Fiance wants to go out of town

thdish2011 · November 2011

My fiance wants to leave town for several days to visit a friend of his. Am I overracting to be worried and upset? I am 29 weeks along and don't want to be left alone.

Rosebud2587 · November 2011

At 29 weeks I really don't see a problem...

BFab11 · November 2011

No big deal, you aren't likely to go into labor while he's gone. Around 36/37 weeks is when I'd want DH home all the time.

Belichick · November 2011

As long as the trip isn't putting you in a bind financially, yes you are overreacting. You have a long way to go, don't give him a hard time about taking the trip now.

MesmrEwe · November 2011

There isn't anything to worry about - let him go and have fun!

It's not like you're 39 weeks and worried about delivering without him there...

Chargersgrl33 · November 2011

I tried to tell DH he could go out of town next weekend. I will be 37 weeks and on bed rest. I think you need to step back and realize you are only 29 weeks pg. Are you on bed rest? Is their any reason you need someone around?

GnomeLuv · November 2011

DH went away on a guys weekend when I was 30 weeks, heck he went international when I was 34. He needed the guys weekend and frankly I enjoyed a weekend alone to do what I wanted. Take a deep breath all will be fine.

Cleo29 · November 2011

I don't see a problem when you are 29 weeks. 36 weeks on, I could see it being an issue.

I would give him my blessing since things will get crazy enough, soon enough that he may not get the chance to do something like this in a long time.

kerischrader · November 2011

Let him go and be happy for him..... my DH is camping with the guys tonight and in a couple weeks (ill be 33 weeks) he is having his guys last fling weekend in Atlantic City before the baby....of course I am taking a long girls weekend....somewhere warm when baby is a few months old or so and DH will care for him :P We feel it is a very healthy part of our relationship to have "our own" weekends on occasion. So after he leaves, take a nice quiet walk, get your fav foods, rent some movies, go shopping, call a friend over if you want and enjoy your alone time...and miss him!!! Sex is great when you miss someone ;p

kjg5445 · November 2011

even men need time to themselves. i understand you not wanting to be alone though. go have a girls night while he is out of town.

CalMum_Momma · November 2011

Yes. You are overreacting.

KBBH · November 2011

I say let him do it. You are only 29 weeks. Unless you have a medical reason or something that you absolutely NEED him around for, you should let him go. The last thing you want is for him to build resentment because he has to sit at home and do nothing.

cikangell · November 2011

Unless you have a medical need for him to be home, it's probably best to let him go. It will rejuvenate him, and you'll get some time just for you..:o)

mbgreenwalt · November 2011

When I was pg with DD#1 DH went out of state for work from week 32-34. There was no reason for him to not take the job. I enjoyed my alone time...I don't get that at all anymore!

Lemmon_ade12 · November 2011

My husband flew 2000 miles away to visit family when I was 33 weeks. At 29 weeks, I don't see why he shouldn't go. Give him a little space and just let him know that you'd appreciate it if he'd make sure to keep his phone on and let you know how to reach him if necessary. :-)

ContactDanielle · November 2011

My husband was gone during my 32nd week overseas.

Then at 34 weeks he was gone for the weekend with his dad 3 states away.

No biggie!

LuckyTraveler · November 2011

thdish2011:
My fiance wants to leave town for several days to visit a friend of his. Am I overracting to be worried and upset? I am 29 weeks along and don't want to be left alone.

Worried? Are you worried about something specific? Do you have some serious medical issues that are likely to lead to an early delivery? How accessible would he be if something went wrong while he was gone?

If this is just about not wanting to be alone, I say that yes, you are overreacting (it happens, darn pregnancy hormones) and you should tell him to have fun.

OurJellybean · November 2011

I would let him

Shawnee11507 · November 2011

Overreacting? Most likely. My DH is out of the country for work from weeks 23-37. Looong.

dondraandluis · November 2011

I say overreacting, unless you are on bedrest or there is some dire health issue. My DH has been working OOT almost my whole pregnancy. He gets to come home every other weekend, just for the weekend. He likely won't be home for good until I'm 38 or 39 weeks.

ani25 · November 2011

As long as his friend is a hot girl, you should let him GO! No seriously, he might need a few days to see his friend before the baby comes. Treat yourself to a little shopping or a mani and pedi Cool

b.heather · November 2011

My DH went to a conference for 5 days when I was 35 weeks, while I stayed home with our 2 y/o. It was not a big deal for us. Try to plan some fun activities to keep yourself busy (friends, family, girls night at home etc.). Good luck!

erbear · November 2011

You'll be fine. Don't make a big deal out of this. He probably realizes that he won't really be able to do this for a while. At 39 weeks, I'd worry (though my DH went camping when I was 38 weeks...) but at 29? No way.

jenb_99 · November 2011

My husband travels for work 3x a month, and he went on a weekend-long fishing trip when I was 37 weeks along. I didn't see a problem with it at 37 weeks; I definitely wouldn't have had a problem with it at 29.

Let him go, and then enjoy the peace and quiet!

JWSchwarz · November 2011

I can understand being worried, I worry every time my husband leaves for work! I also get a bit creeped out when I'm home alone at night. I think it's natural for women to worry and get upset. And your husband can't get mad at you for being a woman, that's part of why he's with you, so you should talk about it with him! Guys need their mental health breaks though. If you give him your blessing and try to be excited for him, he'll love you even more. Maybe he has some anxiety about being a dad, or he needs some balance to all the baby planning.

crh1221 · November 2011

Let him it get it out of his system while he has the time to do so! My SO is going out of town next weekend for just a night to hang out with some old friends (granted it's only an hour away) and I will be 36 weeks. I was hesitant at first, but I have friends and family to keep me company, and he knows to have his phone on him at all times forbid something happen that early. I really think it'll get it out of his system and he'll be a happier man overall after his little getaway.

iluvmylab · November 2011

If you have an uncomplicated pregnancy with no history of pre-term labor, then yes, I think you are overreacting. My DH went out of town with his buddies on a casino trip when I was 30 weeks. I enjoyed my quiet time, did a lot of shopping, and worked in the nursery. He's going out of state for work when I will be 36 weeks for 2 days and my mom is going to come stay with me just in case I need something. She's 2 hours away.

Have a plan in place where he could get back if necessary and have someone that you can call if you needed something. Odds are, you will be just fine and probably enjoy the time to yourself.

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