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Since we are talking Holidays today, WWYD?

missyjgmissyjg member
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DH has to work Christmas eve 6-6pm and Christmas day 6-6pm. This really stinks, he's going to be gone for most of B's waking hours during the holidays. He's also gone for Thanksgiving working 6-6pm.

So, in regards to Christmas, WWYD.

1. Wait to open gifts with B until after he gets home Christmas day at 6:30ish. We have to fit dinner and gifts before 8:30. B is in bed at the same time no matter if she took a 1 hour or 3 hour nap. She's a bear otherwise. I think we could do this, it would just be really rushed.

2. Do it on Christmas eve when the rest of the family is around as well (my 4 siblings, their spouses, neices, nephews, my parents etc). Again, dinner and then gifts b/f she is ready for bed.

3. Split up between the 2 days.  

4. Pack everything up and take it to the firehouse to spend it there. I can do this but if they get a call I'm out of luck. I guess i'm lucky this is even an option. But who knows what could happen.

5. Do it on another day:(

Oh sigh, nothing really sounds good. Opinions? He really wants to be involved in the gift opening so I don't want to take that from him. It stinks enough he has to work but for him not to be involved would just plain suck. I wish he didn't have to work, but it is what it is. I just keep telling myself I'm thankful he has a job!

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Re: Since we are talking Holidays today, WWYD?

  • jnk062602jnk062602

    Aww that sucks.  This year, Christmas falls on a Sun, so DH has off.  Last yr he worked Christmas eve 5am-3pm and Christmas day 6am-2pm.  So at least he was around in the evenings, and although he wanted to nap I think I didn't let him haha.  We did family gifts when he was home, but while he was at work I hung out with her with my extended family and then he joined us when he got out.

    In your case, I would do option #1, with you feeding B something around 6pm so she has already eaten once your DH is home.  Then open presents when he gets home and you and DH sit on the couch eating dinner while she plays with the toys.

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  • emiliemetcalfemiliemetcalf

    I would do a meal at the firehouse with DH during the day so that you get to spend time together, then feed B a quick dinner before DH gets home from work so that you have plenty of time for gifts.  Then you and DH can have a nice dinner after B is in bed.

    My DH is a fireman too, but luckily his department doesn't care if people take holidays off, and his shift missed Christmas Eve and Christmas Day this year. 

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  • abba916abba916

    I think jnk has a good idea but also, if you did it the day after xmas (if you and your dh's schedule allows) it would just stretch out the holiday for her- shes still too little to really know...

     

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  • abba916abba916

    I think jnk has a good idea but also, if you did it the day after xmas (if you and your dh's schedule allows) it would just stretch out the holiday for her- shes still to little to really know...

     

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  • jewelsonujewelsonu
    Are you making a big Christmas meal or is it someothing simple? I would do a simple quick meal and gifts with just you guys.  I like having Christmas just the 4 of us when opening gifts.  Now is the time to change the day.  she is young and doesn't know what day Christmas is.  I wouldn't take opening gifts away from your dh.  That is just unfair.  I would be crushed if dh would do that to me.  I wouldn't want to pack everything up and take it to the fire station.
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    I think jnk has a good idea but also, if you did it the day after xmas (if you and your dh's schedule allows) it would just stretch out the holiday for her- shes still too little to really know...

     

     

    Yup, this too if you guys both have a mutual day off together near Christmas.  With mine and DH's jobs, we will often do birthdays or holiday celebrations not on the actual day.

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  • goosh24goosh24
    I think I would do an easy dinner and have it ready for when he gets home on Christmas, maybe have B fed and eat while she does the presents or after she goes to bed.  I'm not a fan of opening gifts in front of everyone and like doing things just with us.  It definitely stinks that he has to work so much during the holiday but I guess it's good it's not a 24 hour shift.
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  • TinaL99TinaL99 member
    I was also going to suggest celebrating the following day if your schedule allows.  That way you get the exciting morning gift opening without the rush of having to fit in a meal and quality time together.
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  • ArcticFoxArcticFox member
    She is definitely too little to understand... I know it stinks but don't be too bummed!  It's not like when they are older and there is the anticipation and then they wake up on Xmas morning so excited!  I would probably just do it Xmas eve, then maybe she can play with her new toys all day on Xmas.  Will you have any company or anyone to spend the day with on Xmas?
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  • MelissaSue81MelissaSue81 member
    maybe i'm crazy.. but last year eve was only about a month older than B will be.. and she really got the whole santa thing.. so i think i would do some (family gifts maybe) on xmas eve.. and then get up super early xmas morning.. 4am if you have to.. and do santa gifts.
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  • missyjgmissyjg member

    Thanks for all your input. I think we might have figured it out. I think...

    The captain DH is relieving is willing to stay until 8 on Christmas morning so we can wake up a little early and give B her "santa" gift, her Kitchen set and food/dishes to go with it. This is great, b/c I didn't want to have her wait until Christmas night to open Santa's gift. And of course she will get her stocking. Then when DH is working I'm going over to my sisters house.

    I like the idea of not having a big meal on Christmas night. I usually cook a huge meal but if I do that Christmas eve, then I won't have to worry about time after DH gets home. So crock pot meal it is. So we will open the rest of her gifts on Christmas night and we will have a late dinner after B goes to bed. It will just be me, DH, my stepdaughter J, B and my parents (they live with us) so that will be nice. 

    But we are going to have B dress up in her little Santa suit and hand out gifts on Christmas Eve day to DH's crew. I think this will be cute. 

    Ok, Thankyou all so much. This was majorly stressing me out. I lost sleep over it last night, IDK, I'm the planner in the family and couldn't figure it out. 

     

    TTC since 6/2003. m/c 9/14/03 8 weeks, 5 chemical pregnancies, mmc 6/04 12 weeks, Michael born sleeping 5/25/05 at 22weeks always our angel, fought ovarian cancer and won, m/c 4/06 5.2 weeks and 7/07 6.6 weeks,Our Miracle baby girl born 4/8/10,mc 12/18/11 at 5.3 weeks, BFP 10/26/12 dating u/s on 11/8/12 showing a strong heartbeat!EDD July 4,2013. RCS on 6/27. Baby boy in NICU for 8 long and scary days before he was able to come home. We are now a happy family of 4

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