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April 2012 Moms
MsCat19
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Who is throwing your shower
MsCat19
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So, with all of the issues that came about from my wedding shower (my family and his bickering), I think I would like to possibly throw my own shower... Would that be tasteless? I just don't know...
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Re: Who is throwing your shower
I don't know! Nobody has offered yet. However, I am throwing one for my good friend in February.
Yeah. I feel like this would come off as asking people to buy you gifts. Which, let's face it, that's mostly what a shower is... but when someone else throws it for you it doesn't come off awkwardly like that.
yes, I think it's tacky to throw one for yourself. If each side of the family wants to throw one, let them. Just don't let them invite the same people to both.
Yeah, that's kind of what I was thinking, but I'm just attempting to avoid conflict... my sister is kind of a b**** to my in-laws because she thinks I like them better then her or something... I don't, but I do enjoy them thoroughly!
My close girlfriend is throwing me a shower, if she wasn't and no one else offered, I just wouldn't have one.
I don't think showers are necessary for having a baby.
I would not throw my own - it is kind of tacky... But I would say go with the idea of having it at your house and ask if a friend would "host." Do something simple like catered in food - and then I would treat yourself to a house cleaner the day before.
Mine are being thrown by my mom, Dh's mom, my friend, another friend in central illinois, and then work.
I would not personally throw my own shower. If there are issues with families bickering--just have a shower on each side. Likewise, IMO, you shouldn't know or be involved in the bickering. For my wedding shower, there was tons of bickering between my BFF and MIL. I finally had enough and let everyone know enough was ENOUGH. Needless to say, I will not be allowing anyone to throw me a baby shower (that's a whole other story.) I say, if people are bickering, you need to just tell them to STFU and keep you out of it. It's your parade--no one needs to rain on it.
My two best friends can't stand each other right now and they have been fighting over who will throw me a shower....I told them they will shut up and do it together or they don't need to throw me one. I don't want to deal with it.
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My sister will be throwing mine (probably with some financial help from my parents and grandparents). I did tell her that I am sure if she asked my SIL if she wanted to help, she definitely would.
At work, our Sunshine committee will throw a shower. Probably a combined one for me and someone due in May.
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I think it's fine to have more than one if it's going to be an issue. I had a lot of showers with my first. DH and I both have large extended families that we're close to so it would have been too much to have everyone at one shower. My cousin threw the one for my side of the family and SIL did one for DH's side.
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My SIL is throwing me a shower, and my mom, sis and bff are throwing my other one.
I don't know if I would throw my own shower... can you partner up with a family member or friend and kind of guide the shower plans, but have the partner/friend be the host? That way you still have a say, but you aren't hosting your own shower.
My mom is planning/financing most of the shower but doesn't host (same as bridal shower) because she's shy and has the help a few family members for various parts of the shower.
Is there anyone neutral to both families that could be the host? That person can make the major choices and delegate smaller parts to both sides, depending on what they would want to hep with. My family is crazy (many divorces and immature people who make any communication hard) and that is how we have been able to make holidays possible.
Good Luck!
Throwing your own shower in my area is considered in extremely bad taste. However, for some reason, it is okay for immediate family to do so.
My MIL is throwing me a shower in the state I live in and I am really hoping to get an oot shower where all of my family lives. It is 4 hours away in a neighboring state. However, only one person has offered to help, so I don't know if it will happen.
I would personally not throw a shower for myself. My sister and aunt offered to throw me one in February. If no one offered, I wouldn't have one.
I got TWO Facebook invitations this week for baby showers from the actual mother. They were SO tacky (not just because they were FB invites ha) because they said, "If you can't come, send your gift to me and I will just wait to open it at my shower." and they listed what they want for gifts. For each person, this was not their first child and there aren't very big gaps between their children (they both have toddlers and planned these pregnancies).
I wouldn't throw my own shower, just because its supposed to be a time for you to relax and enjoy not stress about food, games & invitations. But its completely up to you because its your baby!
As of right now, I'll have 4 showers thrown for me- the girls from my dental school class, my sisters/family, my husband is a teacher so the ladies he works with want to throw us a join shower, and then my husband's friends are throwing us a diaper shower (we are fresh out of college, so they are getting a keg & instead of paying $5 for a cup, you bring a thing of diapers!).
Period. A shower is thrown by someone else to shower you with gifts, not for you to ask people to shower you with gifts. It's greedy to throw your own shower. Period.
My mom and sisters are throwing me one shower and a couple of friends are throwing me another. I'll have one at work and then a few good friends from work will throw one for me. I'm honestly uncomfortable with four showers, but the hosts all really, really, really want to do it no matter what I say.
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All of this. When you throw your own shower, you ask asking people for gifts (because that is the very definition of shower).
There is also a Baby Showers board here on the Bump that has endless threads on this sort of topic that you may want to check out for more opinions.