s/o being a SAHM

wils0482 · November 2011

I don't think I would enjoy being a SAHM. I work full time (26-30 hours per week, which is perfect). I truly like going to work, seeing my friends there, interacting with adults, putting my college degree to use, making money, etc.

Is that terrible to say?!

J&JSuiter070205 · November 2011

Not at all! Everyone is different. I feel the same as you--the best of both worlds.

In this day and age we (women) have that option and are usually not judge for it!

war_eagle · November 2011

Nope. I'm with you. I'd go crazy at home all the time. I love that I get great breaks throughout the year as an educator, but going to work feels like a vacation (and I'm a 9th grade school counselor with 750 on my caseload).

panda10 · November 2011

I don't think that is terrible to say. Honestly, if I worked in a job where I used my degree, worked with people who were friends, and actually enjoyed my job, I really would consider working part time or full time.
I've always wanted to be a SAHM, and when my DH graduates he will make enough money to support our family very comfortably. I plan on volunteering and using my skills in different ways.

iteachk · November 2011

I SAH, and DH is gone 12 hours a day, so it's just me & the girls. I am def. more exhausted than I am when I only worked. However, I really have to hand it to working moms - I have no idea how you juggle it all. You guys are rockstars!

ToastieSimons · November 2011

I would love to work part-time but we just cannot afford it. I hate not having real breaks. Like I tell DH, he gets to pee in private without someone screaming at him that he's not going fast enough.

I think working like 5 hours a day would be perfect. Come home, spend an hour with baby, let him nap while I do chores and then spend all evening together.

MNgirl326 · November 2011

Up until this year, I always thought I would hate being a SAHM, but then i Had the summer off and i was with LO. i loved it.

I still don't know if I could do it all the time, but since my jobs sucks, there is part of me that is defintiely debating about doing the SAHM thing next year.

Ps= with daycare being so expensive, would you still work even when you have 2?

goofyteacher · November 2011

I've nannied before for an infant and I was bored to tears (well not really tears). I know that it's different with your own child, but I just don't think I would thrive as a SAHM. Which to me means my child would not either.

I love my job and can't imagine not working at school, seeing my colleagues, being around my class, etc.

sandy02 · November 2011

While I think a lot that it would be so nice to get out and have some kidfree time, the fact is I could NOT handle trusting someone else with my children. Absolutely cant fathom it at this point. Cumulatively Ive been away from my kids less than 20 hours their WHOLE lives, which means Im tired, lol. But I just have to many trust issues to go to work.

wils0482 · November 2011

abartow:

Up until this year, I always thought I would hate being a SAHM, but then i Had the summer off and i was with LO. i loved it.

I still don't know if I could do it all the time, but since my jobs sucks, there is part of me that is defintiely debating about doing the SAHM thing next year.

Ps= with daycare being so expensive, would you still work even when you have 2?

Absolutely! My MIL is our 'daycare.' We pay her, but obviously not as much as real daycare. It also is a little bit of a drive, which equals extra time and gas $. But YES, I'll be working.

leslie13510 · November 2011

ITeachK:
I SAH, and DH is gone 12 hours a day, so it's just me & the girls. I am def. more exhausted than I am when I only worked. However, I really have to hand it to working moms - I have no idea how you juggle it all. You guys are rockstars!

Pretty much this. I am EXHAUSTED by the end of the day/week/morning sometimes LOL... but it's usually a mental and emotional kind of exhaustion. It's different (not better or worse, just different) than the physical exhaustion of juggling a full-time job, and housework, and parenting, as well as the mental and emotional exhaustion that comes with that.

That said, I definitely have quite a few days where I think that it would be totally worth it to work, even though just about my entire paycheck would go to daycare expenses.

MNgirl326 · November 2011

wils0482:
abartow:

Up until this year, I always thought I would hate being a SAHM, but then i Had the summer off and i was with LO. i loved it.

I still don't know if I could do it all the time, but since my jobs sucks, there is part of me that is defintiely debating about doing the SAHM thing next year.

Ps= with daycare being so expensive, would you still work even when you have 2?

