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Childless not by choice
scout426
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Need help being helpful... (Ticker warning)
scout426
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Hi ladies. I'm hoping maybe you all could steer me in the right direction. A coworker/friend of mine has just found out that they are going to be cfnbc. I became somewhat close to this person when we ran into each other at my RE's office years ago. In previous failed cycles I knew what to say and react because I did what I wanted people to say to me. But this time it's different. There aren't going to be any more attempts. I don't know what to say. I don't know what they want to hear. I want to be there for them and maybe that means I just shouldn't say anything. Any insight. Anything someone said to you or did for you that stood out? I'm so at a loss and so upset for them.
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Re: Need help being helpful... (Ticker warning)
I've really appreciated people who just say things like... "I can't imagine what you must be going through...but know that I am thinking of you."
It's the "I'm thinking of you." not the "I feel so sorry for you." 's that are truly what I appreciate the most. I really hate it when people say sorry. It's as if my husband and I were joint diagnosed with an incurable disease.
My suggestion is that if you find her talking to you about it for HOURS on end just be willing to listen. There are times when I need exaclty that. Just to vent for a LONG TIME to someone who will just listen. It's to the point now where I know the people who will listen vs. who will change the subject right away. It gets to the point where I feel like all I ever talk about is what it's like to be CFNBC when I'm with these people, but it feels to good to be listened to. The people who will actually do that are few and far between.