Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Monday VBAC Check in!
I've been feeling a lot of pressure to go into labor by 41 weeks and it was really stressing me out (Nov 18th seems way to soon!).... so I'm thrilled with how my appointment went today! Dr. assured me that 41 weeks wasn't a hard deadline for her, and that with additional monitoring she was happy to go to 42 weeks. I kept being afraid of a "bait and switch", so I'm pretty happy with her reassurance at this point.
Also, my least favorite doctor isn't on the call schedule at all this week, so going into labor soon would be REALLY ideal
So, with those pick-me-ups, plus learning at my appointment last week that I was 1cm (didn't get checked this week), I'm feeling pretty good. I'm back to believing that my body can do this rather than feeling so stressed out by all the limitations the doc and hospitals were (potentially) going to put on me.
Hope everyone else is having a great week!
Awesome news!
Congratulations on your BFP!
I'm new to the board. I just started to consider a VBAC last week. I haven't spoken to my doctor yet (appt. is next week) but I know that the hospital I am delvering at allows VBACs. I am attending a VBAC info. session through my local ICan chapter this weekend. I can't wait to get more information and meet some doulas that have lots of experience with them.
A little background info.: I had a C-section with my first after failure to descend. She was posterior, I was fully dialated and effaced but stuck at -1 for around 6 hours. Pushed for 3 and nothing. I also fell down the steps the day before which resulted in my water breaking probably before she was ready to be born (may be another reason she didn't descend?).
Anyway, I've been loving catching up on all of the posts, especially the VBAC stories (successful or not).
Ditto all of the above!
well it's not monday anymore but i'll still check in! next OB appt isn't until week of thanksgiving, but i did start bradley classes over the weekend. i am not sure how much i am going to learn through them (not to be a smarty-pants, i just feel like i have heard it all before- at least from the first class) but i'm sticking it out! i guess that's somewhat to be expected for STM? DH has been pretty apprehensive about the classes though, and he told me he learned some stuff, so that's a positive!
otherwise, just getting bigger for now.
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I just started cycle 2 of ttc. Almost time for ovulation, so...hopefully DD wants to go to bed on time next week, lol.
And I was discussing a birth center with a pregnant friend this evening at dinner, and I may be looking into that direction, she was been trying to talk me into since she got KU. I am nervous though, I dilated so much before I went into labor, and the birth center is almost 2 hours away, with good traffic, so I am not sure how comfortable I am with the idea. I guess I have some thinking to do.
This for me too!
Dx with endo & blocked left tube - TTC #1 for 29 cycles before miracle BFP, #2 - Surprise!!
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That is all wonderful news!!! GL to you this week! I went into labor after having my membranes swept during my 41 week appt, so I'll be hoping your labor gets started soon
No new updates here, still in the TTC #3 process. But I am thoroughly enjoying the work involved
~Sweet Girl *8/18/08* c-section ~ Sweet Boy *12/2/10* VBAC ~ Sweet Boy *8/14/12* VBAC~
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