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leneae10leneae10 member
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I'm seriously going effing nuts.

We've had a series of unfortunate events with them since Isaac was born (well, really since the twins birth).  Lately it's gotten so lame I just want to walk away forever.  Some of you know about MIL drinking 38 ounces of wine while watching my irreplacable son, a strike that put her into the "untrustworthy" circle.

we invited them for Thanksgiving (they are 1000 miles away).  FIL didn't have vacation, blah blah blah, would get back to us.  They said they'd have an answer LAST Monday.  DH needs to decide which days to take off work and it's getting to the point where he's ran out of time to ask.  DH accidentally called FIL Thursday and they were CAMPING, which is what they do every weekend.  Whatever.  He has enough vacation for that, but not for Thanksgiving.  We get it.  So DH sent him a text that we are making other plans because it's been 10 days and we've heard nothing.  They literally used to jump at the chance to see Isaac.  Now they couldn't care less.  I am done.  DH is hurt and I no longer have an ounce left in me to care.  Ugghh...

I will be in their area next week and guess what?  DH, who used to push me to meet with them when I'm in town, has agreed that I don't have to this time.  

THEIR.LOSS.  My son is effing amazing and they are missing out, just like they did with their son (my DH).  Another story for another time.

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Twin boys born too early at 17w4d and 18w2d in February 2010
Transabdominal cerclage placed September 2010
DS born at 35w1d in February 2011
Twin girls born at exactly 36w in February 2013
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  • Jessicaanne_1@yahoo.comJessicaanne_1@yahoo.com
    imageleneae10:

    I'm seriously going effing nuts.

    We've had a series of unfortunate events with them since Isaac was born (well, really since the twins birth).  Lately it's gotten so lame I just want to walk away forever.  Some of you know about MIL drinking 38 ounces of wine while watching my irreplacable son, a strike that put her into the "untrustworthy" circle.

    we invited them for Thanksgiving (they are 1000 miles away).  FIL didn't have vacation, blah blah blah, would get back to us.  They said they'd have an answer LAST Monday.  DH needs to decide which days to take off work and it's getting to the point where he's ran out of time to ask.  DH accidentally called FIL Thursday and they were CAMPING, which is what they do every weekend.  Whatever.  He has enough vacation for that, but not for Thanksgiving.  We get it.  So DH sent him a text that we are making other plans because it's been 10 days and we've heard nothing.  They literally used to jump at the chance to see Isaac.  Now they couldn't care less.  I am done.  DH is hurt and I no longer have an ounce left in me to care.  Ugghh...

    I will be in their area next week and guess what?  DH, who used to push me to meet with them when I'm in town, has agreed that I don't have to this time.  

    THEIR.LOSS.  My son is effing amazing and they are missing out, just like they did with their son (my DH).  Another story for another time.

    Less stressful holiday for you right? 

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    imageJessicaanne_1@yahoo.com:
    imageleneae10:

    I'm seriously going effing nuts.

    We've had a series of unfortunate events with them since Isaac was born (well, really since the twins birth).  Lately it's gotten so lame I just want to walk away forever.  Some of you know about MIL drinking 38 ounces of wine while watching my irreplacable son, a strike that put her into the "untrustworthy" circle.

    we invited them for Thanksgiving (they are 1000 miles away).  FIL didn't have vacation, blah blah blah, would get back to us.  They said they'd have an answer LAST Monday.  DH needs to decide which days to take off work and it's getting to the point where he's ran out of time to ask.  DH accidentally called FIL Thursday and they were CAMPING, which is what they do every weekend.  Whatever.  He has enough vacation for that, but not for Thanksgiving.  We get it.  So DH sent him a text that we are making other plans because it's been 10 days and we've heard nothing.  They literally used to jump at the chance to see Isaac.  Now they couldn't care less.  I am done.  DH is hurt and I no longer have an ounce left in me to care.  Ugghh...

    I will be in their area next week and guess what?  DH, who used to push me to meet with them when I'm in town, has agreed that I don't have to this time.  

    THEIR.LOSS.  My son is effing amazing and they are missing out, just like they did with their son (my DH).  Another story for another time.

    Less stressful holiday for you right? 

    Yup!

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    DS born at 35w1d in February 2011
    Twin girls born at exactly 36w in February 2013
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  • SonadoraSonadora member

    I'm sorry they are acting that way.

    But really, I don't think I'd want a woman who thought that behavior was acceptable around my child.

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  • leneae10leneae10 member
    imageSonadora:

    I'm sorry they are acting that way.

    But really, I don't think I'd want a woman who thought that behavior was acceptable around my child.

    Oh no, she will NEVER be around him alone.  As part of a family group setting, I was hoping she'd participate in his life. 

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  • Amanda78Amanda78 member

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    Screw 'em. Enjoy the stress-free holiday with the people who want to be there.

    This!  I'm sorry they suck.

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  • WildlandwifeWildlandwife

    I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

    But you hit the nail on the head.  Their loss.  This is time with him that they'll never be able to get back. 

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  • KelanneKelanne

    It definitely THEIR loss.  I don't get in-laws.

    I have issues with my in-laws as well. You are lucky that yours live so far away (except for your husband's hurt feelings)

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