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Congrats to TheThomps on your BFP!
QOTW: What's your ideal number of children and what kind of spacing do you prefer? Are you on the same page with your DH / SO about this?
Any updates? Good luck, everyone!
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Re: ***TTC check-in***
No real update for us. I should o this next week, but not sure if we are going to actually try or wait till next month.
What's your ideal number of children and what kind of spacing do you prefer?
Ideal number would be 2, would love 3. DH says 2, if finances are fantastic 3. But I dont want to wait to long since we are just now starting and we are both in our early 30s. Id say ideal spacing would be 1.5-2 years, but Im not really too concerned about it. Im sure it will be a different story once we have #1.
QOTW: We'll see how this first one goes... but finances-wise it would be good to have them about 4-years apart, I think. If there's more than one. At this point I would be happy with just one but I also think having a sibling is important. We're on the same page as of now, but it's all very theoretical at this point.
Update: I was hoping to come in today and show off a BFP but that is not happening. Trying to tell myself that it's still early (I'm only 10dpo according to FF) but starting to feel discouraged. I feel like we did everything right this cycle and while I know that there's no guarantee, it feels like we should have something to show for it.
DH keeps telling me not to get my hopes up because he doesn't want me to be disappointed and that it could take a while, blah, blah blah. But I told him that I can't help how I feel and I don't see the harm in feeling positive. And that even if I wasn't hopeful, I'd be disappointed at a BFN no matter what.
Sigh.
ETA: got b/w done today (Thurs)... will have results for HCG and progesterone Friday AM.
BFP 12.20.2010 :: missed m/c 1/2011 around 8 weeks
BFP @ 9dpo 5.24.2011 :: missed m/c 6/2011 around 7 weeks
positive for ANAs (1:40) with a speckled pattern
MTHFR c677t mutation (heterozygous)
*folic acid, baby asprin, Prometrium, acupuncture, Lovenox*
BFP @ 9dpo 2.1.2012 || HCG = 8 : Progesterone = 19.2
2nd HCG @ 11dpo = 40 || 3rd HCG @ 21dpo = over 5000!
Stick, little one, stick! EDD October 15, 2012
I was supposed to O today, if the fertility monitor was correct, but didn't have a temp spike (see my post below.) So we will see how the next two weeks go!
QOTD: I think ideally we would have 3-4, but that's dreaming. Realistically (financially) we are hoping to be able to have 2, but concerned about the finances of the first! Fingers crossed DH gets a job in the private sector as that will make all the difference. As for spacing, 2-3 years apart would be ideal, but again, it will depend on when DH is able to start making more $$$.
DH is suddenly telling me and our friends that we're starting to try next month. AND, on Halloween, he lamented that it would be our last kid-free Halloween. Uhhhhh... we'll see? Part of this is due to him having some interviews last week that went really well, but we will have to see what happens... stay tuned!
QOTW: I think we'll be one and done. We both want a highly mobile (travel/fun wise) lifestyle, and one would theoretically make that easier to handle. You never know, though, I guess.
QOTW- Ugh. This is the thing that's bothering me the most. We really want 3 and I don't know if that's going to happen. I originally wanted them about 2.5 years apart, and when I found out I was pregnant last September, that's what they would have been. Now I'll be lucky if they're 4 years apart.
UPDATE- Y'ALL. I'm finding some clear and stretchy CM already. CD 11. I almost noted it as wet feeling yesterday, but it was still pretty cloudy. It's more clear today. I decided to still do my monitor even though I don't think our timing is going to work out, just so I can see if the acupuncture is working. My cervix also felt pretty high this morning. EEK!!1 How amazing would it be if I really did have a normal non-medicated cycle?!
QOTW: Honestly, I would love to have a ton of babies. 4 or 5 even. I think I can safely say that's not going to happen. DH is not on board with that anymore a. because of finances and b. because he doesn't want to do any more treatments. I can understand where he's coming from, but I desperately want at least one more. It's really important for me that Kate has at least one sibling.
Originally, I wanted them spaced 18 months apart, but now I'll take whatever I can get.
Update: DH has come around to the idea of having a second and I think would be happy, though stressed, if we managed to get pg. (We're on month 11.) We had a candid talk last week and went over some of his fears regarding treatment. He had some legitimate points and I'm trying to see things from his point of view. It's really hard though since I just want to do the d@mn treatments already.
