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Re: the current Nest post about leaving our kids for travel, etc.

Megcheer2Megcheer2 member
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I wanted to try to keep the kid related stuff over here.

I am leaving DD for the first time overnight this weekend. Its my 10 year homecoming at college and I am going Saturday morning and coming back Sunday. I am looking forward to seeing a lot of people and having fun, but I know it will be tough to leave her overnight. Luckily, I'm only leaving her with DH, so I know she will be fine.

and then in about a month I am going to Vegas for a work training that's Monday-Friday. Eeeek! I am going by myself and again, leaving her with DH. I know she will be fine but I worry about DH being responsible for all the parenting duties over the course of a week when he's not used to being the only one doing them. He will definitely deserve a guys night out after that.

so give me strength ladies! This will all be ok right? And DD won't forget who I am right? (more so for the Vegas trip than the overnight this weekend- hopefully we can skype or something like that while I'm gone.)
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Re: Re: the current Nest post about leaving our kids for travel, etc.

  • Cooper81Cooper81 member
    Of course she wont forget who you are!  John doesn't act funny at all when I get back, he looks at me like "oh there you are, did you step away for a few minutes?"  Its absolutely way harder on me, I never want to leave and then I can't wait to get back.  But once I'm there I kind of enjoy being on my own, no laundry to do, no cooking, no cleaning, etc and I make the most out of being somewhere that I don't visit often, and being on my own.
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  • KathrynMDKathrynMD member

    of course she'll be fine - and you will end up feelign guilty for enjoying sleep and meals alone for a few days!

    I would try to set up some back up for DH if possible.  I feel like I do most of the kid-related work, but jeez when DH is out of town I get overwhelmed.  Now, I just  take off a few days if I can and take a mini-break.  Trying to get her back and forth to daycare, make meals and do bedtime solo is EXHAUSTING and super stressful. 

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  • lenebenelenebene
    This is interesting to read....  I may have to go back to my travel schedule after a couple months with the baby.  I know it will hard but I'm not sure how yet?  
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  • KathrynMDKathrynMD member

    imagelenebene:
    This is interesting to read....  I may have to go back to my travel schedule after a couple months with the baby.  I know it will hard but I'm not sure how yet?  

    are there other moms w/ young kids who travel for your company?  Have you thought about other jobs to look for that have less travel? 

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  • camdenfaithfulcamdenfaithful

    I haven't left DD yet for more than a few hours (and I have no plans of leaving her any time soon) but I think like the other ladies said, it's way harder on us than it is them. 

    Just think of how excited she will be to see you when you get back!

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    imageKathrynMD:

    imagelenebene:
    This is interesting to read....  I may have to go back to my travel schedule after a couple months with the baby.  I know it will hard but I'm not sure how yet?  

    are there other moms w/ young kids who travel for your company?  Have you thought about other jobs to look for that have less travel? 

    No, I'm the only female on my team.... yea, just need to wait and see what happens when the time comes.  DH may become a SAHD instead. 

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  • heinze2bheinze2b

    I'm mostly a lurker, but had to add my 2 cents!  I could have written your exact post last week. My son is just over 2 and I just went away for the first time since he was born. We went to Vegas for a few days. It was really hard for me leading up to leaving, but it ended up being fine. When I first thought of going, I cried and couldn't do it. We were only gone Thursday-late Saturday. I had fun, but couldn't wait to get home. 

     

    My husband went away for work one other time, but we were both away this time. My mom came and stayed at our house. Which made me much for comfortable. Neither sets of gparents live close, so he doesn't go away overnight.

     

    It was tough, but I'm glad for all of us that I did it!  Good luck and don't be too hard on yourself!  It's tough!  

     

    (ps- sorry for any typos, I'm on my phone.) 

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  • SnoopyLuvSnoopyLuv member

    We left LO because I was in a wedding at 7 months. I was ready to cancel up until the day of I was so nervous to leave her.

    We've left her overnight 2 times since because it was SO FREAKING AWESOME. Josie had a blast with my aunt and learned new tricks. We had an amazing time reconnecting. It was all around awesome. I like and need the break in being a Mom sometimes.

     She will be fine, you will be fine!

    ETA: I was totally that mom who at 3 months got into this debate and said "I could never foresee a reason to leave her overnight" I am really eating crow on this one.

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  • jnealetjnealet member

    Have fun and enjoy your kid free time!  Consider it DH and DD bonding time. 

     

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