Absolutely! My MIL is our 'daycare.' We pay her, but obviously not as much as real daycare. It also is a little bit of a drive, which equals extra time and gas $. But YES, I'll be working.

gotcha. You are lucky, LO goes to a center and it is 300 a week. When we do have another one, it will be about 550. At that point, I will decide whether it is worth it to work. A teacher's salary only goes so far.

iteachk · November 2011

goofyteacher:

I've nannied before for an infant and I was bored to tears (well not really tears). I know that it's different with your own child, but I just don't think I would thrive as a SAHM. Which to me means my child would not either.

I love my job and can't imagine not working at school, seeing my colleagues, being around my class, etc.

It's totally different. We rarely stay home all day. We go to breakfast/playgroup with neighbors, to the park, story hour at the library, to MIL's, to my grandparents houses, or just walk around the mall. At home, we play outside, we do crafts, etc, etc, etc. We're definitely never bored!

Kate621 · November 2011

I didn't like it either. I'm glad that I was able to do it because I really think its a big reason why Jack has done so well but I won't chose to do it with any of our other (future) children.

easjer05 · November 2011

I don't think so - I feel the same. If we were to win the lottery tonight, I'd gladly quit my job, but I know that when the baby was born and older, I'd find something to do for 20 hours a week (try actually writing or volunteer, or go back to school or something). I think that's a better balance for me. Staying home full-time can be really hard - I have a lot of admiration for SAHMs but I don't think I'd be really happy being home full-time.

twinkletoes815 · November 2011

I'm the same. I really enjoy my job and the people I work with every day. Even if I had the option to be a SAHM, I think I would have to find something to do part-time, but that's me.

hjk5000 · November 2011

leslie13510:
ITeachK:
I SAH, and DH is gone 12 hours a day, so it's just me & the girls. I am def. more exhausted than I am when I only worked. However, I really have to hand it to working moms - I have no idea how you juggle it all. You guys are rockstars!

Pretty much this. I am EXHAUSTED by the end of the day/week/morning sometimes LOL... but it's usually a mental and emotional kind of exhaustion. It's different (not better or worse, just different) than the physical exhaustion of juggling a full-time job, and housework, and parenting, as well as the mental and emotional exhaustion that comes with that.

That said, I definitely have quite a few days where I think that it would be totally worth it to work, even though just about my entire paycheck would go to daycare expenses.

ITA, lol. Right now it's not feasible, but I will definitely be going back to work at some point.

HappyAardvark · November 2011

I'm going to SAH because it doesn't make financial sense for me to go back to work. Sure it might be mentally rewarding to a degree, but daycare would be like a 2nd mortgage, I'd see the baby maybe a couple of hours awake, I would be traveling frequently, and the amount of $$ I'd bring home every month just does not justify the negatives. I'm sad about that but I know it's the right decision. Hopefully when LO is a little older I'll get contract work in my field on a pt basis. That would be ideal.

TheOriginalSP · November 2011

It's not terrible at all. Not everyone wants to be a SAHM or would enjoy being a SAHM. I'll be honest, if I was just at home with Emilia I would hate it. I think having two of them somehow makes it easier. It also helps that I'm involved with MOMS Club. If I was not, I would have gone insane by now. Thankfully I'm able to see my friends often and my kids are able to interact with kids of different ages.

I really wish I could work part time, but that's not an option with DH's schedule.

caffinated_tulip · November 2011

What gets me about being a SAHM is that I have no back up during the day. Plus now that I'm WAH again it's even more difficult, once DH gets home in the afternoon I start working.

But honestly, and I never ever thought I'd say this, I kind of miss working. Even when I was working the lame retail gig at the pet store, at least I was interacting with adults during the day. Between being cut off for so much of my pregnancy and now... I miss people.

magdalina.h · November 2011

I wish I could SAH, but I know that I would not have a good relationship with Lucas. I get frustrated easily and I know that I would get frustrated with Lucas and I don't want that.

tri047 · November 2011

Super late to this, but I have the best of both worlds. I am a teacher and this year I am only working part-time. So I have seen what being a SAHM is like and I know what it's like to be a working mother.

I really like working. I miss Christopher like crazy sometimes, but it keeps me sane. Working part-time is the perfect medium for us.

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