any kind of sedative to calm me down.

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