At least we're talking about it though and it's not a full out no.
Update: not much to report here. AF came early and my last cycle was 23 days. Weird.
QOTW: DH and I would both like to have two, preferably two years apart (ish?). It's hard to say. I don't have the luxury of a ton of fertile years on the horizon.
UPDATE: I'm coming up on the end of my 2ww, I test on Sunday if AF doesn't show her ugly head.
QOTW: Right now 1, after that we'll see how it goes.
can I join in? We're seeing Dr. Vaughn in a couple of weeks to hopefully do a frozen embryo transfer in January. DH and I first thought we'd wait at least six months after our loss to try again but we both realized it will be scary and hard to do this again no matter when we do it and just because we lost Lilly doesn't change the fact that we really, really want to be parents-- in fact it just made that desire a billion times stronger.
OB says we must wait two months so my uterus can shrink back down and I hope Dr. Vaughn is on board with her timeline. I'm ready to be pregnant again. I know, crazy since it's only been three weeks. In the meantime we're not preventing but not likely we'll ever get pregnant on our own.
QOTW: I always wanted two kids about two and a half years apart. But since it took us two years to get pregnant and we're now adding another year to that timeline since we were pregnant for half of this year I'm just hopeful we'll have one. I've learned I can't plan anything with this baby stuff. Heck I'll be happy with sextuplets if that gets me a take home baby.
Married October 28, 2006, TTC since March 2009 IUI #1-8 w/ clomid = BFN
IVF # 1 May, 2011 = BFP!!! Stillbirth at 26 weeks (placental failure/severe IUGR)
FET #1 February, 2012-- BFP! Beta #1=84 Beta #2= 207 Beta #3= 3,526
Our Rainbow Baby is on the Way!
Sending good thoughts to those in their 2WW!
Update: I took 100mg of Clomid this cycle. FF says I O'd on Sunday, but I think it may have been yesterday. Either way, our timing was excellent. So fingers crossed!
QOTW: We want at least two, maybe three depending on finances. I have no idea how far apart--maybe 2-3 years?
Clomid 50mg June '11 - BFN
Clomid 100 mg Oct '11 - BFN
Clomid 150 mg Nov '11 - BFP @9dpo! Beta#1 @10dpo: 22; Beta#2 @12dpo: 67 Beta#3 @18dpo: 1069! EDD 8-16-12
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ME: 30 DH: 30
TTC #1 since 3/2010
DX: Unclear-potential MF (low motility, borderline count); currently unexplained
Ultrasound/HSG- Feb 2011
Lap: May 2011
Clomid/IUI Cycle #1: 6/2011
Clomid/IUI Cycle #2: 7/2011
Clomid/IUI Cycle #3: 8/2011
9/2011 Switched REs...and more testing
DX: Unexplained- borderline MFI
IVF #1: 11/09/2011- BFP!!
Beta #1: 241; Beta #2: 666
Ultrasound scheduled for 5w6d
Baby girl born 8.14.12
Yes, of course you are welcome! And FWIW, when my friend lost her baby in a very similar situation, she did get pregnant again as quickly as possible. I read one of her books on loss when I was at her house and it said that it is very common for couples to try again ASAP after loss. Nobody is judging you for wanting to grow your family.
Good luck and I'll be thinking of you!
Update: Y'all. I am such a grump today. I am on day 25 with still no O. My temp has dropped twice now. Once on day 14 and once on day 23 and neither had a significant raise in temp after that. My temp just went back up to the same temp it has been. WTH is going on?!?! If I would have O'd at the same time I have the past 3 months (day 19) then I would have had perfect timing. I just want to cry. This is so frustrating. Why can 16 year old girls get pregnant unexpectedly and I can't now. We are in month 9 of trying.
QOTW: At this point I just want one. I have always wanted at least 2, maybe 3 but at this point I would be happy with just one.
TTC #1 since February 2011
BFP #1 1/14/12 EDD 9/24/12 m/c at 8w4d on 2/20/12
March 2012- Dx with PCOS, started metformin
July 2012- SA completely normal
I am so excited for you!!!