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Childless not by choice
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Hi Everyone.I am new here, and just trying to get involved with some others that have similar situations as me. I am getting married next year and am now starting to deal with all of the questions about children. For the short version: I found out at 16 years old that I would never be able to have children. Some how, I found out I got pregnant a few years ago when I had a miscarriage. It was hard to deal with, but I didn't know to begin with so it was easier to get past. A few weeks ago I started feeling pretty weird and gaining some weight, but assumed it was stress. I went to the doctor, and even with all of my issues ( I was born without a uterus and therefore have no womb to be able to carry) I had conceived a baby and made it to ten weeks. This was dangerous, life threatening, and risky.... but we couldn't be happier. We went home and talked about names, nursery themes, and raising our sweet baby. It was the very next day that we found out that we were no longer going to be parents. What a heart breaking moment... I am unsure what our future holds for us because of my condition and now my fiance's family keeps talking about possible grandchildren in two years. We broke the news to his parents, but I don't know how to tell my business without telling my business. Reading some of the other posts makes me realize that I am not alone in this, and I'm hoping to get some good advice.
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Hi. I have to tell you the truth, this is an unbelievable story... and I had to google it to make sure it was even possible before I replied to you because you only have four posts and it sounds like MUD... (we get some crazies over here) but because it is possible, I'm going to assume you are real, feel bad about doubting you and then tell you that I'm sorry for your loss and that you've found yourself here.
As far as advice goes, I assume your family knows about your situation so there shouldn't be much to tell... and as for his family, I would just keep it short and simple. I used to tell people that I have endo and because of this we were unable to conceive. This resulted in a slew of stories about other people with endo who did conceive. Not helpful. I would just say that you have a diagnosed medical condition that makes you unable to carry children and if they push for details that you don't want to give either change the subject or yell it out and then start bawling. The latter method is sure to stop the questions at least for a while!
They'll ask about adoption too, and surrogacy... so be prepared for that.
I hope that helps.