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Postpartum Depression
greenbean79
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Feelings towards husband/significant other
greenbean79
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Does anyone feel dislike for their DH, or more distant from them since the baby was born?
I find that everything my DH does bugs me, and I often wonder why I even married him in the first place. I also think about divorce.
All this just adds to my depression - I'm not sure whether it's PPD that is causing this, as I do have PPD. Just wondering if anyone feels the same way.
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Re: Feelings towards husband/significant other
I felt like this a lot. I actually missed Dh so much. I felt like he was going to leave me because I couldn't keep it together. I thought about divorce as well....only I wanted a divorce so that I could have weekends off from my DD...I know that sounds horrible but my PPD was bad.
These feeling are completely normal whether you have PPD or not. This first year with your baby is hard on a marriage. I know my DH didn't not understand my PPD and just kept telling me to feel better, like it was so easy. I would just try and look for the good in your DH and talk to him about what is bothering you.
You can also vent about all the annoying things he does here.
I am sure my DH does a lot of the same things.
HUGS
I try to look for the good but i can't help this feeling that i made a mistake in marrying him. I don't know if it's the PPD making me feel this way or whether it's reality. His family is difficult to deal with, which doesn't help. I just feel i screwed up my life, my DH's life and now my little DS's life. Makes me feel guilty and depressed with little hope for the future. All i think about is divorce.
lack of sleep really will screw you up in ways you wouldn't expect.
I can't share the experience of thinking about divorce, but we do have more heated discussions (we've never been a couple to have fights or yelling, mostly because I'm more likely to cry than yell). Just last night we were trying to decide on holiday travel plans and we got into feeling judged as a parent by in-laws, feeling left out, hating travel, visits being a waste of time, etc. I wish he would just get over himself! I even asked if he would ever talk to someone (not just me) about (what I consider are) his problems. "no" so frustrating!
So yeah, I can see how the first year of having a baby is just going to add new stress to our relationship, on top of the PPD.
Sorry, some weird technical error there.
Sometimes I think I would be better off divorced; sometimes I think divorce would make life harder and make me more depressed (especially having to share custody of DS if we were to divorce). These feelings, on top of my depression and lack of sleep, have just been overwhelming me lately.
Its more my husbands personality that is getting to me....we are very opposite in personality....i just find nothing about him to like lately. I dont like much about myself lately either...I have become an irritable, moody, grouchy person. Sometimes I think my son and DH will be better off without me.
Thanks in advance for your help and comments everyone.
I felt like this a lot. I actually missed Dh so much. I felt like he was going to leave me because I couldn't keep it together.
I feel the same way, I feel like he doesnt do enough (he doesnt live with me and our DD at the moment) when he does come over and stay the night and it seems like I'm asking the world of him to hold her in the middle of the night so I can go make her a bottle! And yet when I start to breakdown he says he feels bad and picks her up and walks away. Plus I already feel bad cuz when he does stay the night he already has to wake up super early to go to work....IDK if I have PPD but he sure thinks so...what do you all think?