DH and Feeling Baby

katied022 · November 2011

Does anyone else's DH not want to feel the baby move?

It really bothers me but my DH does not like it. He would never feel it with DS and I thought it was because I was 17, he was 18, he was young and scared. However he doesn't want to feel this LO either.

kms34 · November 2011

I have to bring it up and say DS is moving a ton, do you want to feel? He never asks if DS is moving or if he can feel it. It doesn't bother me but sometimes I wonder why he doesn't take a more active role (usually when I'm already pissed or down about something!).

Lilcountrysmiles · November 2011

My DH felt it a few times, but he doesn't seem to be too interested in it either. I'll say something along the lines of "wow, he's really kicking in there today" or "i think he's having a party, wanna feel?" and he's kinda like, eh, maybe later. I know he loved feeling it the first time and every now and then he'll put his hand there, idk if its to just rest it on my belly and be "closer" to the baby or if he is trying to feel...either way, he's not as excited about it as other people's DH's.

katied022 · November 2011

I have asked about it before and he said he can feel the baby at night, he likes to cuddle and put his arm around me. So I pay more attention at night when he does get into bed and put his arm around me. I have noticed that he will put is arm anywhere but my belly.

rani121 · November 2011

Lilcountrysmiles:
My DH felt it a few times, but he doesn't seem to be too interested in it either. I'll say something along the lines of "wow, he's really kicking in there today" or "i think he's having a party, wanna feel?" and he's kinda like, eh, maybe later. I know he loved feeling it the first time.

My DH is exactly this! One time I got annoyed and yelled at him about it. He explained that he does like to feel Baby move and kick, but sometimes can't feel everything and then gets frustrated. I always feel the kick and ask him, "Oh! Did you feel that... what about that one... that one?" and he hates that for most of them he has to say no. I think things might change once the kicks get stronger. I know hes excited but maybe because hes not fully experiencing it like I am his emotions are different.

avalovesart · November 2011

My DH doesn't seem to really be interested either. I think it does have something to do with frustration because it often happens that as soon as he puts his hand there she stops moving! Tongue Tied

But he has felt her several times and maybe he's just thinking it's all the same each time, so it's not a big deal? I was bothered early on by this, but now I'm fine with it. DH shows me he cares in other ways.

Brenna9481 · November 2011

I can't say that I have that issue. Our issue is that whenever I tell him that LO is active, DH puts his hand on my stomach and then LO stops moving. He told SD the other day about it and that LO is grounded once he is born. Big Smile

mrsp+3 · November 2011

My ex-dh never cared about feeling it with my first pregnancy. I mean, he wasn't mean about it or anything...i t just wasn't exciting for him. My dh now though is ALL about feeling it. So, I think it's just different for different guys.

lauren1205 · November 2011

overall, I don't think my husband is that into it. I will say that my husband is sqeemish about some things and would prefer to not be in the delivery room if he had his way (He will not have his way, he will be in the delivery room and hasn't made it an issue, I just know that that would be his preference).

That being said, I actually think freaks him out a little bit. He hasn't seen the baby make my stomach move, and I think that would totally freak him out.

Also, a lot of times when I have him put his hand on my belly to feel movement, the baby stops moving, so I think it's also frustrating.

I think that for us, feeing the baby kick is this amazing thing and a bonding thing between us moms and our babies, and a little payoff for giving our bodies over to them for 9 months. I understand that it can't ever be exactly the same for our husbands, so I try to cut him a little slack.

jmccall79 · November 2011

SO is pretty weirded out by there being a baby in there, lol. Yes, he's excited about the baby but he's weirded out at the same time. I will make comments about LO being very active, or having a party, or going crazy and he NEVER asks if he can feel. I grabbed his hand one night and tried to get him to feel but he was too impatient to "wait" and got frustrated, so I quit trying.

KellyC703 · November 2011

kms34:
I have to bring it up and say DS is moving a ton, do you want to feel? He never asks if DS is moving or if he can feel it. It doesn't bother me but sometimes I wonder why he doesn't take a more active role (usually when I'm already pissed or down about something!).

this is my situation word for word all of it. I can't understand why he is the only person who doesn't ask how I am feeling, or what not. He never asks to feel the baby move, I have to physically put his hand there, ect. I think he is in serious denial that life is about to take a major change. There will be no more staying out til 2am on a Wednesday night for him (can you tell I'm still pissed about something lol)

Mrs+Mouse · November 2011

it creeps out my dh too. it still creeps me out a bit too so i can see where he is coming from. he always reassures me that hes going to be all over this outside baby. he touches my belly all the time, he just doesnt want to feel kicks and punches. i get it.

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